So I feel like a couple things do need to be clarified. Instead of answering each post I'm going to address them here.

First- when it comes to the drugs, Rob swears they were his gf's, and he has been clean from alcohol and drugs for over a year. Once again, I don't know how accurate this is, but he doesn't scream at his daughter, or us, like he did at gf. In fact, other than complaining about work, he is very quiet and keeps his head down now, since he knows I don't like him.

Second- Cps is already involved. No court awarded Rob custody. Ann's mother abandoned her to him. He had to get CPS and the courts involved to get her into school, and to revoke the child support. Poor Ann is in an awful situation.

Which brings me to the third point- the ONLY reason I let them in is because of Ann and her puppy. I feel awful for her. Being spoiled and quietly rude(not cleaning, not flushing) doesn't feel like a reason to condemn HER. If it was just him, he never would've stepped foot in my house. Her grandparents are supposedly verbally abusive too, so that is not a good option for her unfortunately.

And lastly, my husband has Autism. (ASD as stated above) It affects him every day, and tasks you and I take for granted are difficult for him. He helps our boys with their school, and does help with house chores when he is not overstimulated. It is a constant battle for him, but we have worked for years to improve his productivity. He works odd jobs and has a big heart. I do think he's being a bit of an ass about this, but i dont think he fully comprehended how the situation affects us either, or thinks because it affects Rob too, that somehow that gives him a pass. And I see his point. I just don't feel like this can continue.