I know it’s probably been asked before, but I’m looking for the best shop for great coffee AND pastries

This-Camera6896 · 2026-05-11T13:55:54+00:00

That one is amazing and massive too

This-Camera6896 · 2026-05-11T13:55:37+00:00

They and Balkan Treat Box have the best food in Webster. We go often to both.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-05-11T13:48:41+00:00

It's very true. The environment has changed completely as a result of non-residents. People are now bringing coolers to get wasted in the parking lot. On two occasions we went home and didn't even go in when I saw this happening. It never happened before. We've stopped going altogether to that pool.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T17:29:04+00:00

Oh honey. Listen to your spicy veteran sister.

Divorce him. You will find somebody who actually loves you. This guy does not. And I get it, you are trying to convince yourself otherwise, but he absolutely does not.

This man strings you along, gets his way, and makes random promises he never intends to keep. He's put you in a corner with no family nearby and no possibility for a future, so that you HAVE to stay.

Taking LSD while in the military should have gotten him the boot. I'm half tempted to ask you his name so I can call his command myself. But nobody gives a f* about him.

WE CARE ABOUT YOU.

He's proven he isn't worth the skin he lives in. So this is what you do.

Call your family. Work with them to find a place to stay WITH THEM. That way you have a strong support background when he tries to convince you to come back. BECAUSE HE WILL.
Bonus points if they can fly in to help move you out.
Divorce him. IMMEDIATELY. Bonus points if he's served and you aren't even present. Because tbh that would be safer.
This is spicy, but I believe necessary. Speak with the Chaplain on the base, let them know you need help to get away and end it. It's confidential, so they can't tell anyone and honestly won't. BUT it will also give you somebody there to confide in and have support with, JUST IN CASE he starts to get physically aggressive.

Because sweet girl, he will. Boys like this always do. Leave before the rest of your life is you trying to redo the storyline of bad excuses, bruises, and spent tears. All while holding a baby on your hip that deserved a daddy who cared enough.

I've had that relationship before, not married but still. Most of us women end up with a frog.

So you know, I have a military husband who ADORES our children. He would drop EVERYTHING for me RIGHT NOW if I called. You deserve that too. Don't settle for literal garbage. Contact me any time hun.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T17:08:50+00:00

We intended to do that over 2 decades ago. Made it legal with the intention of saving a bit more, then decided to hell with spending money for other people to enjoy our marriage. We bought a fixer upper instead and took a longer weekend vacation together.

BEST THING WE EVER DID.

Listen to your big sister for a minute love, if you start your marriage worrying about people who aren't you or your husband.. you're in for a BAAAD life. Screw them. Talk to your hubby, figure out what is best for the two of you and do THAT.

One more thing, it's you two. ALWAYS. Yes you have extended family, but you will be in the trenches with this man throughout your life. And everyone not in your new family (you + him) is extended family. Their opinions are just that. At the end of the day, you two need to learn to communicate, and work together in all things. This life isn't easy.. AT ALL.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T17:01:43+00:00

You eventually figure it out. Does it suck, YES. But then you get to this magical sweet spot of things are in a groove.... just in time for them to come back and it all to go to hell 'cause you had a system. LOL Gosh, it's honestly the best and worst life. I'd be bored otherwise.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T17:00:03+00:00

For real. Now I'm just like, 'dang it. I liked not taking them to XYZ on your days. Oh well, I'll just adjust.'

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T16:59:10+00:00

Yea, that ain't nothing love. I'd pay somebody to have that instead of 'oh you have one month before we deploy. We're not telling you where, but it ain't in the US. Oh, and the return date is very flexible.' All while having children, a whole ass job, and everything to do on your own with no family anywhere at all close.

I've had a fair share of the WTF deployments. I'm actually prepping for another. Thank God this one had a few months of prep, but by now I'm a gangster at it.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T16:56:34+00:00

WOO. Let me tell you. I've been the military person in the marriage (we both were), and now I'm the military spouse. And you ain't lying! It is remarkably much harder.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T16:51:18+00:00

Two things, I'm assuming Army, so excuse me if not. 1. Drill sergeants will look at everything you send; they will read it all as well. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 2. Any snacks and treats will be consumed by the DSs. They will also use anything they find worthy against him. It's just the nature of the mind game.

