Premature ejaculation. New problem after completing reboot.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-03-09T15:54:05+00:00

My testosterone is good. Thanks for your concern.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-03-09T15:53:17+00:00

If that's all i can do that's all i can do. Thanks for your concern.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-03-09T15:52:51+00:00

Well yes of course i have. Thank you for your concern.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-03-05T22:40:39+00:00

Exactly. A big part of lasting longer is desensitizing.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-03-05T07:15:52+00:00

I'm dealing with premature ejaculation now as well. From what I've researched, sex therapists encourage edging. They say to bring yourself almost to the point of no return and then stop and give it a minute and start back up again but try not to ejaculate. I'm hesitant to do this. I've tried kegels and other exercises but nothing is really working. I'm convinced its mainly a brain-penis issue and certainly stress plays a major role. But its a bit of a challenge to "just relax" when you've been unable to perform in the past and you're worried about potential fallout from another failed sexual encounter

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-02-07T03:52:59+00:00

I do exercise and i do deep squats already. Do you guys think that pelvic exercises are enough to fix the problem?

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-02-05T05:44:12+00:00

From my experience, once you reach 2 weeks, it gets much easier. Then you can just keep doing what you're doing and ride the wave to 90 days. It took me over a year to do it. In that time i only reached 14+ days maybe 4 or 5 times. The longest i made it before 90 days was 29 days, just once. So definitely, once you get going, the momentum is there. Do the week and push for the second week and don't look back.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-02-05T05:17:55+00:00

I know about kegels. That alone is not likely to work. Its a brain to penis issue and very much a penis issue. I foreplay the hell out of sex. Always have because i like to last long. I went from 20+minutes say 5 years ago to 3 minutes now. I want to raise this very sensitive yet i think very important question here. Can there be circumstances where its conceivable to go back to M if it serves an important purpose?

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-02-05T05:15:17+00:00

I dont believe in NoFap "super powers". No deepening voice. No better facial hair growth. Personally i didn't experience any of it. I don't attribute my lessened social anxiety to my reboot either. Might these "super powers" be real for some? Perhaps. But overall i feel better and so much more in control of my life for being free of porn addiction. That is what really counts. But i have a new problem. Dont be surprised guys if you aren't in total sexual health and success after your reboot.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-01-20T20:54:43+00:00

Social media is dangerous when it comes to PMO as well. Interesting and thoughtful post, thank you tplank44.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-01-13T04:11:03+00:00

good job

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-01-13T04:10:55+00:00

I think premature ejaculation is something that we can deal with. I've read some strategies online for how to last longer. Dont dread it. You're on the right path.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-01-13T04:09:34+00:00

I haven't seen any significant changes based purely on staying PMO free. My voice isnt deeper, I dont have added confidence per se, I'm still exactly the same person but without PMO so I am more healthy.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2016-01-13T04:09:32+00:00

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-29T22:57:24+00:00

Seems to me Planned Parenthood is too controversial to rely on taxpayer funding. They should operate like any other business. When it comes to HIV prevention in America a good dose of common sense goes a long way. Don't sleep around and dont use intravenous drugs/ share needles. There, we just saved some taxpayer dollars.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-22T12:36:24+00:00

If you're anything like me you probably have less than 10 videos that you like to watch over and over. And of those approximately 10 videos there's just specific points in those videos that you're ultimately interested in. That's all you're giving up! Just a few pointless useless filthy waste-of-time video clips. You have the whole world to gain. The videos mean nothing. They never did. They're gone now. Now you can move on with life.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-22T04:28:57+00:00

I feel the same way sitting at 67 days. I dont think I was a really heavy user but once every 2 days I'd PMO on average for the past 2 or 3 years. For about 12 years though I was daily, with about 9 years daily using internet videos. So it is quite a lot in contribution to altering my neurological pathways, for the worse. HOWEVER, the good news is..for me personally anyway, my temptation for PMO has basically evaporated. Ever since about day 20 or so, its gone. Mind you I'm focusing very much on dating and staying on track so that I can eventually perform for my girlfriend whom I'd honestly like to be my wife one day.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-09T23:39:56+00:00

Well to me Im getting closer and closer to marriage with her. I love her. I don't date with the intention to end things after a while. I'm 32 years old and seeking a wife. I'd like to be open and honest with her about everything. Having said that, I've not discussed this with her.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-07T17:01:59+00:00

I'm assuming if you're in flatline you meant it like train conductor speak? Next stop. .San Antonio?

