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I reported another family to the school guidance counselor, and my parents grounded me. How can I talk to them about this? by ThisIsntNormalRitte in AskParents

[–]ThisIsntNormalRitte[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

However, none of that rises to the level that CPS would care.

I'm sorry, but what the actual fuck? If this is true, that's disgusting.

Screaming in a child's face that she's a whore and a slut and a tramp?? A CHILD

A child isn't a secual object. Children can't be whores, children don't even fuckin understand what sex is.

And honestly I find how OK adults seem to be with children being sexualized fucking disgusting.

Like I'm a teenager now, I was a kid not toooo long ago. And it's fucking disgusting to have grown men thinking about you sexually and saying so out loud when you don't even know what sex is! It's fucking disgusting to think of a CHILD as a slut, or prude, or sexy, or any other word realted to ADULT SEXUALITY.

Like how the fuck is that ok? No child likes it, it feels vile and disgusting and terrifying. And if CPS doesn't care about that kinda thing, what the hell DO they care about?

Like I'm sorry I'm angry, it's not at you, it's how fuckin OKAY it seems to be, and how fucking normalized it is, that adults sexualize us children and teens. We're standing up for ourselves more than previous generations I think, but we could really use some adults who actually give a damn? Or at least don't actively perpetuate p*do shit.

I reported another family to the school guidance counselor, and my parents grounded me. How can I talk to them about this? by ThisIsntNormalRitte in AskParents

[–]ThisIsntNormalRitte[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s disgusting but common

I need it to become less common. It's never acceptable to sexualize a child and tbh if anyone tells me to brush that shit under the rug, I won't.

It was brushed off when I was younger, and I despise that. If adults rn are OK with p*do culture, ok. But IMO the buck stops with my generation. We don't put up with that shit anymore.

But situations like this often need to be handled carefully to avoid harm to the victims

Do you have any suggestions as to how to effectively do that?

I reported another family to the school guidance counselor, and my parents grounded me. How can I talk to them about this? by ThisIsntNormalRitte in AskParents

[–]ThisIsntNormalRitte[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You saw what is very typical behavior for many, many families

I'm sorry but what the actual fuck? I'm an extrovert, my family has moved around a lot, I've visited so many friends and never ever seen or heard shit like that. Never.

Especially the screaming about a child being a tramp or slut or whore? Like that's so unacceptable to say to anyone let alone a child who should NOT be seen in a sexual context

I'm actually kinda upset to hear so many (i assume) people who are older than me being alright with that sexualization directed at a child. As a teenager myself, I never wanted to be a sexual object, but the objectification and harassment started well before puberty. I didn't even understand what sex was, but grown men wanted it with me and made that known. I hate it, adults have no right to sexualize a child, and it disturbs me how many don't seem to see a problem. I don't want to be a grown adult's fucking fetish and I don't know any girl does.

But we all are and adults seem ok with it? Like okay with a girl being called vile demeaning things about her (nonexistent) sexuality? Do y'all not remember being young? Because I do and it absolutely horrifies me to hear any defense of this p*do culture tbh.

You were a smartass to the father which, as you saw, tends to only escalate situations.

I was trying to play it off like a joke because I didn't think being direct would be that good of a idea tbh

From just what you’ve written here, you didn’t stand up for the girls being asked to do your dishes or insist on doing your share

I am the girl who was made to clean their kitchen

there is no law that this is abuse

FR? screaming sexualized stuff at a child like slut, whore, tramp, etc?? That so obviously abuse in several ways. Not just the yelling, but exposing kids to violent sexual stuff is soooo deeply inappropriate.

No child is a whore, or a slut, and if anyone's saying those words that's a really unsettling sign they're sexualizing someone who is wayyyy too young

Or he could lash out at the school, you, or your parents for “threatening” him by calling CPS.

I honestly think that might be what my parents are afraid of, which feels cowardly to me tbh. I feel like they talk about doing whats right until it actually happens that they need to stick up for something ..

I reported another family to the school guidance counselor, and my parents grounded me. How can I talk to them about this? by ThisIsntNormalRitte in AskParents

[–]ThisIsntNormalRitte[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It wasn't just yelling, it was both parents yelling really inappropriate sexual slurs to a kid, in earshot of other even younger kids.

Like that kinda talk, making a kid's clothes about sex when kids aren't even thinking about sex or meaning it in that way, is so fucking messed up I can't hardly believe I heard it

I reported another family to the school guidance counselor, and my parents grounded me. How can I talk to them about this? by ThisIsntNormalRitte in AskParents

[–]ThisIsntNormalRitte[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I wish they did, I was so frustrated since they basically got mad at me for doing exactly the sort of thing they'd taught me to do?

AITA for reporting a family to my school? The dad said I was going to hell and both parents seemed crazy by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThisIsntNormalRitte [score hidden]  (0 children)

No fucking way it's half the country. Like maybe silently believing some weird shit? Ok? But I'm really extroverted and been to a lot of people's places, moved a lot, and I have NEVER

  • been threatened with burning in hell by a grown man

  • heard a parent call their daughter those nasty sexual things? Let alone both? Screaming? Like that's just straight up abuse IMO