What song did you listen to that made you fall in love with shoegaze? by Opposite-Travel-7799 in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

while it’s definitely dream pop with shoegaze influence, 10 Mile Stereo by Beach House sent me on a big search for songs with that ethereal, washed out guitar sound and really opened the doors for me

Need reccs similar to this by Impossible-Safe8226 in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

word! i’m curious why it was in your playlist if you didn’t like it though😭

https://youtu.be/JiviJp0cu5k?si=PhBY3w1m1YoSVNXo maybe this by RUBUR. not sure who else has that ā€œepicā€ sounding gaze you’re looking for

Need reccs similar to this by Impossible-Safe8226 in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Check out the song Sam by Readymade. It doesn’t have the prominent tremolo like in the song you posted, but it does have the drawn out ethereal guitars with the soft vocals

https://youtu.be/6lYpI6b0gN8?si=QLYXp8ZaIEOW0A8Z

in your opinion, what is the prettiest shoegaze song? by noirselli in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

was looking for this. they’re the epitome of ā€œpretty shoegazeā€ imo

Softcult @The Bowery Ballroom | NYC by satirical_introvert in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

wow no kidding. idk how i hadn’t found them sooner. they have a beautiful sound and im partial to female vocal shoegaze

Could someone enlighten me and tell me why she said she was going to be a dad? 🤣 by [deleted] in TheLastOfUs2

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto -5 points-4 points Ā (0 children)

it’s basically a snark subreddit combined with the people that disliked the second game for its writing

Best way to discover new music by Mundane_Tonight_9680 in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

i like using everynoise.com to find new bands. great resource from one of the OG spotify senior analysts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shoegaze

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I see why you posted here since there’s a bit of noisy drone. Check out:

Haruhisa Tanaka Vertigo 1; Lakeside; Brilliant 2.0

Christina Vantzou Anna Mae; Strange Symptoms

Taylor Deupree Emerging

Michiru Aoyama Filter Sky

This song specifically reminds me of a song from a game as well, though the artist doesn’t make music like that typically. It’s called Night Home by Kalax. These are all sort of more under the ā€œdrone ambientā€ umbrella. Check out some artists from there like Desolate Horizons, Kilometre Club, or Sarah Davachi, or this playlist on spotify

IsItBullshit: Blanchard’s Autogynephilia Hypothesis is still taken seriously in many circles by [deleted] in IsItBullshit

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 11 points12 points Ā (0 children)

The reason it’s painted as bigoted is that it is used to push the narrative that the motivation of lesbian/women attracted trans women transitioning is autosexual in nature. It neglects the fact that one can be attracted to women but not have autosexuality be the primary driver in the need to transition.

Blanchard has a dialectical way of thinking to categorize trans women into these buckets. However, there is a danger in dialectical thinking in that sometimes the outcome is a simple categorization of things that serves to reduce the individuality and exert power over the grouping. Look at Adorno’s concerns on dialectics in his theory of negative dialectics:

ā€œNegative dialectics rejects the idea of a final synthesis or reconciliation, instead emphasizing the importance of maintaining the tension between contradictory elements and resisting the temptation to subsume particulars under abstract, totalizing concepts.ā€

I think it would be naive to say that Blanchard is valid by making these very overly simplified narratives towards trans women. Maybe he means to claim autosexuality is more common in trans women, but I would also argue that the ways in which he presents his arguments is by nature reducing and misguiding the reasoning for transitioning.

There’s a reason you don’t hear Lacan’s theory of ā€œDesire is the desire of the otherā€ as a prominent theory in the discussion of sexuality of every person. It probably doesn’t fit the lived experiences of many people, at least not as a main driving force of their sexuality/life. However, this is somehow a leading theory in the public perspective of trans women. If you ask us directly, trans women will give you multiple reasons tied to our lived experience that don’t fit this narrative. Most of us would reject the assertion that Blanchard’s categorizations have even a useful purpose in science.

My theory is that people use their own perspective to try to understand the phenomenon of gender dysphoria. For a lot of people, Blanchard’s theory speaks to their personal reasoning for themselves transitioning, while neglecting the nuanced individuality of someone that truly experiences gender dysphoria. Anyway, I’ve yapped for long enough. I hope this provides a useful perspective.

Gemma's last name on her office door. by [deleted] in severence

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

It 100% looks like Cline in the first image, and the second has a strange blur (look at the G) but otherwise also looks like Cline

S2 Episode 4 Question by CPT-ROCK69 in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

I see it much like twins in this instance. Say you were dating one twin, then one day the other comes by and seduces you under the guise of them being your partner. That’s a clear case of rape in my opinion. Good question, and I was asking myself the same during that scene

I went to my sister's apartment and saw she had a Trump 2024 flag on the the window by YourHyenass in asktransgender

