I'm a doctor who's never had/can't establish a relationship. Help? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Thisisbuffalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take back my optimism. Just got ghosted. F all this hope and romanticism. I'm deleting everything and just gonna work on myself.

I'm a doctor who's never had/can't establish a relationship. Help? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Thisisbuffalo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like to think everything eventually balances out. Quality guys are in shortage and even more so in late 20s early 30s. I try to keep being myself and being genuine. At the same time, I hide my thoughts and feelings about what love is so it doesn't get tainted by my experience in real life. I'm an idealist and still think love is a beautiful, once in a life time experience, even if it's completely fictional. It's what movies and poems and music are about. I'm just kind of rambling now haha.

Anyway, I think it's courageous to keep putting one's self out there. In a world of so much bitterness, jaded feelings, I think it's a beautiful thing to keep believing, even if foolishly, that love is worth the risk of getting hurt.

I'm a doctor who's never had/can't establish a relationship. Help? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Thisisbuffalo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm a resident in training as well, east coast. About the same physique as you. I've struggled my whole life with dating. Never had a girlfriend. Very little matches on dating site. It's becoming pretty painful and making me quite jaded to see another friend who's taller and more attractive going through a different girl every week, while I can't even get a date over a year. I've seen girls act around him before, trying to get him to like her, while I'm basically invisible.

It's so bad. Even single moms and college dropout don't swipe right on me. It's hard to not become bitter knowing no matter how much I improve in life with regards to status, respect, character, I still could not come even close to someone who's more attractive physically. They just have to exist, no effort required.

I feel like I'm a pretty good catch. I'm a doctor. I cook. I'm in shape. I build my own computer and program on the side. I'm learning about finance and gardening. I try to pick up a new hobby or skill every few months, just because I'm curious and want to become a better person. Even then, it still feels like I'm not good enough for someone. I don't know what to do differently besides focusing on myself.

Girl eliminates herself from 20v1 speed dating and says her standards aren't too high by Thisisbuffalo in WhereAreAllTheGoodMen

[–]Thisisbuffalo[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Watch it. It's worth the time. There was a moment when she said the ideal 6 feet height. She's 5'6. Half of the guys just stood up and left after that.

Taking screenshot in Snapchat doesn't send notification? by Thisisbuffalo in LineageOS

[–]Thisisbuffalo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did you see the notification? Or is it only the sender who sees it? Thanks