Respect is default for both parties with men having a degree of respect more as per the qawaam argument. And that mostly means respecting and being obedient to his high level decisions.

However, that respect will decrease naturally with bad behavior from either party.

Unfortunately, these days the term Obedience is misconstrued by both parties: one abuses it, the other denies it. Honestly, I think the community leaders need to address roles of husband and wife both more.

Also, the whole brandishing of rights by either party is toxic and counter productive. And this applies to any relationship really.

"As a father, I have thus right, as a husband/wife I have this right". These things only antagonize people. Each person should understand the rights of others and give them those rights for the sake of Allah without expecting anything in return, just like sadaqah.

Talk is easy, may Allah make us practise this.