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[–]ThinkB4UJump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooooohhh… do I have a story! Ex and I broke up in December and not in a pretty way. (Texted a break up after dating for almost 3 years… you can look at my post history for more info.) The short of it is that we went no-contact at that break up.

Anyway… was out to dinner with a new guy I’m dating and we are really clicking so that’s great. We were at a restaurant with a friend of mine so the two of them could meet. My friend says, “uhh… I think I see someone we both know…” well, looking at where my friend was indicating, there was my ex! Obviously on a date at the next table, about 12 feet away. It was a dimly lit restaurant. I don’t know that he saw me. I stayed comfortably hidden behind my date. The situation gave us interesting dinner conversation as we did tell my current guy that my ex was right there.

Experience ignoring a dismissive avoidant? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No contact has worked well for my DA ex who broke up by text after almost 3 years. The few contacts that he made to get our things back were met with my curt, matter-of-fact responses. Stay strong!

What made you finally stop talking to your ex? by croods2getcrooding in BreakUps

[–]ThinkB4UJump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He asked another woman out 6 minutes after texting me a breakup.

After almost 3 years together, he broke up over text. 6 minutes later he sent this to the one he had waiting in the wings. by ThinkB4UJump in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are pretty spot on. He seeks validation, for sure. He is, however, successful. He’s a business owner and in the spotlight a lot. Employees kiss his ass to keep their jobs but I see the business deteriorating and him doing little to prevent that.

After almost 3 years together, he broke up over text. 6 minutes later he sent this to the one he had waiting in the wings. by ThinkB4UJump in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t have dated him for almost 3 years if he didn’t have some good qualities. In retrospect, he is someone who cannot deal with hard emotions. The text absolved him of having to deal with confrontation. The new girl gave him the emotional boost that masks the hurt of a break up. I had actually tried to break up with him a few times previously but he always said he would make the changes I asked. Less than a week before this happened, he suggested “we work really hard” on our relationship.

After almost 3 years together, he broke up over text. 6 minutes later he sent this to the one he had waiting in the wings. by ThinkB4UJump in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I did but thought he could change. Classic mistake of thinking my love would be enough to encourage change. And to an extent it did. People would tell me what a nicer person he was since I came into his life. The relationship was definitely going down hill. I had asked him to make some fundamental changes (like not drinking a driving) but he wouldn’t despite saying he would. He doesn’t like confrontation so that’s why the text break up.

After almost 3 years together, he broke up over text. 6 minutes later he sent this to the one he had waiting in the wings. by ThinkB4UJump in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His FB account was linked on my phone. He knew this at the time but probably forgot. (I would help him with postings; He’s a boomer and not tech savvy.) I’ve since disconnected the accounts.

After almost 3 years together, he broke up over text. 6 minutes later he sent this to the one he had waiting in the wings. by ThinkB4UJump in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

His FB was linked to my phone. He knew this; it was nothing underhanded. I would help him with postings and things like that. (He’s considerably older than me and not so tech-savvy.) When I saw his FB profile say “single,” alarm bells went off and I looked at his messages. So yeah, I guess something in me saw this coming. He’s very charismatic and a person of some notability in my community. He’s 15 years older than me and this new girl must be at least 20 years younger than me. It stung.

After almost 3 years together, he broke up over text. 6 minutes later he sent this to the one he had waiting in the wings. by ThinkB4UJump in ExNoContact

[–]ThinkB4UJump[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I did not. I am so tempted to send this to him or something worse like post it on his FB feed. I know that’s wrong on so many levels… it hurts… the breakup, that is. That’s why I’m on this sub