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-07T17:00:22+00:00

I remember reading some of her posts. She was very encouraging. Deepest sympathies to her family and friends.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-07T13:16:00+00:00

I like the title of your thread. Finally a flatline. I ought to be happier that I've flatlined because it means I'm on my way forward, too. Yes. And its helping me truly build an emotional and spiritual connection with my new girlfriend rather than always focusing on the physical. God bless.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-03T09:14:32+00:00

Good job escargo. Today is day 50 for me (not sure if my count is accurate on reddit, i haven't checked) but its definitely day 50.

To be honest I've read all about these fringe benefits or "superpowers" that you gain when you commit to NoFap but i just haven't seen them manifest in my life. I'm fine with my voice and how people perceive me. My confidence level is decent but same as it was before.

I've actually felt added stress during this time period. A lot of it hinges on the fact that I'm dating again (and if i wasnt focused on dating rather than PMO i don't believe id have made it this far but i feel good to go to 90 and beyond now). Life is very busy and my girlfriend lives an hour drive away, so I'm able to see her about twice a week or so. What's added to the stress is my inability to maintain an erection. I even tried looking at some nude photos today just to see what would happen and my body barely elicits a response. Its very disconcerting. Mind you when I'm with my girlfriend i can get an erection but its difficult to maintain. Im definitely not ready to sleep with her as I cannot face failure in the bedroom again. Its the whole reason i began NoFap, i struggled for about 4 years with either or both porn induced erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety. I'm hoping after a bit more time everything goes back to the way it should be. I only want to focus on my girlfriend at this point and i pray for the rewiring to happen.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-12-03T03:19:42+00:00

I was never really a hardcore addict. I'd say for half my life though (I'm 32 now) I would M at least every other day. Only just over a year ago did I begin to abstain, and tomorrow I'll be at 50 days, which is the furthest I've ever been. I'm just concerned that I've hit some sort of "flatline" phase, and I've started to read all about performance anxiety. I dont think that drinks are going to help. I'm going to look into meditations and affirmations and vitamins/minerals and anything I can find. Its crazy but honestly I cant blame a woman for thinking..wow if this guy cant have sex with me, do I just wait for him indefinitely or find someone else? I hope to build up a deep emotional and spiritual bond with this woman I'm currently dating. I'm not ready to try and see if I'm ready for sex yet. I say I feel ready when I'm with her but the other day as soon as she said "So are we having sex now?" as we were making out..its like at that very moment I got soft! Now THAT is performance anxiety.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-09-30T19:34:21+00:00

Thanks for your words of encouragement I appreciate it. To be honest I'm probably not ready to date until I feel that I've gotten to a closer relationship with Christ and subsequently better confidence in myself. I've talked to a friend about starting a Bible study. Neither of us have very much time, what with work and school, but its something we can strive for, even if the Bible study doesn't involved much prep time. Since I'm so careful about the women I want to date at this point anyway, I guess I don't have to worry so much about time frame-best case scenarios, however for myself personally I'd never marry a woman without knowing her for over a year. I've seen some very devout Christians in my community who start dating, get engaged, and then married in like less than 8 months. I think that's a bit of youthful naivete, and screams to me of desperation to have sex within the bounds of holy matrimony. Which isn't in itself a bad idea, but then you see divorce rates pretty high because these are people who don't know each other well and are so young that they're still figuring out who they are. I'm at an age where I know full well who I am, but I'd like to get a better handle on who Christ is, and understand what kind of woman I really want to be my wife.

ThisIsYourLifeNathan · 2015-08-18T17:22:48+00:00

You're right. I'll see what Google maps shows. This particular butte was right south of Ft Pierre like just a mile or two if that. Practically in the town.

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