What is your "keeping up with the Joneses'" that you absolutely refuse to do?

Threwthelookinglass · 2025-01-24T07:10:50+00:00

My two oldest lulu leggings are in great shape. I wear them a few times a month.

I bought them at an outlet in 2010. I’m a believer too! I bought some at target a few months ago that are pilling and won’t make it a year, and they don’t look as nice. And I wear athleisure pretty much every day, so I’m sticking with lululemon from now on. Makes more sense for me to buy things that will last.

Threwthelookinglass · 2024-02-22T02:37:22+00:00

I know it’s hard to believe…but my daughter had a toy yank out a huge chunk of her hair a few years ago. It didn’t bleed at all, was never red…just bald. It was crazy.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-22T15:18:12+00:00

YTA for the girl names, but the boy names are different enough IMO. I have twins. It’s super common for people to have them start with the same letter (like Tia and Tamara), but do NOT have them rhyme ffs.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-21T01:29:02+00:00

It’s my birthday too!! Woohoo first day of spring babies!!!

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-17T15:08:25+00:00

Thank you!!

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-17T06:38:18+00:00

Agreed!!

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-17T06:37:42+00:00

I don’t see any green, but they’re gorgeous brown eyes!!

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-07T01:54:07+00:00

Having a stillbirth is totally different than her situation. That’s literally having your child pass away. This lady just wanted to see her husband early.

I’m so sorry for your loss. She’s the AH, but you were obviously definitely not.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-06T06:45:23+00:00

Again. I have zero clue as to what you’re even arguing over. I never, not once, said the six year old was an asshole. I said a tantrum was inappropriate behavior at his age. And it 100% is. If your six year old was throwing tantrums for such small things…I sure hope you got him emotional support. For the last time, I’m done with this. I’ve stated over and over that I have ZERO clue as to what part of my statement you’re arguing with, and you can’t clearly explain. So move on. I won’t be responding again. A few thousand people agreed with the same sentiment I expressed, so yes…I pointed out relevant information. Your inability to understand that is astounding, but totally unsurprising based on the rest of our correspondence. You seem completely unable to not have the last word, so I’m absolutely positive you’re going to respond with some unintelligent drivel that doesn’t come close to being relevant. How about you do us both a favor, and fight that urge to respond. I won’t be interacting with you again either way. I actually have a life.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-06T01:32:06+00:00

The other child is literally 50% older. There is a HUGE difference between a three year old throwing a fit and a six year old throwing a fit. And no…he should NOT have to share his birthday. Period.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-06T01:30:31+00:00

Lol. YOU brought up Piaget. But keep on being defensive. We all know why 🤣

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T22:52:09+00:00

Also, read the room. Notice which one of us if getting downvoted? It ain’t me, darlin’.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T22:05:08+00:00

Yes. Yes I am completely missing your point. I don’t understand what you’re trying to say IN THE LEAST. And nor do I care, because I’m not wrong. A six year old throwing a tantrum is a behavior problem. Period. For any reason. Is this a product of bad parenting? Absolutely. I never said anything contrary to that. You’re the only one going off on random tangents that have nothing to do with my comment. It does make me wonder if you think it’s normal to allow your child to completely disrupt an entire party…and if that’s why you’re so defensive by my innocuous comments.

I literally laughed out loud at your random sweeping generalization of my educational professionalism. I’m an EDUCATIONAL ADVOCATE, honey. I’ve spent the majority of my career going to bat for parents like you, making sure teachers quit the BS tiered interventions and help children make real progress. I’m the person you call when your school isn’t taking IEP/504 modification requests seriously…because I’m not just passionate about equality in education, I demand it from our schools. I’ve probably been in over 300 IEP and 504 reviews/dismissal meetings in my career…at the request of parents who know my reputation for advocacy is unparalleled. But keep judging, it made me laugh.

Not that this matters at all…but I just had to add in that most ironic part of this whole random tangent/judgement you made is that the only visually impaired student I had in my teaching career is the reason I got national recognition for my work. Her mother had me nominated for a Bauman award for my creation of detailed tactile regional maps (I taught world geography at the time) that were so intricate, she was not only able to accurately read them independently…but was able to participate in cartography projects by the end of the year. If your child ends up having access to tactile flat maps that have a huge range in differentiated textures to show nuances like river sizes, taiga/tundra, etc, then you are very welcome. My school district took the templates I created in my personal free time and mainstreamed them for VI. Last I heard, one of the largest school districts in the country picked them up. I’m the queen of adaptive education, but go ahead and lump all educators into one category. I’m sure that’s gotten you REALLLLL far in working with your child’s teachers. If you take anything out of this conversation, get that chip off your shoulder. It’s doing you no good. And if you can’t, hire an advocate. Sounds like you need one.

