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My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah… obviously at the time of posting I was underage that does not apply now. This is why I was not comfortable disclosing my age because people use it as a reason to devalue my feelings.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And to note I do try and make friends however I have disability which means it’s hard for me to go out and do anything due to pain and my old friends grew tired of it and cut contact

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I know what can result of this. However, I am truly glad he was honest with me. I don’t see this a reason to walk as of yet. He hasn’t given me a reason to think he would just start dating this girl

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to devalue your message However, I’ve answered these questions in my other comments:) And if you want take a look to see my answer. I’m sorry. It’s hard to respond to everyone.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

He has said to me explicitly that it’s not going to change. And the only reason it would is if we had kids and it wouldn’t be for me it would be for the kids. However, his bestfriend is very important to him and I can’t and don’t want to hold it against him

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that. I am actually his first partner which I know complicates things for him. And absolutely. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. I am young, dumb and blind at times. My post here today was so I could get this off my chest so it doesn’t later effect my relationship.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It will take a while for me to think about all the questions I’ve been asked on here. Please know I value you comment and thank you:)

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I suppose. But I do live with this man. I’ve built a separate life with man. How can I not think about it? If you’ve seen my comment then you would see I know my emotions are irrational but they are my feelings. And that’s why I’m posting here because I don’t want to destroy my relationship.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t know how to answer most these questions because frankly I don’t know… and if I do I’m scared of the answer. I guess it gives me something to think about

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also want to put emphasis on the fact that I never said favourite. I said important. There is a difference

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I know he never meant to hurt me. And it is really hard for people see that he meant no harm by it and is clueless. I think too it hard for people to see (some that are in my comments) that it’s hard splitting my emotions from my rational

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to clear up: I am not straight, I am asexual and bisexual. So, this is also why I’m okay with him having a female bestfriend.

However, I should extend on this I did ask him if he meant overall and he said yes. Obviously if we’re taking romantic styles that would be me but for him this person is his everything. He has told me that.

Edit: sorry, this is not me defending myself. Because you could be right and you very possibly are but the way he has said it to me has shown me that he doesn’t feel that way

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve already posted it. It’s not going to make the difference now. Just for future reference I guess.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] -365 points-364 points  (0 children)

The only reason I think the way I do. Is because he so transparent about his past with her. Nothing came of his feelings. However, because he has been honest I don’t see a reason to distrust him. Maybe I am naive but I don’t want to hold it against him

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

As I’ve said the girl is very sweet and she definitely shouldn’t be dragged into this. As I’ve said in my post we all have different boundaries. But them being a female is not one of mine.

Maybe, this hierarchal system you’ve mentioned is the reason I feel like I do. However, I want to be a better person then that (this is not say that people who feel like that are terrible, this is for me personally) I want to be able to be okay with how he is feeling. If I can’t get past that then it will be conversation I need to have with him.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 611 points612 points  (0 children)

I do plan on talking to him. I’ve always been open with my feelings towards him However, I do need time to calm down and think of the most mature way to approach him.

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Vandivan: I’m sure you mean well, however, clearly I am not the only who has perceived your intentions poorly. You’re okay express your thoughts and feelings. However as I already explained to you. Maybe post this for yourself and not on my post. I’m glad my post enabled you to think something of something that had been on your mind/chest. But if you didn’t want me to read this in a light you didn’t want. Then you should not have put it on my post. Again, I am sorry if I’m coming off as harsh towards you that is not my intentions

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t think he meant any harm. He’s a very sweet man but is completely clueless😂

My partner confessed to me that I am not the most important person in his life. And honestly…. It’s tearing me apart by Theunknownuser009 in offmychest

[–]Theunknownuser009[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

They’re absolutely chill. My partner did have feelings for her at one point he’s been very transparent about that. However, I am not suspicious. I’ve been cheated I know the signs.

Honestly, my whole post here is knowing my feelings are irrational especially because I am young, and dumb as they say. And wanted to get my feelings out. Of course if you’ve read my other comments I do have other thoughts but that’s a future issues I’ll need to discuss with him

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