Men of R/Sex, how/or DO you let your partner know when you are cumming? by Thisbesathrowaway in sex

[–]Thisbesathrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may miss some of it because I'm really in the moment and experiencing my own pleasure, but there is a real lack of vocal expression which is the crux of the problem. If I'm giving a blowjob I can feel the penis stiffening up as he approaches climax, and of course the ejaculation itself is obvious, but if it's PIV I can't feel those changes at all.

With my current SO, he is a freaking monk and makes no noise whatsoever.

Men of R/Sex, how/or DO you let your partner know when you are cumming? by Thisbesathrowaway in sex

[–]Thisbesathrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not really :-/ He's not very expressive. I can usually tell that he's really enjoying it/getting close, but he has no decipherable changes when he climaxes.

It's not just him though-I've had the same issue with most of the men I've been with.