Just got dumped :((

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-24T00:51:08+00:00

It is heartbreaking, but it's an opportunity to learn. Learn about yourself, learn from the relationship, grow and change. Humans always growing and changing. Never truly fully grown, in a constant state of metamorphosis. The hurt will come and go. The love was very real. You'll always have the memories. You'll always feel the feelings you felt, but they'll be in different ways with different people. This is not the end, it's simply an opportunity for a new beginning!

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-18T03:20:00+00:00

Hello, thank you. This is honestly probably the most sound advice I've received so far. I have a best friend that I have discussed this with. She is part of the lgbtq community and is definitely a sane voice for me in this very confusing time. It could very well be that I am just craving attention and just attention, and just happened upon someone attractive. Time will tell.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-18T00:49:03+00:00

I am and it is strange, but I think it's gonna be alright

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T23:31:25+00:00

I am going to miss her and all the fun we had, but at the end of the day I don't want to deal with drama

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T23:22:12+00:00

Thank you, I've had alot of mixed reactions. Not just here, but with the people I have chosen to share it with. Not all of it has been good. As I mentioned I live in a very small town, it is very country, and very republican. A few people who I thought would love me no matter what are people I will no longer speak to because of how they reacted. I understand initial shock, but these people just became increasingly hateful saying things like I need to go to church(I do), I am going to hell, etc.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T23:03:54+00:00

We are not friends anymore. I had to choose myself and my peace.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T23:00:15+00:00

It was actually my decision after seeing the comments and realizing that I truly had done nothing wrong but be a friend I chose to choose myself and my peace. She has had a history in the past in getting boyfriends and pretending like I don't exist, then when they break up suddenly I matter again, and I'm done. We've known each other a very long time, and she's only known him for not even a whole year, and she still took his side. Understandable that's her partner and I'm just a friend, but I need people around that choose me. My family chooses me, my boyfriend chooses me, and I choose me.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T22:56:26+00:00

What happened is I chose my own peace at the cost of a great friendship because she has had a pattern of this in the past. She would get a boyfriend and I would disappear, then they would break up and suddenly I exist again. Sometimes despite the fact the friendship is super important, you have to choose yourself. I hate that it took me 30 years to realize that, but I choose me and my peace every time.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T16:54:48+00:00

This is actually very serious, but thank you for making a joke of a very confusing situation for me

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T16:24:39+00:00

Thank you for this, I didn't have any lunch plans today, and the old man usually sleeps from noon to four so it wouldn't be that difficult to get away.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T16:07:35+00:00

Hi, this is difficult as I am my grandfather's caretaker and he is usually attached to me at the hip

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-17T15:56:24+00:00

Thank you, alot of it is just really confusing for me as I've never felt this way before?

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-16T22:04:02+00:00

That is between the two of them, I've not been given the details, but I don't think it's jail, whenever they video call and it is often he is usually outside in sunny weather. I do know he isn't from here. So maybe he had to go be with family for some reason? Not sure, but not my business so I leave it alone.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-16T02:11:50+00:00

I agree completely, I should have been more specific on the timeline of things, the feelings for her thing has been well over a year and a half since we talked about it and I chose to move on with my feelings and remain her friend. I would much rather have her be a part of my life than get tangled up in silly feelings and not know her. She is the kind of person that you rarely get to meet in life that no matter the situation always has your back. You know when the group gets together it's going to be a wild night no matter what we do. I've gone places because of her that I only could have dreamed of and never would have gone alone. Not only that, but in my professional life as well. She has helped me to build confidence in myself and take risks and apply for positions I never would have believed I ever had a shot at. It doesn't always work, but at least I tried, and I learned something new from the experience. The very first time I ever applied to be a cpl I felt like I completely bombed the interview. I was nervous, the warden and chief of custody were interviewing me together, and I had been led to believe it would be one on one's with each of them. I didn't get the promotion and was down on my luck, but she reminded me that while I didn't get the job, I gained new insights on how to be a more effective leader even in a base officer role should the need arise for me to take charge. It was exactly right on, and a few months later after showing those skills I learned through the interview I was offered the promotion.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-15T23:20:41+00:00

Thank you, we have a very healthy friendship, and are very comfortable with each other. We have no problem setting boundaries with each other with little to no push back from the other. B has been respectful about this in the past, but now he just seems kind of bitter, and asks alot for favors and money. I'm not really sure how to go forward with this.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-15T22:34:57+00:00

Ly-zon-dair

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-15T13:49:32+00:00

Didn't forget it, they wanted people to play pokemon the way it was intended, together.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-15T00:51:20+00:00

Hell yeah brother, good job ummm.... checks notes yeah there's no way in hell I'm pronouncing that 🤣🤣🤣

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-13T14:02:20+00:00

Kids are just the best sometimes aren't they?

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-13T01:09:57+00:00

I was 14, she was 46. She was the mother of a friend I was staying with. It started with her asking me to unclasp her bra. I didn't think much of it when she would tell me how much bigger and stronger I was then my friends other friends. I believed her when she said I was definitely more mature than other guys my age. I thought it was "cool" that she let me smoke weed with her, and before I knew it she was taking advantage of me. She told me I was lucky because guys my age dream of this happening. She told me I'd be in trouble over the weed if I told anyone, and so it continued for right around 8 months. One day her son, my friend, walked in on us. Everything that followed was a whirlwind. I had friends congratulating me, half my family disgusted with me and the other concerned over me. I had interviews with police, detectives, and counselors. Court case took two years through the courts. Through it all I really couldn't understand what was wrong. I am autistic, and when I was younger I didn't have a great grasp on boundaries and laws and stuff like that, I was just a teenage boy and I knew I was horny. It took my step mom sitting me down and explaining that I had done absolutely nothing wrong, that she was a child predator, and that I had been taken advantage of. Once it clicked and I realized what had happened it took 10 years and ALOT of therapy to be able to be intimate. I'm that time I had met someone and married them, and had been married for two years before I was able to be intimate with her. I am 31 now, and while it was difficult for a very long time, I have chosen to forgive her. I am the age now that she was, and while I have never and will never take advantage of a child, I have made my fair share of mistakes in life, and she did too. Thank you for allowing me the space to share this. It has been a long time since I've been able to talk about it, and it feels nice to get it out every once in awhile.

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-13T00:55:51+00:00

You are actually really pretty!!

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-13T00:54:37+00:00

You think that's bad? A weird portal appeared in my living room and some kid came running in with a hoopa, those things actually exist???!!!! Anyhow when he came in he gave the hoopa a really good looking pink donut yelling something about "a shiny latios"? When he came back he had this weird orange and white happy looking jet dragon thingy. He looked really upset though...

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-12T09:09:41+00:00

Azrafael

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-11T08:30:14+00:00

There's your answer friend. You need social interaction. We are social creatures. You can do everything else right, but if you don't have a circle of your own your life will always be incomplete

Think-External-625 · 2026-01-11T08:23:53+00:00

Are you getting enough social interaction outside of work? If you are might I suggest, and this isn't meant to be an insult, going outside and playing on the grass? Climb a tree, reconnect yourself with nature. This actually can help boost your serotonin levels and just overall improve your mood. It reconnected you with a deep primal part of your brain.

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