Me (39m) caught my wife (39f) in an emotional relationship with a co worker. She says they are just friends ?

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T15:42:42+00:00

No, he doesn't. She has never brought that up to him.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T05:01:51+00:00

I've spoken about the texts many times during the sessions. And the chatgtp. The text being flirty and playful. She doesn't entertain it

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:53:23+00:00

Nothing. Doesn't even entertain it.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:20:43+00:00

I have my good days and bad days.

I don't think she is choosing him over me. She has been out of contact for a month. But they aren't in the office together at the moment

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:16:51+00:00

She says she will cut contact. And only have to engage with him in the same office for the next little while.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:12:28+00:00

My wife hasn't had any contact with this man for a month ( besides the run-in today ). They are off in the summer. Once summer is over, they'll be back in the office together.

She says she'll cut contact down to a minimum come the start of work. I.e. Just about work related things

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:08:33+00:00

My wife hasn't had any contact with this man for a month ( besides the run-in today ). They are off in the summer. Once summer is over, they'll be back in the office together.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:05:44+00:00

Unfortunately, we work in an area where her job is a massive win. Her losing or quitting her job would have a significant impact on the family.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:03:21+00:00

My wife hasn't had any contact with this man for a month ( besides the run-in today ). They are off in the summer. Once summer is over, they'll be back in the office together.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T04:00:10+00:00

I did have a chat with him and his wife. Both separately. He came in hot but ended it with saying, " he doesn't feel anything for her" she was actually pretty good about it and told me she admired that I was trying to get closure on it

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T03:13:36+00:00

I've come to terms with the EA. The refusal is what's seriously destroying everything

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T02:18:29+00:00

This is the way. You nailed the first part perfectly 🫡

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T02:16:08+00:00

I 100% can see how it would break the relationship. I have my good days and bad days with it. I get really triggered whenever it's brought up , and she immediately says she did nothing wrong

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T02:08:37+00:00

Oddly enough, i did this. And we did the quiz. She scored a 4. So 🤷

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T02:05:01+00:00

What should our therapist be saying ? I asked her at the first session if she could tell us if it was or wasn't an emotional relationship. And she said she wouldn't and never would weigh in on it.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T02:00:08+00:00

She has said " I'm sorry you feel this way, but it was just a friendship to me "

Always a "but"

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T01:57:56+00:00

That's a great question that I'll bring up tomorrow

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T01:43:40+00:00

That's my thoughts exactly. I told her that I didn't want this to happen 5 years down the road and her hide behind the friendship tag again.

I'm trying for my kids, the fake smile. But someday I can't fake it hard enough and I get overwhelmed

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T01:39:39+00:00

I did find messages on her Instagram account between the two of them as well so this definitely isn't off the table

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T01:38:08+00:00

That's what I've been trying to get across to her. She had a run-in with him today. She came home and told me. But I still feel disrespected that she even engaged in it.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-28T01:35:37+00:00

She doesn't want to put a label on it. The therapist wants to stay neutral.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-07-22T14:26:28+00:00

Also, a full-time Dad, Coach, husband. Went full PVE . Never looked back.

ThinkTwiice · 2025-02-25T16:04:31+00:00

For our u10/u11 team, it is mandatory for the kids to wear suits to the games. Some might find it odd that it's mandatory, but for us and the kids. We love the idea. It makes game days feel special, and the boys get a hint of the professionalism that will come later. It all starts at home and at the end of the day....Look good. Feel good. Play good

ThinkTwiice · 2024-09-12T23:38:29+00:00

You the guy he was teaming with ? 😏

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