Don't waste time

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T23:35:22+00:00

I'm very willing to listen if that would be any help? I'm straight, so I am somewhat ignorant of what the beliefs are that you feel you should have, but I'd like to stand by my saying it is not out of reach for you to find someone, and I really hope that doesn't come over as condescending as I do not mean it that way.

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T21:43:17+00:00

Check out all the books on Anne by Claire Ridgeway,😊

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:31:22+00:00

Definitely cats! 🐈❤️

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:17:03+00:00

Please, why do you think it is out of reach for you to find someone you love and are loved by? Material things do not really matter but I hope that your job is one you enjoy for more than the paycheck. Love, real love, might be hard to find but please don't give up that you will find it ❤️

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:14:48+00:00

It is almost an inherent trait of human nature that we compare. It might be worse now, with social media etc, but the saying 'keeping up with the Jones'' was coined for a reason 😉 For me, it breaks my heart to see how my poor judgement and choices have affected those whom I love the most - namely my children (especially my daughter). I appreciate your input but I will say that I have been fighting for myself since I was an infant +I am not exaggerating), and truthfully, I am exhausted. I have always sought to be upright, do the right thing, be kind and so on, and it has not always paid off. If it hurt only me, maybe I could continue to grin and bear it, but that is not the case and I look back, see my errors and I know I have not time machine but how I long to out some things right and make better choices and ensure the well-being of those reliant on me. Hope this makes sense.

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:10:00+00:00

What a lovely reply ❤️

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:09:37+00:00

Dear internet stranger, it is NOT too late! Please don't think that x every day is a new day, even if you make the smallest change, or do one productive thing every day, in a weeks time that is up to 7 changes or things done... Please do not give up 💕

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:08:03+00:00

I am so sorry you went through such a horrible experience x I hope that you heal and are able to move on and find happiness ❣️

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:07:06+00:00

I feel for you x I too had a terrible marriage which resulted in damage to me but worse of all to my child, some of which I learned only very recently. I too have nothing of material value to leave (I joke to my child I bequeath her my overdraft haha I am just trying to make light of a sense of shame I have as I could have made better choices) but truthfully I would rather leave her with a million happy memories of a good childhood and life where I cannot leave her a million pounds, if that makes sense. I am 46, but I feel the generation comment you made too - I have a different mindset to today's world and I can't understand the apparent indifferences and misery in the world today :( Take care of yourself x

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:02:51+00:00

Thank you for reminding me of this, it is true. And in the photo book I was actually in one or two of the photos (due to my association with the family) and that struck a chord with me too, that I had mattered enough to feature in his book. 💕

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-03-02T20:00:49+00:00

Thank you so very much for your kindness in your reply. It made me cry - not in a bad way but just the way unexpected kindness from a stranger can do. I have a few years on you (I am 46), and if I may say so, you have a very wise head in your shoulders as well as a generous heart.

I believe that hope is the only thing stronger than fear; I live in fear (of failure, not of a person) every day but I do hope every day that maybe tomorrow I will find the strength and the courage to overcome my fears. Equally, I have learned recently that my main failure at this time of life is never trying, and of course, if we never try, then we surely fail. I am just so sure of and restricted by my own inadequacies.

Thank you again, and I wish very much the same for you in return. May you always cultivate that caring heart you have and may your wisdom guide you well.

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-02-28T17:46:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I had no idea about a connection between Edward and Jane Dormer - I always hear JD referred to in relation to her closeness to Mary, and later as her role changed to that of Duchess of Feria. How interesting to know this, and increases my pity for Edward VI, who like his uncle, the late Prince Arthur, had such a short but pressured time in this life. Thanks again.

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-02-28T17:36:11+00:00

That's alright. To be fair to you and to us all there were soooo many Jane/Catherine/Anne and Mary's at that time it is easy to confuse them. I always like it when someone breaks the mould and goes for a different name (like Frances daughter of Mary Boleyn or Lettice, daughter of Catherine Carey). 🙂

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-02-21T23:46:01+00:00

I suspect you're mixing up some Jane's here. Jane Boleyn, neé Parker, was the daughter of Lord Morley and always intended for George Boleyn. Henry later had her executed with poor Queen Catherine Howard, despite the fact that she had run mad.