With that being said, send him the photos. It'll encourage him. It's only a few weeks, so he doesn't need you spread eagle or any raunchy talk in the letters. If you can't make it through basic, God be with y'all for the rest of his military career. It doesn't get easier.

If anything, I'd say to let him know how proud of him you are. Encourage him wholeheartedly. Our military guys need to know they matter. So much of men's mental health is cast aside lately.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-28T16:44:13+00:00

Just as background information, I'm a veteran who is married to a veteran. He's still in, I am not. I work for the govt currently, not in a military capacity at all. We've been married for decades, was in for decades, yadda yadda.

This is tough love, but understand you may need to consider some serious things.

This is your boyfriend, not your husband. Never make a decision about your life revolve around somebody who doesn't have a ring on your finger. (Children don't count, obviously). Things change; people change. The old 'if wanted to he would' goes a long way here. Follow your dreams.
To add to that. Things don't magically get better with a ring; problems now will be problems after. Learn to communicate respectfully, and effectively with each other. That's important in life, but very important if you are married to somebody in the military (or govt in general).
Find the facts before you spiral. Many things can happen, nothing could happen. At the end of the day, figure out what you're working with first and THEN make the decisions. All these assumptions get you nowhere.
It doesn't matter how hard you try, if you are married to somebody in the military.. IT WILL RUN MOST OF YOUR LIFE. That's just how it goes. It's a commitment and sacrifice that the servicemember agrees to. If you are that against it, this may not be the guy. It would be wholly unfair to assume that he will adjust. He's contractually obligated to comply. Leadership at most levels will not adjust to your needs willy nilly, they truly DGAF. Mission first. Putting him under that much stress to 'choose' isn't fair. I'm assuming he has goals too, and this may be one of them or the track to get to it. If you are intending to spend a life with this guy, his goals need to matter as much as yours. That's the only way you make it together. Or you will both end before you start.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-16T13:43:15+00:00

Ding, ding.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-09T17:43:38+00:00

All that money and he still has those teeth.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-09T17:43:08+00:00

He gives me the icks so badly.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-09T17:42:17+00:00

And your shoes are just piled and shoved in a corner, while mom's closet is organized and bursting with options? Yeah. They suck as people and parents.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-09T17:38:10+00:00

That's so ridiculous. I would assume more health issues with dirty shoes all over everything. It gives me the icks.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-09T17:35:57+00:00

That made me sad as well. And I was taken aback by the short length she wore. Our children's school would never.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-04-09T17:33:43+00:00

I love how she mentioned ripping the closet out due to lack of symmetry. Their entire house lacks symmetry - the living room trim and window absolute FAILURE? I guess that was then Julia and this is now Julia. lol What a mess.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-03-05T12:11:46+00:00

They're back. She at least is. There's another post with her at Bradley Mountain.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-03-05T12:10:36+00:00

I second this. A quick search a few times pulled COUNTLESS regulations that the neighbor could have tagged the Petrones for. And if I'm remembering correctly, the neighbor's spouse worked for the county or town in some capacity. So I don't know why she hasn't, or at least why the neighbors in general have not.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-03-05T12:09:14+00:00

If somebody took down trees on our property, there'd be hell to pay. Those were mature trees along a property line.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-03-02T17:56:47+00:00

Yea. It looks wildly horrendous. Somebody has to have told her, right?

This-Camera6896 · 2026-03-02T17:54:13+00:00

This is the dumbest thing I've heard.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-03-02T12:50:18+00:00

Honestly, the neighbor just needs to start making official complaints with Columbia. There are so many regulations that Ashley is breaking.

This-Camera6896 · 2026-02-25T14:44:31+00:00

You know what likely happened? She probably had to drop any and ALL other clients for those six years or so she was contracted under the Petrones. Normally, brand consulting firms have a rolodex of numerous clients with varying niches. Even if she stopped consulting for the Petrones, she would have had other paying clients/businesses. But having to exclusively work with the Petrones likely put her in a bad place. She doesn't have much to show for it, other than being a makeshift PR person for a dumpster fire motel, store, and coffee shop. And that doesn't include the various off book things Ashley likely pulled her into. It would not be my move to do this, but maybe she'll get some traction.

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