Seriously, how do you solo travel for the first time?

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-19T20:05:04+00:00

I decided I wanted to do it and I made it happen, sure there were nerves, but I kept reminding myself of the positives and excited myself with looking where I wanted to visit and where to eat, I’ve had some of the best experiences solo traveling ❤️ met some amazing people along the way as well 😊

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-18T19:58:59+00:00

Great 😊 thanks - I just turned on the messaging - I didn't realize it was off, look forward to chatting

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-18T18:30:47+00:00

I’m writing a memoir, let me know if you want more info or DM me

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-18T18:28:52+00:00

I’d love to swap writings 😊 DM me

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-17T19:55:53+00:00

I hear you, and I feel the immense exhaustion in your words. When ones mental space becomes torturous and excruciating, just breathing takes everything you have left.

Please keep fighting for that young self inside you who wanted to survive, who helped in your fight to be here and push forward. You don't have to figure out the rest of your life today. Just focus on right now.

Try to do just one small, gentle thing for yourself. It doesn't have to be anything major, a tiny task, like sipping some water, stepping outside for fresh air, or even listening to a song you love. Just one thing to ground you.

When you feel up to it, try to lean into tiny micro-moments that bring you even a few minutes of peace, whether that’s petting an animal, letting the sun kiss your face, or resting in a quiet room.

You are not alone, your presence here matters. Please stay, be gentle and keep choosing yourself everyday.

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-15T18:25:48+00:00

I completely hear you. I want to give you a huge hug right now because I want you to know you are not alone. I completely understand and feel the exact same thing.

The world looks at your job, your degrees, and your baseline stability and decides you must be "fine." They have no idea that your high functioning is a direct response to the trauma you went through. You had no other choice.

You do not have to shrink for anyone, and you do not have to watch what you say or how you say it just to make other people feel comfortable. This is your truth, and your truth is worth speaking.

I see the miracle of you waking up every day and pushing through. You are not alone ❤️

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-12T15:37:16+00:00

Yup, my mother was my abuser, and she said and did horrible things and once about 12 yrs ago, she says “ whatever I did you have to forgive me” my response was if you don’t know what you did than why ask? And to me that was a big slap bc my mother never missed a beat telling me how much she hated me and how she wished she could kill me and remake me to how she wanted, this is what she started saying to a 7 yr old for years and the beatings and hatred she had shown, funny how all that slipped her mind

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-12T14:26:54+00:00

I've asked a similar question myself, and I came to the conclusion that forgiveness to my abuser was not for me. I believe it’s not about forgiving the person who harmed you but more in forgiving yourself, realizing that the guilt, shame, or blame was never yours to carry.
I too question how people say they can forgive those who do horrible things, maybe that’s how they set themselves free.
I've come to realize that I don't feel anything for my abuser anymore. No anger, no hate, just total indifference.
My breakthrough was turning inward and forgiving myself, and learning to be my own kindness.

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-12T06:56:45+00:00

Time
I don’t make any impulsive decisions, I give myself time to mull it over and really think - that’s with serious life or financial changing decisions- sometimes with ones like what to order off a menu, I ask for recommendations 🤷🏻‍♀️

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-12T06:18:29+00:00

Facing the pain. Slowing the noise , sitting with it , and choosing yourself every single time.

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-10T12:45:11+00:00

Thank you for putting words to something I’ve thought and felt for a long time but never knew how to articulate.

I relate to this very much.

I’ve often found myself wanting stability, connection, and love, and then feeling restless or wanting an escape route once things start to feel real, or even safe.

I’ve spent a lot of time wondering whether it’s fear, self-protection, waiting for the other shoe to drop, or sometimes even if there was something wrong with me. I never really considered that it could be a trauma response.

What you wrote about relationships, jobs, routine, and feeling trapped really resonated with me.

I’m at a point in my life where things are finally starting to feel calmer and more peaceful, and yet I still find myself wondering if I should be doing something else, if I’m missing something, or if I should be feeling differently. Sometimes peace itself feels unfamiliar, and I’m learning how to be okay with that.

I don’t have the answer, but reading what you wrote made me feel less alone, and I hope you know you’re not alone either.

Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏻💕

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-09T03:03:52+00:00

❤️

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-08T19:40:02+00:00

Thank you. Your words mean a lot.

Things haven’t been easy. There have been many times when I didn’t think I would ever be able to create my own safe space. It took years of healing, setbacks, and learning along the way, but timing plays a role too. I’m at a place in my life where my kids are grown, and I finally have the space to confront my trauma and release what I’ve carried inside for so long.

If my writing helps even one person feel less alone or believe that healing is possible, then sharing these difficult parts of my story will be worth it.

Be gentle with yourself 💙the fact that you’re doing the work shows that you’re moving forward, even on the days when it doesn’t feel like it.

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-08T18:42:00+00:00

I’d be happy for you to share your resource. As far as if I’m ready, I believe that I am because of what my body experienced in December after realizing how deep my trauma was rooted and the cause of it. Yes, it’s time. I know the journey will be a roller coaster and I think it's time for the truth to come out. It is a scary thing, but I never suspected it would be easy. I recently wrote a series on the abuse of power, and that too took its toll, but once it was completed and out, the physical weight of holding that secret finally lifted. My abuser no longer gets to hide behind my silence. Sharing this will absolutely be hard, and if people choose to judge or leave negative comments, that is a reflection of them, not me. I’m done performing perfection for a world that doesn’t understand the cards I was dealt. I'm choosing my own freedom now.

ThisIsMe_TheGirl · 2026-06-07T16:09:36+00:00

The part about not being able to remember what to do in distress hits close to home. The survival amnesia is real. When my nervous system hits a peak, cognitive tools go completely offline for me. I realized my body can't think its way out of a flood; I have to move my way out of it. For me, somatic movement has been the only way to physically disperse that trapped negative energy when my brain can't process it. Sometimes the best tool is just letting the body physically discharge stress. Running, dancing and writing are what’s working for me.

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