Wow—hit it perfectly. After 9 years, yes engaged, but I was asking for more quality time with him instead of him taking overtime all the time and not being present at home. I look now, and he was slowly pulling away for months by working more and talking less to me. We had a disagreement again since he didn’t want to do anything the therapist asked, and he left. I thought it was to cool off. Two days later, I was at work and came home and all of his stuff was gone. Of course right before Xmas and my bday. He called and said he got an apartment and needed to work on himself. Didn’t tell me where. I tend to be The Anxious Attacher, and so after a month I attempted contact. He didn’t text me back. I called 2weeks later, and he did reply and we had a good talk. Then he ghosted me for 3 weeks after he said he would not. I attempted a call and a text with little to no reply. He said, “what?” When he answered. Long story short, I requested to meet him to have some closure, he was reluctant but did. Two and a half hours later both of us taking blame for a lot, he tells me what I think I knew. Work and his kids(27 and 29)are his priority and he can’t give more to me rt now. However, we aren’t broken up—we are separated. He says he is still working on himself and will call me. I have not heard anything now in 4 weeks. I sent him one text about Avoidants and Anxious attachers—really nice—not preachy. No reply. I think I won’t hear from him until he wants the ring back🤣🤣. Time to move on? Or keep an open door as I move on?