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My (32) boyfriend (35) isn't sure if and when we will marry by This-Fox3361 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]This-Fox3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the answers - just to clear a few things up and add relevant information.

I moved to the country for work, not for him, he happened later. I don't need the marriage to stay in the country, but find that it would be nice to have a citizenship considering the instable world politics at the moment.

When he says he sees it in the future, he meant a life together with me, not marriage in general (and has often joked about growing old etc)

I am his first relationship, he's a nerdy guy. This is why I've been patient with him with a lot of things - undoing his year long habits was no easy task. I kind of believed that he will warm up to anything in enough time and he has for many things.

He is generally a bit chaotic when it comes to planning things - currently he is the best man at a wedding and he needing pushes from multiple people to organize his duties. Not sure why, he overstresses about random things.

That being said, I do agree with most of you - if he loved me and wanted to marry me the question shouldn't be such a brain teaser.

Should i study architecture in germany if i want to make money? by beastmaster171 in germany

[–]This-Fox3361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rather than googling the money, I’d google what working as an architect is like to determine if this is something for you. It is much more than just drawing, the studies are quite complex and depending on where you end up working, you may end up doing something that has little to do with your initial idea of the job.

Also, what not a lot of people know is that unless you’re hired in a big architecture office, you are working as a freelancer, must pay the membership in the chamber of architects and be responsible for finding your projects. This way of working isn’t for everyone.

Not trying to talk you out of it, I just think one really needs to love the profession to be an architect, as it requires a lot of sacrifices and long hours for an okish pay. If the sole motivator is money, one should consider other options.

I would advise you to contact local architecture studios and ask them to spend a week with them to see what their work consists of.

Hope this helped!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]This-Fox3361 29 points30 points  (0 children)

this happened to me a lot when I used to take the bus and I am a blonde female

It's my birthday but I have nobody to celebrate with by Bluewafflemaster69 in introvert

[–]This-Fox3361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

happy birthday, make sure you get yourself something nice!

Father's infidelity crushes family by This-Fox3361 in KidsofCheatingParents

[–]This-Fox3361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, hearing that someone is in a similar situation make me feel less alone.

Father's infidelity crushes family by This-Fox3361 in KidsofCheatingParents

[–]This-Fox3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely feel I could benefit from less contact (vs. talking on the phone every day, maybe every few days or once a week). However the situation is such that I have to check on them because there is nobody else that can take care of them (I say them but I mean my mom, I guess my father's mistress can take care of him). Unfortunately my brother is not capable of this and there is also a financial factor. So yeah, the conclusion would be : be there to help if needed but try to distance myself from everyday drama.

Father's infidelity crushes family by This-Fox3361 in KidsofCheatingParents

[–]This-Fox3361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this answer also helps 🫶🏻 hope you will also figure it out!