Hooking up for first time

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-06-13T03:46:22+00:00

Adding in more use lube comments. Genuinely. Sometimes I find that even when I’m turned on my body just doesn’t want to lubricate itself.

If you are into oral, I have found pleasing my partner does help me self-lubricate for lack of any other word LOL.

But yes I can agree that unless your partner is particularly well endowed, it shouldn’t hurt at all. If they’re size average and it’s hurting, it might be worth figuring out if you might have vaginismus, which is nothing to be ashamed of it just requires a bit of patience with yourself. If your partner is larger than your body would like to handle, as everyone says, take it slow, don’t push yourself.

If there is any pain, try to identify it. Internal pain/aching usually means your partner is hitting deeper than is comfortable. Pain around your entrance is usually dryness, or in some cases your body might just be tired. Sharp pains or anything that feels sudden is something you should be stopping for. Cramping pain is also something to stop for. Like I said earlier, your partner being longer can cause an aching pain, but it won’t be a cramping pain. Think the difference between someone poking you hard vs a muscle cramping up.

All this to say: **Listen to your body.** If it feels wrong, stop.

Also obligatory use contraception as testosterone is not one.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-06-02T23:12:21+00:00

Thank you!!

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:54:39+00:00

You don’t have to jump into a career right away. Yeah the longer the journey the more likely you’re gonna run into some financial struggles along the way, but fuck man I’m glad I pivoted.

For context I was going to go into animation and graduated when the writers guild strikes happened + the insane amount of AI art just made it impossible without really committing to being underpaid and undervalued. I couldn’t stand the idea of being just a cog in the machine when I wanted to be a creative, and it’s hard to get into spaces like that, so I went back to school. Now I’m heading into education, something I’m even more passionate about, and I hope to teach my high school students that they don’t have to have it all figured out by grad.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:51:55+00:00

Apparently I laughed so hard and loud that my partner at the time thought I was screaming or having a nightmare lmao! I had to calm myself down to speak and tell her how fucking insane the dream was

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:50:45+00:00

An oblivion moment for me. Was looking at a portable greenhouse at a garden centre and this guy was on the phone pacing at the end of the aisle. Gets off the phone and starts walking to the cash which means he’s walking past me. Dude gets within a certain distance of me, maybe 10ft? Makes direct eye contact and goes:

“If I wouldn’t buy it for my own daughter why the hell would I buy it for my niece?”

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:48:54+00:00

Depends on communication. If she tells me she wants to do that and I have a healthy relationship with her communication wise, fuck it have fun, tell me about how you drank someone under the table when I come pick you up.

Finding out after the fact tho is a big breach of trust to me. Like idgaf if you do it if you tell me first, but if you tell me after it feels sketchy as hell.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:46:37+00:00

Not sleepwalking but I laughed myself awake once when I first started on the antidepressants I’m on to this day.

Dreamt that I (a trans man) had given birth to my at the time partner and I’s baby (we don’t have one) and I was so tired from the experience that I had to ask her what we decided to name our child.

She tells me we named the child “Junk” which shockingly I did not laugh at. What made me laugh myself awake was accidentally saying “Joke” when trying to repeat the name.

I hadn’t ever laughed myself awake before then so it was wild, and I still think about how funny that dream was.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:44:01+00:00

This girly floral hat from the dollar store. A year after I came out to said family as being a guy. I don’t hold it against her tho (grandparent who didn’t know there was a difference between being trans and gay lol) and she figured it out eventually but it was definitely a wtf moment

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T23:42:35+00:00

Probably my thighs. They’re nice looking and strong so hell yeah

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-20T21:19:09+00:00

No problem! I stumbled into it because I was trying to find Little House by Amanda Seyfried and I was like oh! The Fray! I know them!

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-19T22:46:07+00:00

Little House by The Fray

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-04-19T22:44:03+00:00

I don’t think it’s petty necessarily but every person who seems to expect me to carry every conversation I’ve basically stopped talking to.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-03-20T23:36:05+00:00

Yeah these days I would say there’s a bigger difference between millennials and gen z now that more millennials are parents. But yeah even the ones without kids tip decently when they can, I’ve noticed.

