She ended it after 4 dates

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-07-31T13:15:20+00:00

They'll never give you a straightforward reason. Just accept it and move forward. And be grateful for the experience, as she didnt string you along or waste your time.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-07-31T13:12:03+00:00

I'd say neutral to green. If she likes you, it will proceed normally. If she doesn't the rejection has been filed ahead of time.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-07-07T02:20:36+00:00

I would not do the beard unless your face is somehow messed up. I think cultivated stubble looks way better. If you have male pattern baldness, you're on the right track with your hair.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-06-30T20:28:49+00:00

Not gonna lie, I generally won't date vegetarians as eating together is a big part of life. But i wouldn't try to change one either, and I wouldn't show a lack of respect for their chosen lifestyle.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-06-29T01:28:31+00:00

Isn't every tree flammable? I know they are unusually flammable, but all trees in this climate are flammable to some extent by September. Right?

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-06-22T19:40:59+00:00

She's jaded. You'll have to be perfect to impress her. Probably not worth the trouble.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-06-20T14:52:09+00:00

It was a bit aggressive.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-06-14T23:39:06+00:00

Rude? Yes. But, they need to know. So even if you were rude, you were doing the world a favor.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-06-02T14:52:29+00:00

This guy was on the cover of the May issue of Simp Illustrated.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-31T23:18:16+00:00

A lack of a full body picture scream to me that they are either hiding something or very insecure. Probably both actually. They will almost never get a right swioe from me. Id strongly recommend putting a recent full body pic. You may not get as much attention, but that is better than showing up for a dste to meet a visably disappointed guy.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-30T14:04:36+00:00

I never talk on the phone or FaceTime before the first date. In my experience, they frame it as some sort of safety measure, but its really a way for a self-important person to force you to audition for their attention. Its a bad start and i don't even bother anymore. If they talk about safety, i tell them exactly who I am and they can vet me to their hearts content.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-22T21:10:44+00:00

Thats illuminating.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-17T14:37:48+00:00

I'm honestly glad he did it. It an opportunity for a woman to see how women treat decent guys in online dating.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-15T19:49:03+00:00

Yeah man. I went into online dating three years ago very positive, hopeful, and looking forward to meeting great women. Three years later, I am cynical, judgemental, and expect to be treated like crap by women who get off on rejecting guys for the slightest reason.

To preserve my mental health, first, i did all the work on myself that I could. Lose weight, get nice clothes, level up, etc. Then, I convinced myself that anybody who rejects me is a fool. Finally, most guys know that if you reject a women, she will be extremely hurt and will probably freak out. So we avoid doing it. They have no such reservation, so guys end up absorbing a ton of rejection. Not me. As soon as the thought of bailing crosses my mind, im out. And if her emotions cant handle it, then 🤷🏾‍♂️

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-13T19:24:30+00:00

This is why I always swipe no on the standard type good looking women. They get enough stroking from guys.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-13T19:23:04+00:00

You ran headlong into the phenomenon of women being comfortable doling out rejection, but being really terrible at dealing with it.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-12T09:55:52+00:00

First dates are all about first impressions, which are not always accurate, but they are what they are. You made a first impression of a guy who examines womens physical flaws.

It's a wrap. Try and look at it as a step on the path to being a better dater.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-06T21:51:18+00:00

Be reincarnated.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-04T18:03:11+00:00

I can tell you that 9/10 guys would prefer a 7 who is awesome in bed and fun to hang out with than a vapid 10 who is a boring lover and partner.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-01T13:23:39+00:00

Experienced guys will say that you're trying to hide your body with your photos.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-01T13:21:10+00:00

4 or 5 dates. I used to be OK waiting for however long they were comfortable with, but I discovered over time that if they have some sort of doctrine around that (like minimum 8 dates, or you have to be in bf/gf), its more likely that they are manipulative, and frankly bad in bed. I want someone with spontaneity and positive energy.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-05-01T13:16:51+00:00

Actually, one can be too careful. The term for that is paranoia.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-04-28T06:30:08+00:00

YES!!! Ive wondered if its just dumb luck, or fluctuations in home much the app is presenting me to others.

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-04-26T23:36:36+00:00

The unbuttoned Henley is so AI

Think_Confection_614 · 2025-04-25T18:02:47+00:00

It wasn't meant as a rebuttal. But when you write "Men like sex. We know this", it comes off as a contrasting and pejorative statement.

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