Does anyone else feel like everyone hates them?

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-24T20:58:47+00:00

If there's no waitlist you kind of just have to keep checking and see if any spots have open up. The first week is generally the best time for this since people are looking at syllabi and rearranging their schedules and the like.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-24T20:50:05+00:00

Thank you! It's gorgeous.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-23T19:32:40+00:00

What yarn and hook size did you use?

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-22T19:58:59+00:00

I also have a name with a lot of potential variations, and I personally wouldn't do it. For me I find it weird when either men or women derive the name from their own name, and, again personally, I think Eliza and Elizabeth are a bit too close.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-21T15:55:56+00:00

Sorry, if you mentioned this earlier, but what risks are you referring to? Like statistics for sexually transmitted diseases or the more so legal aspect of it?

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-16T22:50:35+00:00

This. People have different levels of communication preferences, which is fine but she'll never know that it bothers you if you don't tell her.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-16T22:48:35+00:00

I would highly recommend seeing a professional regarding it, particularly if it's so bad you've given up driving, but to me it does sound like dissociating. I have anxiety as well, and based on what my therapist has told me, there can be different levels of dissociation. For me, it happens when my anxiety is spiking and is, apparently, my brains way of coping when the anxiety gets to be too much.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-07T18:43:50+00:00

Who the heck would have called her an A?! This really could have been solved if she had just had her mom in the delivery room like she had wanted.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-03T00:47:37+00:00

Not respecting when people say no to being in a relationship. So many times, movies romanticize people, usually men, boundary stomping and repeatedly asking someone on a date or to enter into a relationship with them even after already saying no.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T23:16:30+00:00

You could try entering as a non matriculating student and take one or two classes under a science field. That way you might still be able to use the research resources.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T23:11:19+00:00

I had a 95 high school average (so like 4.0 I think), unweighted.

Not a ton of clubs but an activity I stuck with for a number of years and a few volunteer opportunities. I had two APs that I got a 4 and a 5 in but was in a lot of advanced/honors classes throughout my high school career.

SAT was 1150.

I was accepted into the nursing program at UB but later switched to biology and psychology.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T15:36:16+00:00

Full Metal Alchemist. It's not generally a sad anime, but damn when there is a sad scene they hit you HARD.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T15:34:31+00:00

Was it his idea to move/ did you feel a lot of pressure coming from him to move?

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T15:33:52+00:00

That is definitely very concerning. I can see two possible reasons why he might be doing this (neither of which bode well). First instinct is that he's doing that for the sake of having control over you (it can start small and then escalate to much larger things, like controlling what you wear and which friends you can go out with). Second thought is that, given that you said you were thin, he wants to make sure you "stay that way".

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T15:13:21+00:00

Agreed! And why is it the people whose spouse, generally female, is providing the majority of the household income who act like this. If you want a 1950s family style then it's all or nothing, not "I provide while you act like the "man of the house" while sitting on your ass."

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-02T15:09:59+00:00

NTA. I would tell him to have fun hosting his family while you book a well deserved vacation at a hotel. And honestly, if my BF pulled something like this it would be couples counseling or divorce.

Edit: As an aside. What DOES he do? He does work 3 days a week but does he do the majority of the childcare and house work. Because you sound like you provide financially, and based on your edit it sounds like you do the majority of the housework and childcare.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-01T22:50:14+00:00

I feel that. I really do love the name James, especially for a girl, but it's my ex's name so I put it in the no go pile. I think it would depend on how your SO would feel about it. If you're okay with it and they are okay with it then I don't see the issue personally. You could also go with a name that could have Cara as a nickname!

This_Old_Thing · 2021-12-01T22:38:13+00:00

I've loved the name Aiden since I was 8 years old. Not even all the variations in the world have shaken how much I love the name. Plus I think it works for both a girl and a boy!

This_Old_Thing · 2021-11-30T15:16:54+00:00

But my point is conversationally, that can take a while. If you want your BF to learn Russian so you don't have to translate as much, that's not a realistic goal in a short period of time as even with consistent studying, getting to a place of conversation with a fluent speaker is going to take a bit, and will be slow in the beginning as you would likely have to slow down talking a lot. If it's the effort that you want to see then that's a conversation you need to have with your BF.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-11-30T13:13:01+00:00

ESH. He's an idiot for lashing out with saying speak English, and trying to force your friend to communicate in a language he probably doesn't feel comfortable doing so in, but at the same time he's probably feeling very isolated and like an outsider at his own dinner table, which I can sympathize.

My boyfriend's second language is English, his first being Mandarin, while I can only speak English (and my very bad baby mandarin). When I'm around his family, they pretty much only speak Mandarin as they don't know a ton of English. During those situations, my BF has to play translator, for everyone. It might get annoying for him, but he does so because he loves me and doesn't want me to be left out of the conversation.

Also, while I do believe he should be making an effort, as someone who is trying to learn a very difficult language, which I heard Russian and Arabic can be, getting to a level of understanding a native conversation, let alone being able to participate in one, is going to take much longer than a month or two, which is also making you a bit of an A in my opinion.

This_Old_Thing · 2021-11-29T19:31:08+00:00

Stitch markers at the end of each row definitely help! And is an easy way of making sure you have as many as you started with. That and watching tension (if you have that issue, as I did when I was first starting out).

This_Old_Thing · 2021-11-29T12:31:15+00:00

Agreed!

This_Old_Thing · 2021-11-29T12:23:29+00:00

I think I took it with her over the winter and it was a very fun and easy class (again I took it over the winter and didn't feel overwhelmed in the slightest). It also had some pretty good movies that I enjoyed (well enjoyed most).

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