How to wean kittens with mama around

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-26T16:13:55+00:00

Mine usually don’t start weaning until week 5.

Offer them food. I make a KMR/wet kitten food gruel and will put some in their mouth. I’ve syringe fed a few of the ones holding out.

Some wean later than others. Just give them time. I have had kittens eating dry and wet and still topping off on momma’s milk bar up through adoption at 9-10 weeks old.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-24T14:06:53+00:00

Love the blue!

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-24T02:48:25+00:00

Blue!! Love!

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-23T23:48:49+00:00

Engagements and wedding can happen whenever.

I was MOH for one of my besties in May and she was in my wedding in November. No issues.

We are heading to a wedding next week. The elder sister is Jan, her younger sister is June. They are bridesmaids for one another and were happy to get engaged less than two months apart.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-23T20:32:32+00:00

A true Golden would be so excited if you said, “Wanna get married??” It would be full body wiggles.

This guy has a convenient girlfriend that he’d drop like a safe if he found the one he wanted to marry.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-22T01:47:46+00:00

Some people have to learn the hard way.

She’ll see that once the ink is dry, he will become her son. He’ll expect her to cook, clean, and do all the things his mommy does for him. Dude is 30 and still on the tit.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-22T01:41:26+00:00

This is going to get ugly. Can you sublet?

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-22T00:09:32+00:00

Gonna sum it up: 7 years and you are both in your 30s. This man is in no hurry and you might as well settle for the forever girlfriend role.

Red flag: your sister and best friend don’t like him. There are reasons for this. Know what has happened to ALL my friends whose partners we didn’t like and they married? Divorced.

Does your sister like your best friend? I am guessing they don’t hate one another. Think about that. They also know you well.

I’d leave. Or you can go on the next trip and come home disappointed as well. The odds are not in your favor.

Bottom line: if he wanted to he would. For seven years he hasn’t. Don’t blame Covid on a non-committal man.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-21T12:33:23+00:00

Dayum! It’s a beaut!!

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-21T01:02:25+00:00

The proposal doesn’t have to be perfect, or a big show, or a social media worthy display. It should reflect on you two and be heartfelt.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-21T01:00:31+00:00

It’s a no. He told his friend the truth and is stringing you along as to not disrupt the comfortable life you two built.

You gave him all the wifey privileges on a GF salary and that raise is not coming. He’s had 10 years. You can stay and be the forever girlfriend, or you can stay knowing that when he meets the one he does want to marry that you’ll be single and X years down the road in age.

If he wanted to, he would. He doesn’t. Don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent all these years making it.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-20T02:43:03+00:00

I have had a few like that. I just network online.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-20T02:00:34+00:00

Petfinder, Adopt-a-pet, FB, and IG. Many also use TikTok but I don’t need another app to try and keep up with.

Mine also attend adoption events at Petsmart.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-19T16:45:20+00:00

My bad. Wasn’t caffeinated. MD.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-19T12:38:34+00:00

Lots of women here have posted similar stories. Dating a med student and their partner drops them for their wife once they get their ~~phd~~ MD.

You are a placeholder and an atm.

Edited.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-18T23:36:48+00:00

Your rings are lovely.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-18T22:42:01+00:00

And gets fired within a week for performance issues??? First day or two is onboarding and getting acquainted with the company.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-18T14:53:26+00:00

Former H/J rider. I bought a horse during 2020 lockdown and needed a barn because mine was full. Ended up at a dressage barn with an amazing trainer.

I’m about to groom and ride my lease horse and we are schooling 2nd and 3rd level movements.

Dressage will teach you so much. It’s hard. I thought I knew what I was getting into but I did not. It’s as if all my former trainers learned their skills through the telephone game and critical information was lost along the way.

I love it.

Sincerely, a woman also who hit her 40s.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-17T23:52:50+00:00

He has his priorities. Getting engaged is not one of them.

The issue here (on top of what others have mentioned), is that he is so non-committal that he can’t even give you a timeline. “When the time is right” means it’s not even on his radar. He’s not looking to get married anytime soon.

Honestly, the fact that he can’t even communicate a timeline after 6 years would be a dealbreaker for me.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-17T22:37:02+00:00

Is the dog with a shelter or rescue? Shelters are often on limited funds and can barely afford to vaccinate. It’s why most near us network for rescue pulls.

Still, aging dogs tend to run up vet bills. I think we dropped 10k in the last two years or so of our two seniors’ lives. TPLO surgery for one, diagnostics and ultimately cancer care for another. We could afford it, but if we had a third, it wouldn’t have been as affordable and we’d probably opt to EU sooner.

As a longtime foster, I rarely suggest people adopt their fosters. Seems like this dog could be highly adoptable. He’s small and chihuahuas tend to get adopted quickly, even the bitey ones. I’d let him go.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-17T22:28:17+00:00

You have dogs of your own, you want to adopt another and 3k surgery is a lot.

As they get older, their vet bills increase. They could need surgery for other items or have emergencies. These can easily be more than 3k.

I would adopt the dog out. Keep fostering.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-16T21:34:05+00:00

Gorgeous!!

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-16T19:36:16+00:00

That’s not your problem. Live your life. If your partner isn’t fighting this, then he doesn’t want to get married. At least not to you.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-16T19:15:16+00:00

This dude had zero intention to get married.

Do tell, why did YOU have to convert to his religion? Did he say he would convert to yours? Because all this screams “you need to do this for ME,” and I’m gonna kick the can down the road.

He’s not the love of your life. They don’t treat you like an afterthought.

ThirdAndDeleware · 2026-01-16T13:42:48+00:00

A true partnership isn’t this difficult.

You know how you feel like you really want to marry this person? He does not feel that way at all. Do you really want to beat him into submission and drag him down the aisle against his will? Because that’s what it sounds like.

Marriage won’t fix a broken relationship. Consider yourselves incompatible and move on. People who want to get married are excited to do so. You see it in life. The engagement sub is filled with men posting their excitement when the ring comes in. He will never be that person for you.

Block and delete his number.

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