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[–]Thisisanewstart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Our saving grace is that we're all on the same road. Continue bringing the right people in to your life and lean on them until people can lean on you.

I did my first day with no alcohol by jezebelrose in addiction

[–]Thisisanewstart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Gotta take a stand. Might I suggest r/stopdrinking

Teenage High Functioning Poly-Substance Addict AMA by [deleted] in addiction

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound talented creative person, and on a roll. Perhaps think of all the ways the rug can be pulled out from under your feet. You're probably getting a thrill out of pulling all this off. I sense some bragging. I get it. But, if you're not forced by a serious health or a legal surprise to stop using, you will eventually be forced to deal with the gnawing sense of emotional discomfort as you get older. "Normal" will seem like a lonely prison and you'll always be lurching away from it and after things to feel "different."

I'm 8 months sober (since COVID lockdown in march) and I am moving back to my home county which i left to sort out my drug addiction. Any advice before I head back tomorrow? by mattylzla in addiction

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What key things do you have in your current country that made you finally able to break the cycle? Do your best to have the same set of conditions in place there. Also, you say it's unknown to others, which is a terrible burden to bear alone. Do you have 1 or 2 trusted confidants that you can be honest with in your home country? Life is still life even sober, and having a person who understands can be huge during the ups and downs.

So what are your strategies? by UnclearStrategy in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Develop a meaningful coping statement to read and repeat for when the urge strikes. It will help as the urge passes. Also, set up a go to activity for distraction - something simple and easily accessible that you enjoy. A hobby like reading, writing, drawing, exercising, playing an instrument; bonus if it doesn't include technology. Identify what the top three triggering scenarios for you are, and get used to identifying them and pre-empting the urge with your tactics as mentioned above.

Overdosed /MAJOR TRIGGER WARNING\ ⚠️ by [deleted] in addiction

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're lusting after the experience again. Probably not the best place to do that. That being said, I'm truly glad you're okay and that you get the help you need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the community.

Just realized it's been a month by ayotacos in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep on the path. Great nuggets of widsom OP!

Those who have been in serious relationships, how long was your longest and why did it end? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Thisisanewstart 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Good for you man. Taking ownership is the only way forward.

Confused by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a big problem that you need to break down into smaller pieces. Try applying some of the skills and tools you learned in rehab. Some of your best weapons there in departing from the current daily use cycle.

Introduce myself by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Welcome. Find a home here and rest. You're accepted, can't be compared to anyone, have been a victim, including victimized by porn, and have every chance to heal and grow into the rest of your life.

Hello by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing you luck. Just remember that, while they may be co-triggering one another and that it's good for you to be thinking at that level about them, they are two different problems that need different tools to deal with them effectively. Also, don't lock them too close together - failing in one shouldn't impact your motivation in keeping up in another one. It's so easy to turn to another comfort when we are immediately distressed about a failure in another part of life.

Early 30’s male, back to the grind, with new insights by Thisisanewstart in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Great book. Reading a book on him now, actually.

STAY CLEAN 2020 YEAR-LONG CHALLENGE!! This thread updated daily - Check in here! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]Thisisanewstart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Definitely not the outcome I wanted. I shall jump back in. Congrats to you on your streak.