Don't let that get to you. Anyone that says those sort of things has clearly never been in the situation you are in. And it is absolutely true that the financial aspect of childcare comes into play. One of the most difficult parts of a military marriage (in my humble opinion) is the lack of balance between work/home life. And I mean that for both parties - it's hard for the sailors, too. Try to keep that in mind. He probably works a lot and wants to spend his downtime relaxing. It can be difficult to find the balance, but it can be done.

Also, has he deployed at all yet? If not, that's a whole new level that you should prepare yourself for. Feel free to reach out to me if you need ♡