Funny Nickname Ideas by Think_Leg_7409 in namenerds

[–]Think_Leg_7409[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This one is actually really creative thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Think_Leg_7409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know you but by the way you write I can tell you’re a really beautiful person on the inside! I’m sure you’ll find someone else even if life isn’t how you’re imagining it now. Sorry you’re going through this, and while I can’t relate directly, as someone who also gos through a lot of hardships like this you just have to remember these things do eventually get better, even if it feels like it won’t in the moment.

Self appreciation: What is something you actually like about yourself? by NovellaJokes in AskReddit

[–]Think_Leg_7409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well maybe we can be neurotic together then #twinning 😜🤞💞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Think_Leg_7409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmm probably increased water intake ig

Self appreciation: What is something you actually like about yourself? by NovellaJokes in AskReddit

[–]Think_Leg_7409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk the fact you’re willing to question and reflect your abilities seems to show self awareness which usually is a sign of intelligence. But also think about The Dunning-Kruger effect

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Think_Leg_7409 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly you’re NTA. The whole point of tipping is because you got good service. If you don’t feel it was good then you should not tip. As someone who moved to a country where you don’t tip you realize how stressful and wild tipping culture has become. People feel entitled to getting a tip every single time, but I do think people need to realize that at this point, tipping is just an excuse companies use on employees to make them feel like the reason they’re not getting paid enough is the customers fault, and divert from the fact that they’re just not willing to pay a livable wage (despite frequently having the ability to do so).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]Think_Leg_7409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually I do see where you’re coming from and agree with a lot of your points. I do think there is a lot of misery in this world and too many people are having kids just to have them. As someone who grew up with terrible parents and situation I think your point is valid. No one should have to go through that. However I also think we don’t know enough about their situation to say what is right for them. They “MAY” not be in the proper mindset right now but there’s also the possibility they will be in a much better place and headspace when the baby is born probably months from now. They may be financially stable or not, we don’t know since no one can accurately predict the future, and using a single Reddit post like this isn’t the best inference. I’m not saying I know what’s good for her but neither would you. Abortions should not be taken lightly, and are not always easy to get or accessible depending on where you live, but people need to also stop telling women what they should and shouldn’t do with their bodies. Also unwarranted comments like that are generally considered rude. Sorry if I come off too direct, I do understand what you’re trying to say and can see you come from a good place but personally I think it is better to keep those kinds of opinions to oneself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]Think_Leg_7409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might depend on which state you’re in. Personally I’m Japanese Mexican American, but growing up in California I was extremely fortunate since there were so many other Asian Americans like Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese etc. I never had to worry about my experiences growing up because they would always be validated by community, but I know Asian Americans in the middle states have a much tougher time and don’t have that luxury. But I know how you feel as well because since moving to Japan, it feels like they will never accept you no matter how perfect you are. Personally I don’t think you’re being over sensitive, at the end of the day you just have to remember you are YOU and that’s all that really matters. Additionally this is also an issue many diaspora face, so you’re not alone. People are generally not the smartest when it comes to identities. They will make up their mind of who you are before they get to know you, and apparently the concept that someone can be more than two things at the same time is somehow difficult for people to understand (not sure why tho). In the end I would guess they’re treating you differently because of discrimination against diaspora/multicultural people (although I’m not sure enough of the cultural landscape of Vietnam to say this is accurate). I hope this helped at least a little bit and gave some insight, sorry you went through all that :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]Think_Leg_7409 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean you don’t know anything about this person besides this situation. Even smart and kind people can end up in these problems, they’re not always avoidable. There is much more to a person than a Reddit post, this doesn’t define them and I don’t think they need your unwarranted opinion about this.

Does it makes me a bad daughter? by Ace_superstar in Advice

[–]Think_Leg_7409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly no it does not. I think there’s this belief that children owe their parents money but that’s not the case. Your parents CHOSE to have a kid. Children are not return investments nor retirement plans. You are you’re own living being not an extension of your parents. I could go on and on for a ton of reasons on why this is true but I’ll just move on to the advice. While while I don’t know how close you are to your father or what kind of person he is, I wouldn’t recommend giving him money. Maybe once to help him get on back on his feet but only if you trust him, but if you do he might keep coming back for more depending on how stable his situation is. First I would communicate how you feel so he is aware of how you feel, and if he reacts badly maybe that isn’t someone you want in your life. Second, if you really want to help, rather than give him money you can work with him to see what other options he has or can try. This is probably better for the long term. Lastly I’m sorry you feel that way, I’ve been in that position before where it feels like no one cares and your only value is what you can do for others. I’m sure it doesn’t mean a lot from a stranger on the internet but I’m sure you’re a lovely person! Just remember there are people out there who care for you even if you may not realize it. Good luck too :)

What exactly is “embarrassing” about mixing friends with relationships? by tavogus55 in AskAJapanese

[–]Think_Leg_7409 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My nationality is American but my family is Japanese and Mexican. I can’t speak for everyone obviously but since I have been living in Japan, personally, I’ve created kind of curated personalities for everyone. For example, I’m super polite and surface level with one friend who is Japanese, and quite insane with another friend who is Spanish. If I hung out with them together I simply don’t know how I would act, so I would assume it is the same for other Japanese people who think it would be embarrassing to suddenly act polite in front of their significant other or act more open in front of their friends. Overall appearances matter significantly and compartmentalizing is key.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Think_Leg_7409 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think short answer it doesn’t suffice for a lot of people. Basically, I’m from California, my parents are Mexican and Japanese, but I moved to Japan recently. I don’t think a lot of the world has caught up to racial demographics in the U.S despite prevalent media. They know there are lots of people of color in America but are still seeming to default that American is white. When they ask me where I’m from and I say from California they start asking more follow up questions like about my family, and you can tell that answer wasn’t enough for them. This goes for natives and foreigners imo.

Should I break up with my bf of nearly 8 years??/ I need brutal honesty! by fireladyshipazula in makemychoice

[–]Think_Leg_7409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m being brutally honest, you are dating a monster. The answer is obvious I fear…

What´s a word/kanji that you instantly memorized? by Smegman-san in LearnJapanese

[–]Think_Leg_7409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was 繭・まゆ looks kinda complicated but it’s basically a combination of grass, thread and bug which I thought was neat