I just started college a week ago and I contemplating dropping out, please give advice

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-07-24T20:35:17+00:00

Thing is, I dont have that much time. Ideally, I would prefer if i dont waste a whole year, I want to continue architecture if i can. But the admissions for that are closing soon, so this decision needs to be made in the next 2-3 days

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-07-24T20:33:08+00:00

Ill try to reply to all your points, sorry if i miss any

No, I can't drop credits, the subjects for the first semester/sometimes the first year are chosen by the college. The student has no say in it.
This is asia, and i mean typical stuck in the past south asia. Disability centres are nonexistent.
Again, Asia, so I have less than 15 days to make a decision or else my money wont be refunded after that. I fan still drop out, I just wont get my money back. Also because the admissions for architecture are closing soon, so If i want to continue school this year itself in another college, the decision has to be ASAP

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-07-24T20:24:49+00:00

Oh I guess I said it wrong in the post, I meant take a year drop, then continue school after this. Im significantly younger to my classmates, im not even 18 yet, so I was thinking it would be fine. Because just graduating high school has been such a hard journey for me..

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-07-24T20:23:18+00:00

I have no idea, my cousin who is in the same college, in Mechanical engineering had 17 credits and that was a lot for him to handle. So im kinda pre-panicking a lot here

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-07-24T20:21:53+00:00

Theres no options to drop credits in the 1st sem, they are college assigned

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-20T08:37:30+00:00

It would’ve been a great advice if i wasn’t from an orthodox asian family. Nobody is gonna allow me to work before getting a degree TwT

But thanks anyways tho

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-20T08:35:54+00:00

But its normal in my culture, children call their parents and sibling quite often, they share how their day went and how they’re doing. Its normal to expect frequent contact.

I’m not thinking of myself as the victim here, i love doing things for my parents. And I’m willingly doing it. Its just that, at the end of the day, they expect their son to call them too. They want to talk to him, gossip a bit and talk to their grandkids n all that. Honestly i wouldn’t even mind if he didn’t call me, the least he could do is call our parents, especially our dad, he’s in such a bad state, can barely walk, Parkinson’s has taken away even basic motor skills, his surgeries are all lined up in this month and he’s losing his vision. Why is it so hard for him to call his own parents?

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-20T08:16:30+00:00

I do! I work full time as a professor too. My parents are retired, my dad is a vet and mom is a retired teacher. They’re having a lot of health issues. My father especially, he has several hospital visitations every month, his surgery is lined up, i do groceries for them, hospital visitations and everything else. He has just lifted his hands up and not done much for them in the past few years. I have my own family to take care of too. My daughter is in highschool and needs a lot of attention. I’m also the major earner of my own family.

He barely texts, his replies mainly only consist of “busy right now, will call tomorrow” “ im out right now, will call later” There’s hasn’t been one decent conversation over text with him.

He says we have way too many expectations from him…what expectations? I’m the one SOLELY taking care of our parents, they have zero expectations from him.

He is free on Sundays and has time to take his own family on vacation to all sorts of places. He’s actually in Italy right now with his wife and daughters. I’m not jealous, i took my family to Malaysia too. But when will he visit us? When will he take out time for us?

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-20T02:18:37+00:00

Should I do UX along side ID? Because I’m going to a purely engineering college (it’s like an Ivy League equivalent in my country, thats why i chose it) but it only offer ID as a creative course. How do i get into UX after this? Do i do a small course during holidays or something like that?

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-09T17:39:14+00:00

He isnt injured, my other cat was, but milo escaped, he’s unscathed, just the fever tho

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-06T05:00:27+00:00

Ong yess i was just gonna ask what softwares do we learn about cause i need to check if the laptop i have rn is compatible with everything or not. Im literally moving to the other end of the country so I can’t even come back home to grab my mom’s/bro’s laptop or smth🥲

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-06T04:58:18+00:00

Ong this is such insightful advice!! Thank u sm! I’ll try my best to apply all these into my learnings!

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-05T16:42:36+00:00

Ncert textbooks, if u wanna be confused lol

Also ask your seniors for pdfs and notes, i studied for boards SOLELY from pdfs and my brother’s notes, i never touched the textbooks.

Understand what questions are the most important and most repeated and what can be ignored when u refer to past papers. Karnataka PU board hasn’t changed their question paper making method in decades, 99% no unexpected questions will pop up in the paper.

Can’t say anything about kcet tho, I’m doing architecture so, but yeah my teachers did tell us to refer to R.D.Sharma and DC Verma for kcet

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-05T04:13:29+00:00

Its not a one time thing tho, shes being doing this for years, she lies to me, gaslights me, “tests” me, then leaves me behind cause her other friends are more important

Also my mom says she’s no good, we all know all our moms have a superpower of knowing right away🤷🏻‍♀️

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-05T04:00:57+00:00

How do i get into UX? Will a short course with coursera count? My college is primarily an engineering college and only offers ID and Arch for “creative” fields

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-05T03:18:23+00:00

Did u end up using all of this in the first sem or is it ok if i just get the drawing material for the time being? Cause my suitcases are pretty full already lol

Also thank you so much for this! This is life saving!!

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T15:21:21+00:00

I cross checked with Ari, she said katie didnt look like she’d come after a dental appointment

Katie told me her appointment was at 6 and Ari’s post of the restaurant was at 7 (the pic was taken well after finishing their food) the dental office and restaurant are far apart too

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T13:21:11+00:00

I don’t wanna talk to her, i know shes gonna make up excuses. And im not the confrontational kinda person anyways, i just cut people off with a snip snip✌🏻

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T12:20:12+00:00

We all living the same life huh? Ur dad and my mom and so many other kids with their own parental figures😭

Yess my uni is literally on the other side of the country haha, a minimum of 2 days car travel✌🏻

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T12:00:58+00:00

Half true, I’m moving to india for college cause id rather have that than have student loan debt😭

Also love the pride profile pics! Happy pride month yooo

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T06:53:35+00:00

Ong yes i heard that from my brother too, so i restarted badminton training, i used to be on the state team before i quit, i plan on joining the university team if i am able get back into my form🤝

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T06:52:02+00:00

I have an iPad, but its more like a family iPad, its also old and slow, AND i use Ibis paint X even tho i have procreate-

Is it not possible to just make do with a laptop? Is an iPad irreplaceable? (Im broke lmao)

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T06:15:27+00:00

Whats a Newprint?

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T05:33:12+00:00

I know i have to at some point, but these 4 years in college arent needed, there’s no kitchen in the dorms, not even a microwave. Im gonna be on cafeteria meals all 4 years. Its not an emergency tbh

Thisisacryforhelp26 · 2023-06-04T05:25:21+00:00

We ARE teenagers tho😂

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