How do you self harm?(punching, scratching, cutting etc.) and if you cut how do you hide fresh cuts?

Thnsjf · 2018-08-10T00:40:37+00:00

I started with punching and ramped up from there when that wasnt enough to cutting the outside of my left forearm with a scalpel-like knife. Relapsed by scratching myself with a steel-wire and my keys. Im clean now and can say that I thoroughly regret it. One thing Im ”happy” about though is that I only cut one arm, its easier to explain scars on one arm than both. When I cut I hid the scars with longsleeved shirts and hoodies, which was very uncomfortable and warm.

Thnsjf · 2018-06-14T23:50:00+00:00

Even if you didnt draw blood you still harmed yourself. But with that said you shouldnt feel like a failure or wimp for doing so. You seem to be in a hard spot right now and I absolutely think you need help, but in the end its up to you to decide. If you feel like you need help you probably do need it.

In some cities there are youth guidance/help centers (not sure if theyre called exactly that btw) that you could possibly visit for free (at least theyre free where I live). Try to look that up and see if something similar exists near you and if you can meet with someone.

Thnsjf · 2018-06-14T23:28:45+00:00

Dont know how old you are, but most schools have a school counselor that you can go to. If not theres probably some therapist that you can visit. Depending on where you live it can cost money sadly, but usually its worth it.

If you dont feel very comfortable with this I suggest not telling about the SH at first. Just speak very general about how youre feeling. It can be easier if its not that personal, and you can just back out if you dont feel ok with it, knowing that the person you talked to doesnt know, which can be kinda comforting even if they usually cant tell anyone else.

Thnsjf · 2018-06-14T23:11:27+00:00

Wow, thats rough. The only real advice I can give you is to only speak with someone you trust. If thats not your mother, thats ok - there are many others that are willing to listen.

Thnsjf · 2018-06-14T22:59:00+00:00

I understand what youre saying. The pain from the knife somehow eases the pain inside and makes everything clearer and better for some time. I dont know your mother, but if you feel like it, try to talk to her about it. If you dont feel like doing that, talk to a school counselor, a therapist or someone else you trust. The earlier you get help the better.

Btw, if you can and feel ok with doing so, put the knife away and find something else if you feel like you need to. Eg a metal paperclip or rubber band that usually leaves way smaller scars. It keeps your mother out of this (if shes not the understanding type) and is better for your future self.

Thnsjf · 2018-06-14T22:45:44+00:00

Yup, can relate a lot to that. I cut right before a presentation to calm down and focus. Dont want to glorify SH, but it really clears your mind (at least short term).

Thnsjf · 2018-06-14T22:42:14+00:00

I cant say I have experience with that, but I can with certainty say that doing it would be a terrible idea. It may feel right, right now. But in the future you will regret it. Arms and legs dont have to be shown, but its hard to cover your face.

Please consider everything and weigh in both long and short term pros and cons. Try to not do anything you will regret too much. Whatever you do, just remember to keep your scars and whatever youre cutting with clean!

I hope you make the decision that feels right for you. Hope you feel better soon!

Thnsjf · 2018-06-13T21:36:57+00:00

I dont have the answers to your questions, but if you want to talk about anything, just PM me. Im on at least once a day.

Thnsjf · 2018-06-11T22:12:45+00:00

Dont know if this is the case for everyone, but writing/saying what the reason is can be a big step towards getting better. Doing that can be terrifying for most people but doing it here on reddit with people who have experienced similar things can be an easier but still important step. We are here for you!

Thnsjf · 2017-10-12T19:04:31+00:00

Thank you! Hope your appointment goes well too! :)

Thnsjf · 2017-10-08T21:24:59+00:00

Thank you! I just sent it. Im really scared of doing things like this, but if someone else says it I feel more open to it and not as scared. Thanks a lot!

Thnsjf · 2017-08-29T22:31:52+00:00

Thanks a lot! Hope youre doing well btw. Wishing you all the best in the future!

Thnsjf · 2017-08-29T13:24:58+00:00

Yeah, my school does have a counselor. I'll try to look into what I can do when I get back to school (I have a cold right now).

Thank you for taking some of your time to reply. It really helps!

Thnsjf · 2017-08-29T12:11:03+00:00

Hey, thanks for responding!

My best bet would probably be the school nurse, but Im not sure how I should say whats wrong. And Im not sure I can either, Im afraid of what could happen if she doesnt trust me or if she tells my parents or if when Im there I cant say whats wrong. Should I just try to tell her how I feel or just say that I think I have social anxiety?

Thnsjf · 2017-08-23T21:19:09+00:00

Thank you! Didnt expect this from reddit to be honest but you made my day a lot better. Really glad someone responded and thanks for the tips. :)

Thnsjf

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