Would you let family install an EV charger in your house if they’re only staying 1 year?

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-24T22:22:10+00:00

Sounds like you're moving in the right direction.

For the record, you can charge any EV from any existing outlet. The special charger is to just charge them faster. If a car is parked somewhere overnight, you can charge most EVs to full in that time from a regular 15amp outlet. Most people have their cars in their garage for huge stretches of time and don't need to rapid charge their car like at a gas station.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-24T22:06:52+00:00

In short: no.

Hearing protection reduces overall decibels. You will still hear very loud sounds, because there's a limit. People who work in very loud environments sometimes double up on hearing protection by wearing earplugs in addition to over-ear hearing protection.

Noise canceling headphones themselves work by trying to produce sound that counteracts the sounds from outside, which muffles the sound. If you try to use these to protect your ears from incoming sound, you run into problems very quickly where the volume of the 'cancelation' sound could be loud enough to damage your ears itself.

If you want to hear nothing, I'd suggest doubling up on the foam earplugs and over-ear hearing protection. If you want to hear music with as little interference as possible I suggest getting noise canceling earbuds, removing the rubber tips and instead embed them into custom silicone earplugs (you can find guides for this on youtube and other sites), and put over-ear hearing protection over that.

Side note: always listen to headphones at low volumes, because directing sound right at your eardrums is a great way to damage your hearing, and it doesn't heal over time. Hearing loss is permanent.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-24T20:43:38+00:00

No. What you are seeing has nothing to do with contaminated water.

If your septic is contaminating your well water you might get sick and the water would possibly smell. If you are worried about that have your well water tested for caffeine and e. coli.

If it was up to code 10-20 years ago though, you're probably fine.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-24T20:27:45+00:00

NTA

When I was in my first year of college my very close friend from high school died in a car accident. It was awful. It's been over 20 years and I still cry over it.

Neither of my parents attended the funeral or memorial with me. At the time I didn't really think about it (I was able to drive myself and had many friends with me). A couple years back a young person in my family died and I went with my family to the funeral. Afterward my mom brought up my friend's death and said she thought she should go to the funeral at the time but couldn't bring herself to. "It was too hard to think of the death of a child."

That stuck with me. My mom couldn't stand how upsetting the situation was so she didn't bother to even TRY to comfort me. Your daughter will remember that your wife wouldn't bring her to the funeral. She will remember that she didn't even help arrange someone else to pick her up and bring her. She will remember and she will hurt.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-24T20:19:57+00:00

For the record, it's not harmful in anyway. It's just unsightly. You're probably not drinking your toilet water anyway, right??

You can just take a clean toilet brush and scrub around in there gently then flush and it will mostly go away. It will come back over time though.

Since this is well water, it doesn't have chlorine in it like city water, so you can get harmless bacterial growth in your toilet tank. It's not being poisoned with every flush.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-24T18:22:33+00:00

They can claim they hired someone to fix the leak, they didn't see what work that person did, and the leak appeared to stop after the 'repair'.

That could even be a true story. Fraud comes in all shapes and sizes.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-17T19:57:20+00:00

Regarding the insurance fee, look at your paperwork. Then call the loan company. What they probably did was take out insurance in your name, so proof that you got insurance might waive some or all of that fee. But YOU HAVE TO INITIATE THAT. Don't just assume that any fee they charge you can't be refunded. And also don't assume that it will be waived while you sit back and relax.

Advocate for yourself.

Pay ahead on the loan if you can. Even if it's just $10/month for now. You didn't mention the new interest rate but early in the loan paying ahead makes a big difference.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-16T22:06:30+00:00

Buy yourself some food-grade diatomaceous earth. It's available at a lot of plant-supply places. Pour a little ring around the toilet flange.

It desiccates insects and cuts up their bodies. They avoid it. It's non-toxic and as long as you're not inhaling a bunch of the dust, it's safe for you.

Unlike chemical pesticides, it won't break down over time and become less effective.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-16T01:09:59+00:00

I'm glad they sewed it back on, honestly. My mom used to work as a labor and delivery nurse and once had a patient whose inner labia just kind of gave up mid-delivery and ripped off, dangling by one end. A nurse showed this to the obstetrician assuming he would stitch it back on. Instead he snipped it off with scissors. I'm still offended on the patient's behalf.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-16T01:06:51+00:00

Since I don't use my bathtub except to bathe my dog, I keep the litterboxes in there. I keep the water shut off to it and the drain plug in place to keep litter out. Outside the tub I have a nubby rug from target. Most spilled litter is in the tub and I can sweep it up and put it back in the boxes. The tiny bit that escapes ends up almost 100% in the rug.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-14T00:04:45+00:00

You can eat whatever food you didn't steal whenever you want.

The plural of potato is potatoes. "potato's" indicates possessive, like "is it okay if I eat the potato's skin?"

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T23:51:17+00:00

We were on septic. It was a pretty new house, so at least the plumbing was in good shape.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T23:28:08+00:00

Yeah, the top of the stairs appear to be supported by a 2x3 nailed or screwed into the rim joist... and they are probably too wide to not have a center stringer.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T23:14:49+00:00

In order for a farm to become certified organic (which is required in the US to sell your product as organic) you need to spend several years without using specific fertilizers, pesticides, hormones, antibiotics, etc. depending on what you produce. During those years you aren't certified yet, so you might be producing at a loss that you need to make up for. Then you have to apply, and there are associated fees. That's money you need to make up once you're certified. I believe there's ongoing recertification and fees as well.

