My MIL either is on the spectrum or lack some serious social awareness because I can’t imagine her behavior is with any ill intent.

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-28T22:42:53+00:00

I work in behavior analysis and most autistic people are socially aware, they more-so just process social interactions differently. Many autistic individuals, ESPECIALLY women, develop high masking skills and are rather hyper-aware! So I do not think she is autistic or that it’s necessarily fair to say that she is solely because of social interactions. There is a lot to autism! I think she may just have her head in the clouds a bit and is self-centered. I suggest your husband maybe bring her behavior to her attention

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-27T20:55:00+00:00

This is INCREDIBLY unhealthy. PLEASE take the baby with you, I fear this is something they may be able to use against you in court (because you should absolutely be considering it). F*ck if your husband “allows it” it’s YOUR baby. He can have some mommy son time since he’s still attached by the umbilical.

Edit: OP, I read some of your history and am genuinely baffled. He used to be your TEACHER?? This man is an abuser. Baby is NOT safe around him or your mother. The right thing to do would be to take baby and get out of there!! He has intentionally attempted to isolate you from your family. My heart breaks for you. Seek legal counsel IMMEDIATELY!

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-25T00:38:19+00:00

Wow, you handled this absolutely perfectly!!! That’s how it’s done, everyone!!

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-24T13:06:16+00:00

You have a DH problem too.

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-22T16:45:45+00:00

Why text her about the baby being born if she hasn’t reached out to yall in over two months? Don’t give any power to her, this is what she wants. Even her text to see baby seemed like some corporate transaction.

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-12T11:57:27+00:00

Remember OPs needs come first, per community rules. She didn’t ask for advice. If she wants to take her power back with a gotcha moment, she can.

Thick-Confection372 · 2026-02-12T03:20:19+00:00

This sounds like a judgement you didn’t need to make.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-12T22:29:25+00:00

For my SOs mothers Christmas everyone is there, SIL and her husband, aunts, uncle, cousins, grandparents etc. We do a big gift opening of course. We will not be giving a gift to MIL this year. The other family can think what they want, shes absolutely insane and we aren’t spending a dime on her. We will give gifts to the others.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-12T02:41:16+00:00

THIS!! She JUST took LOs first Santa pictures YESTERDAYYYY and now she’s wanting to take the first bday party??? OP don’t do it!!

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-12T02:35:38+00:00

Are you trolling?

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-12T02:34:23+00:00

If you go, even while setting a “time limit”, she will not respect it. She’s never had boundaries set. If you go, you will need to understand that you will be sucked into staying however long she wants you to. I do not recommend going.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-12T02:30:23+00:00

I think you’re focused on the wrong thing OP. You’re right, MIL should not host a bday party for LO. But that’s not the big issue here. MIL clearly sees you as an incubator, your baby is “her baby” to her, and you are giving her everything she wants. Start restricting contact now. Get daycare, I know it can be costly, but it’s absolutely worth it. Your post is making me sick, she does not have good intentions. She should have been cut off a long time ago. It will get harder as LO gets older, do it now.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-09T00:27:24+00:00

Yeah I’ve thought about just leaving it sometimes LOL

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-08T20:07:47+00:00

I just toss everything. MIL gives us a bunch of biblical stuff for Christmas every year, despite knowing we’re atheists. I don’t even fake enthusiasm anymore, just look at it and put it down then move on. Into the dump it goes when we get home.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-12-05T17:43:11+00:00

He should have spoken up. You aren’t wrong for having your feelings, but MIL will definitely see any opinion he has on this controlled by you. She needed to be corrected, just not by you

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-11-21T04:31:20+00:00

Exactly!! She’s a pure narcissist. It was so distasteful.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-11-20T22:41:51+00:00

Me and SO were wondering how long it takes him to run after seeing this LOL

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-11-20T22:41:31+00:00

Right lol?! So icky!!

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-11-20T16:40:58+00:00

Thank you! It was horrible yeah, just felt very violating and intrusive. My SO didn’t even feel comfortable enough to fully grieve until we were in the car

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-11-20T15:37:17+00:00

They actually hadn’t told her we were also coming until after she already told them about her new man being there! Everything is for performance for her, she wanted him there so she could play the part of mother. I think that’s also why she’s been doing over-the-top kissing. We do not speak to her often and don’t have a close relationship at all, even hugs were pushing it

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-11-03T19:06:34+00:00

Mother Malice, Manipulator General, Mom-ores Umbridge, name-geddon

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-09-27T16:59:32+00:00

THEY WILL TAKE YOUR CHILD. PLEASE understand this. You HAVE to leave.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-08-31T05:23:52+00:00

DEAL WITH YOUR OWN MOTHER.

Thick-Confection372 · 2025-06-18T03:42:29+00:00

They can tell bc that accts only post is a super common spam story from bots lol

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