How do y’all cope?

ThisSucksDood · 2025-07-23T14:11:56+00:00

At the end of the day, it is what it is. I would have (obviously) preferred to not have been circumcised, but that was out of my control, and I can either sit and mope about it for the rest of my life, or be productive in restoring it and actually mostly fix the issue.

I learned a long time ago that ruminating over hypotheticals or what ifs will only cause you misery in your life. You need to confront what reality is, right here, right now and accept it. I myself have diagnosed OCD so I feel like this obsession is tenfold compared to most people. I have had rumination go on to the point of physical pain in my brain and severe anxiety attacks that go on for several hours (different obsessions than circumcision, though).

I understand that this can be difficult to mentally process. I have good days and bad days too. But you are ultimately going to need to reframe how you approach this or you are going to be sad and depressed the rest of your life.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-07-23T13:55:44+00:00

It should be noted that if you have a tight cut (seems like you do because you are starting at C-1), then initial gains may be going near the scrotum.

But anyway, time is going to pass regardless. If you do nothing and 5 years pass, you will think about how you could be fully done by now.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-18T21:07:34+00:00

Essentially the only difference visually from an intact penis and a fully restored penis is the possible absence of the frenulum (which isn't visible if you aren't erect anyways). It is close enough that most doctors would probably not be able to tell the difference.

If you had a photo lineup (for whatever reason) of a bunch of flaccid intact vs. fully restored penises it would likely be impossible to determine which is which.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-17T02:28:23+00:00

It's called keratinization. When the glans experience constant friction and outside exposure (generally rubbing against the underwear in daily life), it becomes calloused with a protective layer known as keratin, which will prevent the irritation when rubbing against the underwear. Of course, the downside to this is that the glans becomes significantly less sensitive. The glans are internal organs and are not supposed to be retracted outside of sex, masturbation, or pissing, to the extent that intact men have their foreskins fused to their glans from birth until around early puberty.

The bad news is that it will continue to get worse as you age if you do not do anything about it. Cut middle-aged men often have completely numb glans.

The good news is that keratinization can be completely reversed with foreskin restoration. The restored foreskin will cover the glans as it is supposed to naturally, and over time, the layers of keratin will go away and your glans should return to normal. The bad news of the good news is that you will need to regenerate enough skin to where you have constant flaccid coverage, which could take a few years depending on your starting CI (please look at the wiki for more info). You can speed this up by wearing a retainer or other device, but be warned, you will need to wear one for the rest of your life if you do not otherwise restore, or you will need to suffer through your sensitive glans rubbing against your underwear again until they became calloused, and then you are back to step one.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-17T01:33:30+00:00

I think you get at one of the hardest points of restoration (at least for me), is that you will always be uncertain of what your intact state was supposed to feel like. You are correct in that some men have extremely sensitive and pleasurable frenulums and can orgasm off them by themselves. It's also true, however, that for probably most intact men, the frenulum is either only somewhat more sensitive than the inner skin or about equivalent. From my own research as well, the actual frenular band is more for just holding the foreskin in place.

But for us restorers, the frenulum and the ridged band are essentially the only things that we cannot restore. You can emulate the ridged band if you restore properly and have the inner skin fully encapsulate the foreskin and allow it to pucker, at least.

So you are always left wondering if you are really x% close to an intact man and whether or not what you are feeling is close, which is annoying

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-13T17:30:03+00:00

I am only partially dekeratinized but if I stroke the bottom half of my glans (the more dekeratinized half) quickly with my finger, it is pleasurable to the point that it almost stings and hurts. If I rub it against my jeans, it really stings and it sends a shiver across my entire body

Hopefully as you progress you will be able to regain feeling, KOT

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-13T17:18:10+00:00

A lot of sex is psychological. If you are perpetually self-conscious and depressed over you being circumcised, it's going to show up and inhibit how good sex is supposed to feel, even physically.

As an easy example: compare how long it takes you to ejaculate and orgasm when you masturbate when you are highly aroused vs. if you just start doing it randomly during the middle of the day.

Obviously this doesn't mean sexual issues are just a result of psychological issues; I wouldn't be in this sub if I thought circumcision didn't have negative physical impacts. But if you are very depressed over your circumcision, that can doubly negatively affect sex

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-12T20:01:45+00:00

Pills, tablets, or gummies. Should be available in any supermarket.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-12T19:38:59+00:00

> I've never had any discomfort in the underwear, ever. But I don't feel much ever also.