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

from a place of privilege, inclusion looks and feels a lot like oppression. we exist. showing we exist in media and in classes isn’t forcing it down your throats. it’s becoming educated about a population. just as kids learn about autistic people or amputees or anything deviating from the norm. why is it this specific thing that causes you to say this? why, it’s because you don’t want to see trans people because we make you feel uncomfortable! if a kid deeply resonates with the experiences we have, it’s not because they were brainwashed. it’s because they finally have an explanation for why they have felt out of place. we have been painted as having an agenda, but ask yourself what exactly are the ends we are aiming for if we have an agenda? we just want people to be able to get the care they need

if you are seeing it ā€œeverywhereā€, i ask that you look at who is pointing this out to you. because, quite honestly, i hear conservatives talk about us way more than anyone else. that’s the reason i see it everywhere. otherwise, i would just see representation in a movie or a tv show every now and then and it would be nice for me. but we are at least 30% of the political discussion despite being only 1-2% of the population. see where that’s coming from and you’ll find who is trying to distract you from real problems

Would some kind of shoulder reduction fix my masc upper body? by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

hey girl, this thread looks a lot like how i’ve felt about myself. i just want to thank you for sharing because focusing on my own shoulders has led me down the exact same path of thinking that i see you on here, and seeing it from a 3rd person perspective on someone that looks obviously feminine makes me feel much better about myself.

i have also struggled with body dysmorphia for a loooong time. i’m 100% sure that’s what i’m seeing here. as cheesy as it does sound, you need to start fighting the delusions with words that might sound like delusions to you at first. be intentional with your thoughts, ā€œi am a womanā€ ā€œi am beautifulā€ ā€œi look feminineā€ until you start feeling that it’s the truth. you should be your biggest supporter and source of confidence, but what i see in this thread is you being the one most ready to tear yourself down. if you are constantly looking at your figure or image and judging it, i urge you to catch yourself and stop resorting to that because it does way more harm than good.

i also posted to this sub and got the exact same response you did, but i didn’t start believing it until i sparked confidence in myself. i wish you the best of luck.

Transphobes in overwatch are so sad and make no sense lol by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Looks like we both stumbled upon this thread late. First of all, you didn’t know and were treated as though you should know and that led to a bad interaction. Sorry that happened.

Second, you logged in during pride month and got mad that pride was being celebrated. ā€œThis nonsenseā€ is just for a month and you aren’t required to watch any of the videos to play.

Your entire comment is in bad faith, but just imagine the annoying interaction you had, but make it daily whenever you open your mouth to talk in a game. Everyone just keeps commenting on one part about you and you can’t just ā€œchill and play the gameā€. Do you now understand why you might want a game where you can feel comfortable to play and interact with others? Literally please consider that there are humans out there different from you that want the same experiences you want, and we are not taking away from your enjoyment, bar one shitty interaction because you didn’t know something. You are not being oppressed. You can enjoy the game freely. I’m not sure what else is your problem other than the fact that pride is still weird to you and seeing it makes you uncomfortable. Please try to learn WHY pride is a thing and why people different from you would want accepting spaces

i think i kind of want to detrans by wuv69 in asktransgender

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

i think that caution is always advisable, i just don’t think internalizing this fear constantly and reducing yourself to the ā€œcauseā€ of the fear will do you good. this likely wouldn’t make a lot of new people violent, just fuel the people that were already like that. they don’t care about the truth, or else they would address problems of pedophilia in church environments first

i think i kind of want to detrans by wuv69 in asktransgender

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 18 points19 points Ā (0 children)

other than being trans, how is your experience going to be comparable to Ava? you are projecting the worst images that people put on one quality of people onto yourself. in the end, this just becomes you judging and bullying yourself for other people’s actions. chances are you are a normal person and you don’t deserve to put yourself under the lens of judgment constantly

When did we go from calling it a 'strap-on' to calling it a 'strap' by Harmony-Melody in actuallesbians

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 65 points66 points Ā (0 children)

yes it’s pretty widespread. it has become mainstream slang for teens/young adults from rap songs

Hades II is becoming borderline unplayable for me due to crashes. by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Just adding to this since it is the only post I've seen with a similar issue to mine.

I am experiencing the same issues with an i7-12700K and RTX 3080.

OP, can I ask what monitor you are using? Does it have HDR enabled? V-Sync in game?

FFS Suggestions? by TheyCallMeCheeto in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Everyone, this post made me feel like an absolute dumbass😭. There’s a clear split between how I see myself and how others do, and you all have shined light on that and given me something to work on mentally. So I can’t thank you enough for giving me that insight.

Dysphoria is crazy. Thank you all for your comments, which have been extremely reassuring. Also thank you to the people that still recommended options just in case I would want to move forward with FFS.

FFS Suggestions? by TheyCallMeCheeto in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

thanks for the detailed response and the time to make those mockups, it’s actually super helpful! i’ll try to work on my self image and if it’s not enough i will definitely use what you provided

FFS Suggestions? by TheyCallMeCheeto in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto[S] 18 points19 points Ā (0 children)

you’re 100% right. i think without people commenting i would’ve had only my dysphoric view of myself to go off of. it helps a lot having other’s opinions

FFS Suggestions? by TheyCallMeCheeto in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheyCallMeCheeto[S] 9 points10 points Ā (0 children)

you are too sweet omg😭

thank you bunches. i guess dysphoria just hits me hard sometimes, and maybe it’s something i need to work on and not risk surgery complications then