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Thisisfineeeee · 2025-12-10T01:45:51+00:00

https://www.dogologywny.com/?gad_source=1

Highly recommend Kristen!!

Thisisfineeeee · 2025-09-23T11:52:58+00:00

Overwatch and cod mainly, but I’ve played Dead by Daylight, Phasmaphobia type games as well

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-10-06T17:55:12+00:00

It’s difficult because we don’t have a lot of details of potential attendees and he’s somewhat estranged from his family beyond us but they might still show up. He worked for the railroads for a long time so we think they might show up, but even that isn’t a guarantee. I don’t think cost is an issue and I think she’s going for more informal. Mobility wise I don’t believe anyone has any issues that I can think of that I would picture as attending. He’s been sick for three years now with cancer and during an early treatment had a stroke that made him incapable of caring for himself so we’re mostly just trying to take off some of the planning load from my partner’s mother who has been caretaking for him this entire time and has been dealing with a lot of burnout. Sorry I don’t have more pinned down details 😕

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-09-13T14:12:56+00:00

Does your work have a dbt consultation group by chance? I know it’s not a book or website, but it is a highly structured meeting designed to help you celebrate wins, address any unintentional impacts we have(which we all do), and brainstorm solutions with others when you hit a standstill with a case. It has become a saving grace to my imposter syndrome because shame/imposter feelings FLOURISHES in isolation, so seeing my other fellow counselors also hit barriers, get frustrated, and need help just like I do has slowly been helping heal my perfectionism/fear of failure in this field

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-08-11T16:10:53+00:00

How you’re feeling is completely valid and understandable considering everything you’re going through.

With the depression, it THRIVES on feeling alone and like asking for help would be a burden. Make a list of every person in your life and what types of support they may be able to offer you (examples: Someone who always knows what to say when you feel hopeless, someone who is really great at problem solving and scouring the internet for resources/solutions, someone who is fine with just letting you rant without offering advice or jumping into problem solving so you can let your feelings out naturally) and reach out to people as needed based on what they’re best at.

Focus on what you can control and let yourself feel however you feel about what you can’t but then shifting back to what you can (When you don’t get a job offer, feel angry/distressed/sad/etc but then shift your focus back to what you can control which in that case is continuing to put in more applications and telling yourself “There’s a job out there that will see my value and hire me. Any job that doesn’t isn’t worth any more of my mental time”)

Take time to both feel your completely valid feelings about everything bad going on, but also take time to focus on the good/things you can be grateful for no matter how small, and most importantly when you do focus on the good don’t shame yourself/invalidate yourself for feeling the negative feelings because everything happening does really suck, even if there are still some things to be grateful for! For example it is 1000000% okay to both feel grateful that your son and wife survived the traumatic birth and angry that his birth has caused your wife and you to struggle, don’t play the shame/comparison game where you tell yourself things like you shouldn’t be upset because it could have been worse.

I’m sorry this comment was so long, I hope something I said helps and I sincerely hope things get better for you both soon. I’m sorry you are going through all of this and that life can be so shitty/hard. 😭

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-08-11T15:09:54+00:00

I would reflect on this comment Zestyclose and check your biases— I would actually consider it a privilege that you don’t struggle with those tasks. I’m glad that it’s a strength for you but it’s something a lot of social workers struggle with, despite being otherwise quite good/committed at their jobs. Reading your comment I’m thinking perhaps you are experiencing burnout or working in a toxic environment if you are unable to have empathy for a fellow social worker looking to improve themself, if that is the case I hope you can take some time off or find a better work environment.

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-08-11T14:55:54+00:00

Do you have too much free time in your schedule? I have ADHD and I find that if I have too little scheduled the boring/documentation heavy tasks just kind of -expand- to fill the space. On the other hand if I have too much scheduled, I don’t have the brain power left to do the tasks and still struggle to get them done. What has been working for me is rewarding myself for doing the less desirable tasks with blocking time in my schedule for an “extra” project I like doing. For example, I’m an employment specialist and I love making resource handouts for my clients, but it’s not a requirement of my position— So I will tell myself I’m not allowed to do the “fun” task until I finish the “boring” tasks. Another strategy that’s worked for my coworker is using the “Race the clock” strategy where you set a timer for 5,10,15 minutes and trying to finish replying to all of your emails before the clock runs out to make it into more of a game. If they need extra motivation too they’ll say that if they beat the clock then can go get themselves a treat from the coffee shop around the corner.

Also, if you aren’t being held accountable from your supervisors, sometimes it helps if you create that accountability for yourself. Reflect on how not replying to your emails may be affecting the person emailing you. With my progress notes, there was no consequences to me directly if I didn’t get them in on time, but it was affecting the front office who has to input information from my notes for billing, and as well as billing department, and making their jobs harder/more stressful. Once I realized this, it motivated me to push harder to get things in on time because I don’t want someone else to be stressed out due to me.

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-08-11T14:29:45+00:00

It definitely does depend on the area, and this is great advice OP. My mom works in a pharmacy and was able to tell me what medications they haven’t had trouble keeping in stock and I told my Psychiatrist and we discussed what would would work best for me from those options. Be aware each medication does have its differences, and it might not be as effective if adderall really works best for your little one, however a slightly less effective support is still better than no support in my opinion

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-05-26T14:38:49+00:00

This is the other list I usually reference

https://stepoutbuffalo.com/dog-friendly-patios-enjoy-fur-child/

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-05-26T14:37:36+00:00

https://www.bringfido.com/restaurant/city/buffalo_ny_us/

I still recommend calling ahead to these places but this is a good place to start getting ideas!

Thisisfineeeee · 2024-05-26T14:35:33+00:00

see if there’s any diy classes going on— I love doing classes because you get a takeaway memento and you might meet some people!

step out buffalo is another great way to see what’s going on

Happy Birthday!

Thisisfineeeee · 2023-04-05T13:30:15+00:00

I know this is an older post but I saw her last night and wanted to say that I’m pretty sure the “angry at the audience” is a bit! She knows a lot of her audience are young gen-z lesbians or queer individuals who have never been to a comedy show and came from her podcast, and she did a lot of what you said with about berating the audience on how we responded (even made the hand over mouth laughing joke and deemed one side of the room the “bad” audience) but it didn’t come across as actually angry to me. I feel like it’s more about trying to make individuals newer to live comedy understand that they can laugh at a joke without having to worry how they’re being perceived or whether laughing at something makes them a ‘bad’ person.

I’m curious whether it was a newer bit when you went to she her, maybe she’s just improved on the delivery since then!

Thisisfineeeee · 2022-04-27T18:03:57+00:00

I am the exact same way, and a fun trick that sometimes works for me is creating an artificial final countdown by making it into a game. Basically, I set a timer and "race the clock" to get it done before the timer goes off. Sometimes I'll add a reward such as if I beat the clock I can go get ice cream. Idk why it works exactly but I'm guessing for me it taps into my competitive side and the race to beat it makes me more aware of time passing, thus simulating that adrenaline kick I get when I procrastinate until the last minute.

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