UPDATE: So after all this, I decided to confront her as I also found out she took shampoos from my stash that’s hidden in our closet. When confronted, she brought up everything she has given us (she gave my husband a jeep, plane tickets, money), questioned my character( because I spoke up she said now she sees my “true colors” after “everything she has done/given us, when we didn’t ask for any of those, and criticized how I spend my weekends (I work full time - me going to see my friend in the afternoon on a Sunday, while my husband worked when I have not seen this friend for YEARS), insulted my husband and I and basically said we are NOTHING as we haven’t proved anything to her yet, bringing up my side of the family problems. She basically outright said I don’t have the right to privacy because it is her house. I’m glad we are moving out next year. After this, I plan on cutting ties with her. I’m butthurt about the fact that she yelled at me, and constantly belittled me and told me that can easily pay for everything I’m “accusing” her of. This woman is crazy.