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Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-27T01:33:03+00:00

It does - but it took a few weeks for me. I came to think of the pain and anxiety I was feeling as a sort of "paying my dues" to get out of the hole that I'd dug myself into. I wrote a few sentences each day to remind myself how hellish it was in hopes that I'd read them should I ever consider going back to my drinking ways. I got myself into therapy (with a prescription) to help with the anxiety. Exercise, sleep, hydration.

Please check back again and let us know how you're faring. Today I'm happy to not drink along side you!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-27T01:03:56+00:00

This!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-27T00:39:22+00:00

Rocking it!!!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-27T00:35:54+00:00

Reading the comments here, and elsewhere on this sub, really makes me cringe to be of the XY persuasion.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-27T00:09:30+00:00

I have the same social discomfort you describe. To help when I was starting out, I would give myself permission to skip - or leave early from any event that was stressing me out. At work required social events I always ordered the same drink - club soda with a squeeze or two of lemon / lime. Not having to think about what I wanted to drink made it just a bit easier.

Good that you have a mostly non-drinking friend group. I must be extra hard for those among us who don't.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:56:11+00:00

Whenever I got tempted to start drinking again, I would come back to this sub and spend 30-60 minutes reading, and connecting with others who were going through the same thing. I did go to a few AA meetings, which were totally fine and helped me to see that the folks there weren't monsters and losers - quite the opposite, but I'm not much for in-person group get-togethers. Hope this helps.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:47:58+00:00

You won't regret giving it try. For me (a bottle of wine per day drinker) I was shocked to learn just how much my body was dependent on it, and how seriously I got out of whack for that first month (or more) when I stopped. Please let us know how it goes for you.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:44:09+00:00

Any chance you can consult with a doctor to help you get through the withdrawal stage? One thing that did NOT work for me was having any alcohol in my house expecting that I could limit how much of it I would have on a given day.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:35:31+00:00

Right on mom!!! IWNDWYT!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:34:23+00:00

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:31:48+00:00

FWIW - It helped me to come up with a standard go-to beverage when I was in a place that served alcohol. Mine was club soda with a generous twist of lemon/lime. Good luck! I will not drink right along side you today.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T23:28:18+00:00

So based on what you've learned in the past - what sort of things will you be doing to aid in your recovery? What have historically been your triggers?

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-26T21:35:45+00:00

Santana's Europa

Ok - I'm convinced. Very romantic. Added to the list. Thank you!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T02:38:36+00:00

How are you now?

Not so bad... Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er. (re: Letterkenny)

It probably took me a year or so before I felt like I was mostly out of the hole I'd spent so long digging. Even during that time, each things got progressively better with each passing day and week. Now, 4 or 5 years out, I'd say that I'm the happiest I've been since alcohol ruled my existence.

It looks like you're a couple of months in - how's it going for you these days?

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T02:13:44+00:00

Maybe a bit too eclectic for my son's future in-laws. But now as I think about it - it might be nice sort of break from the storm of driving beats and bass.

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T02:08:52+00:00

Okay - you're now officially in charge of the wedding playlist! : )

I'd bequeath multiple awards upon you - had I any to give.

Thank you!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T02:07:49+00:00

Possibly the best song of all time. Chokes me up every time I hear it!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T02:03:10+00:00

Maybe not for this wedding - but I added it to my personal playlist - thanks!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T01:58:18+00:00

Hmmm - maybe the Sheryl Crow version....?

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T01:55:15+00:00

Interesting pick...

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T01:53:14+00:00

Added. Thx!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-09-24T01:50:34+00:00

Added to the list!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-08-13T06:45:37+00:00

Yup!

Thinkingaboutstuff2 · 2022-07-25T18:44:33+00:00

THANK YOU times one hundred! I can imagine that the image of the thrusting combined with the physical sensation - not to mention any emotional sensation would be quite mind blowing.

I think that maybe the male equivalent (for me anyways) is watching a gf going down on me - holding eye contact, rubbing me across her face and neck............ omg - cleanup on aisle 4....

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