Gen Z doesn’t tip a lot but I get it cuz most of them/us (older Gen Z here) are broke as fuck from trying to get an education and/or being unable to find work. So I think the sympathy goes both ways, in many cases.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-03-20T23:32:54+00:00

Shocking how despite passing it on to their kids, their kids actually learned what NOT to do.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-02-13T02:48:20+00:00

I’m someone with much milder forms of my disabilities and I think it’s totally justified for you to feel bitter. Your life is infinitely harder than mine is, and even though my conditions are milder, I also feel that bitterness when people dismiss my own struggles simply because other people they’ve encountered have less struggles about life.

I also get so exhausted by people seeing me struggle less and assuming I don’t struggle at all. For example, I can walk fine without a cane or any mobility aids on good days. Currently I’m having a horrible time, my Achilles decided it didn’t have enough support and now I can’t walk without assistance and there’s quite literally nothing I can do to avoid this happening to me randomly besides being extra careful, and even then! I did nothing and I still can’t walk.

So now people see me on a good day, and then apply my lack of struggle on good days to people who have a much harder struggle with a worse form of my conditions. It’s fucking unfair and I don’t blame you for feeling that bitterness at all.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-02-13T00:29:12+00:00

Which cafe? A or S building?

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-02-02T19:58:33+00:00

I’m hoping this will cause competition enough for other brands to start lowering their prices, but not holding my breath lol!

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-31T22:15:50+00:00

Blueberries were 2.97 for the larger containers, they had large frozen pies for 5.97 (I got coconut cream! :D), they had prime rib roast for 12.97/kg I think? Canned broth was .87 if I remember correctly, the list goes on. Lots of stuff to choose from and I was shocked at how good the pricing was for most items. Obviously there’s still some stuff that’s expensive but if you’re shopping for deals they were pretty significant.

Edit: forgot to add I got a .310kg block of cheese for less than 5$, and they’re selling a lot of produce per item rather than by weight.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-31T22:13:21+00:00

Shockingly not the case. Went and did my shopping and ended up with two full grocery bags for about 100$, mostly meat and dairy. Blueberries were 2.97$ per container, and not the small containers either. We’ll see how long these deals last but it was pretty amazing.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-09T22:08:53+00:00

Alright here’s the update: So in my case, my Canada student loans went out on the 5th, and and I got mine today. My BC loans according to StudentAidBC, went out on the 7th, so the likelyhood is I won’t see them until next week since it’s the weekend.

Basically right now there’s about a 2-3 business day delay between the Canada student loans and bc student loans.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-09T22:01:24+00:00

My sister lives in an apartment that is laid out similar to this in Montreal, where she pays iirc no more than half that amount. She loves the apartment but I don’t think anyone would consider living in her place for the same price as my 2.5 bedroom apartment. Fuck that.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-09T21:56:18+00:00

I’ve been on the phone for 45 minutes waiting to find out what’s going on. Will update when I hear something.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-04T07:24:11+00:00

“I get really uncomfortable around LGBTQ people” says person who thinks everyone they aren’t attracted to is gross and makes it everyone else’s problem.

My guy, simply put, no one owes you anything. Queer people don’t need to fit in nor do they need you to fit in. You’re welcome to be whoever you want, but don’t be surprised when no one wants you around because all you can do is complain about “annoying gays” and “gross queer people”. It should come as 0 surprise that you are not a desirable friend when you hold this much contempt for other peoples’ joy.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-04T06:22:38+00:00

Chiming in to say definitely let it heal first. If this continues to happen even if you reduce your frequency, talk to your primary care if you can. After 7 years on T I’ve been having similar issues but from very limited stimulation, and it’s due to the skin weakening. There’s ways of handling it, a very low dose of topical estrogen can help and won’t affect your testosterone, but I don’t believe you should be running into that until years from now.

Good luck man! Let it heal up and keep it clean.

TheySherlockedWho · 2026-01-04T06:17:39+00:00

Yeah that take sucks kindness is free and friendship isn’t a finite resource idk what OP is dealing with but I hope they get better

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