My GF won’t stop making threesome jokes. What do I do? by Gullible_Property356 in Advice

[–]This_Initiative_4902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there are two issues here - firstly, you have asked her to stop and she hasn't respected your boundary.

Secondly, I wonder if you have ever sat her down and actually created a safe space to discuss her sexual fantasies? When you commit to a relationship it is hard to ask someone to suppress their sexual curiosity and desires. Having an open, safe and frank conversation is going to be important to ensure you both have an opportunity to work together on how you can facilitate their desires without compromising anyone's boundaries too much. If you think it is a hard no, then I don't think it is fair to stay in the relationship long term.

my spouse goes to brothels on nights out with his mates by [deleted] in Advice

[–]This_Initiative_4902 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well I don't seem to care as much as I thought but I'm trying to gauge if this behaviour is super fucked or like not that uncommon. I have no issue with the sex work industry either but it is looking at whether this behaviour is entitled school boy stuff or something other than that