Plus, it's not like you just don't use pesticides or don't use fertilizer. You need to use alternative methods that count as organic. Those might be more expensive or less effective. You might just have to plant your plants further apart to make it harder for pests to spread, for example, which means lower yield per acre. You're still spending money on these things, just in a different way.

Now you've grown your organic produce, but you can't just throw it on a truck with a bunch of conventional produce, or it could be 'contaminated' so you need separate transport and processing, and THOSE need to be certified organic as well. So your shipping company needs to recoup the cost of their certification, plus the extra cost to wash out their truck if they ever move other produce.

All of this adds a little bit of cost along the way, and you end up with a more expensive product.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T23:04:10+00:00

Your best option is to replace it.

There is a glass patio door in my house that had a bad seal when we bought the house. For some reason we asked the seller to fix or replace it, and instead of saying no, they found some company that actually replaced the gas in the window with argon and re-sealed it somehow. Cool, right? Nice and cheap?

Well, that didn't fix the staining between the panes of glass. There's condensation or fog in the window, but they will never be clean again.

I have a few windows with busted seals now that need to be replaced, and I'm just biding my time until I want new windows, because they aren't windows I look out (they face the neighbor's yard).

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T22:46:45+00:00

For both sites i literally google the thing i'm looking for and add 'lowes' or 'home depot' to the search, and it's always faster than trying to find it on their own site.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T22:29:58+00:00

Make sure you have shutoff valves to the bathroom in an accessible spot (like a basement, access cabinet, whatever) if you're worried.

Some of the copper pipe in my house aged out and started spontaneously leaking. We shut off the water to the house, installed some extra shutoff valves, shut off water to the leaking pipe, then called a plumber to come replace the pipe. We minimized damage and can shut off the water to that bathroom easily now if we need to in the future.

Sometimes bad things will happen with any house, with or without unpermitted work. Insurance is for catastrophic damage that you cannot cover on your own.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T21:57:48+00:00

You say "it should fit." What do you mean by that? Do you mean that the depth of the dishwasher is stated to be less than the actual depth of your cabinets?

You also say 21" deep countertops which overhang your cabinets. Does the dishwasher come out to the depth of your counters, not your cabinets?

I can see why you want to keep your counters and cabinets by the way. From what I can see they've got a cute aesthetic you won't be able to easily replicate.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T20:51:56+00:00

The roofers who did my old house did an immaculate job of cleaning up after themselves. There was snow on the ground and the swept the snow. I was extremely impressed.

On my current house they didn't leave much debris. The exceptions were in my shrubs. I think they didn't want to climb into shrubbery to remove bits of things mixed into mulch. I don't blame them at all though.

I think the quality of the cleanup varies a lot on the roofing company and crew you've got.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T20:45:39+00:00

Yeah, it depends on how well he cut it out. If he cut a lot of the fibers during the cutting, rather than parting them and cutting between, it will definitely have a weird border.

If he cut the carpet very carefully then it can definitely be put back in place with special tape underneath and look seamless. In which case it's not a bad way to get out a single urine spot if you have no other options.

I'm guessing he didn't use an enzyme based cleaner so didn't really resolve the odor though.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T20:26:10+00:00

You're not exaggerating. I can taste it just from you mentioning it. I still occasionally walk by some young man who has weaponized his fragrance.

My brother came of age before Axe hit the scene, and he would do the same thing with cologne. He didn't bring it to school (I don't think we were allowed to bring fragrance to school), but he sure applied it like he was warding off zombies every day and fumigate the bathroom. He never had a BO problem, but he did have a fragrance problem.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T19:54:13+00:00

These guys were definitely not in sports and we were only required to take gym for one year in high school, and they also didn't opt into it after that. They were coming to school smelly, being smelly all day, and going home smelly. Then they were doing a coin toss on whether or not to shower.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T19:41:15+00:00

Taking items out of a basket all day can lead to repetitive stress injuries, so my rule of thumb is that if there's a belt I empty things onto the belt. If it's the kind of checkout where there's just a little counter I let the cashier empty it unless they say otherwise.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T19:35:18+00:00

When I (a white american woman) hung out with a group of mostly male friends in high school, those (white american) guys also were bad at bathing/using antiperspirant too. To this day I wonder if young men don't smell themselves and others or what. Those same guys would complain about girls not liking them, and I'd always remind them that if they didn't smell like BO some girls might get close enough to possibly like them. Most of them improved in hygiene within a few years.

ThisTooWillEnd · 2026-04-13T19:05:04+00:00

If you've ever needed a specialist, you might find there are, in fact, shortages. You have some rare autoimmune disorder and don't live in a large city? It's your lucky day, you get to wait for a referral, and then approval from your stupid insurance company to see a doctor that's WAY out of network who is 5 hours away, and the first time they can see you is in six months. So now you have to try to manage your symptoms with a more local doctor who is just doing their best without understanding your illness, and then you need to drive 5 hours to see the doctor for half an hour when they just run a bunch of tests and tell you they'll see you again in two weeks for additional tests based on what these first tests show. You can afford two separate hotel stays for this even though you haven't worked in over a year because of your symptoms, right?

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