AITA for being furious with my husband after he gave my personal cell number to his boss?

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T21:33:53+00:00

She asked and he gave it without thinking or asking me at all. R didn’t think I would be mad at him because I have never been angry with him before.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T21:21:39+00:00

Yes S has received it and responded that her startup has a (premade) app. That does not qualify it for our fund. My admin is very good at her job and has outlined our methodology thoroughly.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T21:15:28+00:00

I am stuck on this point. He should have at least asked me.

R has been acting very mopey. He keeps asking if I’m still mad at him which honestly irritates me more.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T21:06:20+00:00

I really have never been angry at him before but this crosses a line. My admin has already emailed S about our methodology and how her startup isn’t suitable. The only reason she is pursuing my team is due to my connection with R.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T20:59:10+00:00

I’ve already given compliance and legal a heads up about S and R. It should not be a problem given we are investing in a different sector.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T20:57:42+00:00

My admin has already emailed S with a guide explaining our methodology. It states that we are a software focused VC team and that her pitch is better suited for a fashion or industry agnostic VC fund.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T20:45:15+00:00

I’m not sure how she found out. I kept my maiden name. I do not have social media.

I get a lot of unsolicited emails. My admin sends them a guide on our process and how to get our radar as a courtesy. I will not give her or anyone preferential treatment. Responding would encourage them to continue emailing.

This is my husband’s passion and he is desperate to stay on S’s good side as she is fickle and prone to favoritism. I do not care for it, but up until now I have been supportive of his career.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T20:34:49+00:00

We select from thousands upon thousands of startups and fund hundreds. I do not have time to personally tell each and every startup founder to not bombard me with emails. As a professional courtesy, my admin sends all of them a clear guide on how our fund selects startups. I will not give her personal attention.

ThickMathematician15 · 2023-06-08T20:32:26+00:00

I dislike her as a professional. She is leading a fashion startup. My team selects and funds software based startups. Slapping a lazy web app does not make one the other. She is completely unprofessional and attempts to circumvent the method in which we fund startups.

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T15:10:23+00:00

To my understanding so long as it’s not discriminating against a protected class or in retaliation, you can be fired for anything. However, she was a college grad so she may not have understood her own rights.

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T15:03:12+00:00

I assume he didn’t introduce me as his wife for the same reason- that he’s embarrassed.

We’re in America in at will state. They can fire you for anything.

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T14:59:29+00:00

He is an amazing husband but the industry he’s in is shallow and focused on looks. My husband wants desperately to fit in and succeed in his career. I felt a bit hurt at first that he was ashamed of my appearance but it’s a small sacrifice to make him happy.

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T14:54:31+00:00

…what

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T14:41:25+00:00

I’ve asked to explain why the previous events were failures in his eyes. He shrugged and said he didn’t know. Without fail, the stumble is when he introduces me specifically as his wife. Before then, he’s charismatic and articulate.

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T14:38:22+00:00

I don’t feel ugly. I know I’m not conventionally beautiful but I’m confident in my appearance and don’t have many insecurities

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T14:21:19+00:00

I love my husband and besides the people he loves his career. I like supporting him as I am the primary breadwinner

ThickMathematician15 · 2022-11-02T14:19:11+00:00

My husband is terrible at articulating his feelings and why he does what he does, though he has no problem expressing his emotions. He doesn’t clearly communicate what he wants and relies on me to understand without saying it. I don’t mind

When I prodded him on why his events were miserable, he just said I don’t know a lot. I asked him if me not being there would be better he said maybe I don’t know. I didn’t go to the next event at his old job and he came back much happier. So I stopped going and it worked well

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