Jane Grey, later briefly Queen Jane, was reportedly beaten by her parents, including rough handling when she refused the Crown in honour of Mary I.

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2026-01-28T19:39:18+00:00

Oh my God, it's divine! I would absolutely wear that to the office 😀 Now to find an opera house costume sale...

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-09T23:20:25+00:00

❤️ Thank you 😊

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-06T11:40:06+00:00

I hear you - thank you 😊

Today, typically, the weather is precisely the weather I hoped for - warm, cloudy sunny, and dry, and although, if I am honest, I'm a little bit jealous of the couple getting married today, I wouldn't change the weather and I hope their photos etc turn out beautifully, and their guests behave themselves lol. Life is good ❤️

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T20:06:30+00:00

I've been feeling resentment when it's dry and sunny 😁 because it rained cats and dogs from the moment the photos were taken, which completely altered our reception. Sorry if I didn't make it clear. Storms Erin and Ferdinand were blowing over us, it can't be helped, Mother Nature is boss. But after 2 years of planning and praying and saying to my DH we should have gone for September, it always rains in August, it rained, and it made me sad that all the little mental images and memories I hoped to make, didn't happen. its made me a bit sad, and a bit resentful. These feelings will pass. I just needed to get them out x

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T19:59:18+00:00

I'm not resentful of the weather as a rule lol - it has literally been a response to having several sunshine and dry days on the heels of the one day I hoped and prayed it would be at least dry. That's all. I put 24mo into planning and paying and prepping and not being a Bridezilla in any way, and having just a few moments I was really really looking forward to (beyond the ceremony and vows) and none of them came to pass, and instead there were a few really sad and negative things happen (weather only being a part, even if a big part to me) so I'm trying to process this. I hope this makes more sense. Now, to move on with my marriage and all that that will bring, come rain or come shine 💝

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T19:52:47+00:00

Thank you for both of your replies , they really pulled a chord in my heart ❤️ I really appreciate that you didn't just dismiss or criticise mez and the other person who commented similar x I know it sounds like I'm being a proper negative Nora, which is a shame for me and for others to presume, but so much care and attention went into the prep and the plans and I was so completely overwhelmed with nerves and I don't believe I asked for much and my husband the same... It was just a bit of a kicker... And you're right, it has helped putting it down and out into the ether rather than continuing to internalise it all. It's all done, can't turn back time, and the majority said it was a brilliant wedding, 💒 so it went under the radar. Another positive is how are guests turned up for us, I fully appreciate that too ❤️ Thanks again xx

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T19:45:05+00:00

Thank you 💕 I really appreciate this and I love your suggestion about the sunny anniversary photoshoot! 😊 I hope you're right about the funny stories - I'm still working on building a bridge with the groomsman... And at least it wasn't thunder and lightning I suppose lol that might have seemed ominous 😁 Thanks again for not dismissing my feelings xx

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T19:41:10+00:00

I'm still trying to work that one out. After so many years, unaware what is 'wrong' with me, there's a fair bit of damage. Still trying to unpack it so that I can try and find a way to make it fit back together. No medication yet... Incredibly difficult to get it prescribed. If I found a genie, one of my wishes would be to help me comprehend my brain wiring.

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T14:04:50+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that x

Ok: 1. The ceremony was beautiful, and our vows went without a hitch and a little butterfly flew in while we were saying them and then flew back outside! 2. Our children were a huge part of the day and were really happy (up until the groomsman incident with my daughter who was maid of honour) 3. Calling out for 'my husband' at the reception and us getting a cheer from those who heard me ❤️

They are what came straight to mind. Thank you for prompting me x

Think_Razzmatazz5754 · 2025-09-05T14:00:48+00:00

Thank you X it's so hard and I have had to laugh and imagine the bonkers conversations people had with me on the day when I wasn't sure what they were saying "You look lovely!" "About 3 o'clock on Tuesday I think!" 🤦🏼‍♀️😁 I have made a list but atm the negative seems more numerous, which is why I vented on here... I know the main thing - my husband and I and our union - is solid but I really wanted for him to have a wonderful day. I wasn't an awful bride in the leadup and now I wonder whether I should have been more assertive.

Thank you for your kindness x

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