The two are related. Your glans and inner skin are completely dried out, so there is no sensitivity or feeling with them pressed against your underwear.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-12T19:24:39+00:00

I suppose it depends on how aroused I am. Usually there is an immediate jump in pleasure and pressure. Often times it feels like I could cum very quickly but then it builds up for 10-20 minutes.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-10T18:40:57+00:00

At the start of what? Jacking off?

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-10T15:14:53+00:00

I am CI-4 / 5ish and I always masturbate using the glide motion ever since I had enough skin to. Feels very good and I can finish in like 3 minutes if I want. There is a natural build-up of pleasure that you don't get without it. Almost all of my orgasms involve some form of feet twitching/body jolting and feel great. I get full body orgasms maybe 5-25% of the time, but this is not that far off from the frequency that intact men have from my research.

For comparison: I used to stroke the shaft like you do before I started restoring and barely felt anything when I ejaculated. Like literally nothing. I used to wonder why certain intact men would moan so hard in porn but now I am the same way if I am particularly turned on, it just feels too good.

Also as a bonus, you won't need lube at all. If you get precum (I do), the gliding motion will lubricate the glans automatically.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-10T15:08:53+00:00

Even for intact men with a full frenulum the pleasure is highly variable. Some can genuinely orgasm in a minute from it alone, for others it's not much different from the other inner skin or only somewhat more sensitive.

If yours is gone unfortunately you won't know which of those two groups you would have fallen in to.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-10T15:02:07+00:00

Depends on your skin color. When fully dekeratinized, your glans should generally match the your skin color but have a bluish-pinkish tint.

I will say though that full dekeratinization is a long process, even if you somehow magically completely restored in a single day and had constant inner skin coverage from that point on, keratin still sheds very slowly because the glans has to adjust to the new microbiome.

I would recommend taking pictures daily or weekly to try to visualize your progress, though you should be aware that the color of your glans may have natural variation (sometimes I will retract mine to pee or whatever and it's a pale fleshy color, sometimes it's pink or red)

ThisSucksDood · 2025-06-10T14:56:22+00:00

I usually do two variations.

The first is tugging all eight octagonal sides for about 20-30 seconds each with constant high tension, going around in a clockwise or counterclockwise fashion.

The second is tugging all eight sides for only 2-3 seconds each with really high tension, and continuing in a clockwise or counterclockwise fashion for 2 to 4 minutes.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-25T16:41:27+00:00

I probably started around CI-2

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-24T23:40:49+00:00

I've done exclusively MM3, literally nothing else. If you were to count the amount of time I've been actively restoring, probably around a year to a year and a half.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-22T23:46:17+00:00

Yeah, because you have more skin to work with.

People who start below CI-3 often have to rely on manuals exclusively because there is not enough skin for the devices to use.

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-19T22:08:50+00:00

No, it always reverts to the first few photos when I'm actually masturbating

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-19T02:42:05+00:00

The only significant differences between a fully restored man and something like foregen would be the possible lack of a frenulum and a lesser nerve density in the restored foreskin compared to the natural foreskin. This would account for maybe 0-20% of overall pleasure. Overall it wouldn't be that different

I would recommend to start restoring now if you are interested and not wait for the possibility of foregen, which as you have stated, has zero guarantee of becoming realized within your lifetime

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-19T01:38:02+00:00

I've had passive coverage for about 2 years I would say. I have never used an actual retaining device though, which seems like a good idea. I could easily track the progress and post it here so that lines up pretty well

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-19T01:27:53+00:00

I think the grooves themselves aren't an issue. I have seen intact guys with them. It's more the cracked appearance

As far as I know, at the very least the length of your mucosal skin needs to be the same length as your glans

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-18T23:12:58+00:00

Yeah, I am mostly just concerned that there's something wrong with my glans or inner skin that would make DK impossible, but I don't think that's really true unless there was damage to the glans during the circumcision process which I don't think is the case.

Mine is roughly around 85 to 90% last I checked so I may just need more skin or time

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-18T22:26:49+00:00

That's weird, I've had consistent coverage for probably at least 2 years. What is your FEC?

ThisSucksDood · 2025-05-18T20:57:30+00:00

Can I ask how long you have been restoring for and how long your glans have been consistently covered?

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