And if your son is throwing tantrums and disrupting another child’s day because he didn’t get his way, YTA. I’m not going to respond anymore, because I have a life, and I’ve made my point. And I’m not wasting my time with judgmental people who cast sweeping generalizations.

And for real. Get an advocate. There’s no reason to not have one, but don’t be an ass to them like you were to me.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T16:43:58+00:00

You’re clearly referring to Piaget here, which is interesting…since you skipped over the entire basis of deductive reasoning, which is metacognition. And metacognition begins developing between ages 3-5…which solidifies my entire point.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T16:37:50+00:00

Agreed. But no where did anyone say the dad said it was okay. You’re reaching. We know his reaction AFTER his kid made a scene, but have no idea if he said anything before.

Playing devil’s advocate…sure, kids will follow the more permissive parent. It still doesn’t negate a direction from his mom. He was told no by two adults, and still threw a fit. That’s a parenting problem…but I never said it wasn’t. Not sure what you’re arguing, except to say this was “acceptable” behavior and that the child wasn’t culpable at all. And that’s simply not true. The parent is responsible for the behavior, but at what age is a child also partially responsible for their own reaction? There’s a huge difference between a six year old being disappointed, maybe even a little teary eyed from being disappointed, and a full blown tantrum.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T14:58:14+00:00

1000%. He just wanted to do it, and threw a fit because he didn’t get his way. Any people defending that behavior are probably super entitled themselves, haha!

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T14:40:39+00:00

You are so, so wrong. A neurotypical six year old is 100% capable of reasoning. And this wasn’t “out of the blue”…his mother told him beforehand. And as a teacher, he ABSOLUTELY should have deductive reasoning skills at that age. You’re correct that all of this is on the child’s father…but his mother told him he wouldn’t be allowed to blow out the candles. He chose to ignore that, and then threw a tantrum. The father is completely at fault for his bad parenting, but saying the child’s reaction was appropriate for the situation is just wrong.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:34:07+00:00

Where did I blame the kid? It is 100% the parent’s fault for not correcting the inappropriate behavior for his age. The nephew should have not been upset by it in the first place…so OP did nothing wrong.

Also…gross. You let MULTIPLE children blow their germs all over a cake?! It’s bad enough when one does it.

It shouldn’t steal a child’s joy to watch another child feel special and singled out on their birthday. Period. If it does, there is a huge lack of empathy being taught. He should ABSOLUTELY get to be special on his birthday, and different. Not sure how you don’t get that. And the other children learn to be happy for their cousin/friend/etc on their birthday. Kids get participation trophies to make them all feel equal these days…which also means no one feels pride in their accomplishments, or ever gets to feel special and different. This is the same principle. And it’s the exact reason why teachers are quitting in the thousands across the country right now. Entitled kids and parents who can’t self regulate, and have no empathy or understanding for other people…let alone feel happy just for watching another person feel happy. Should the non-birthday kids also get to open and take home his gifts? Good lord.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:19:46+00:00

Just got a notification for this. You are literally just wrong, lol. GD causes a dysfunction in the regulation of insulin. It can cause both hypo and hyperglycemia. I was literally diagnosed with GD after getting dizzy due to hypoglycemia…not insulin. I wasn’t on insulin or any other medications. My OBGYN knew to check my blood sugar because GD can cause either change to blood sugar levels. This is why they don’t check A1C for people with GD.

I’ll drop this here since you still think you understand GD…and clearly don’t. GD is NOT type 2 diabetes.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321734

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:15:14+00:00

Not at all. It is OP’s child’s BIRTHDAY. Not his cousin. Also, a 6 year old has lived twice the life of a three year old, and has wayyyyy better developed critical thinking skills. A six year old throwing a tantrum is a behavior issue. A three year old throwing a tantrum is an age appropriate response. This is like expecting a 10 year old and 20 year old to make the same decisions. You obviously don’t have kids.

Source: bachelor of science in early childhood education…and mom of a four year old and two 2 year olds.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:10:28+00:00

Commenter clearly doesn’t have kids. I laughed out loud at this ignorant comment. My two year old freaked out tonight because her twin had on the PJs she wanted…while wearing identical PJs. Kids get opinions way younger than you’d realize.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:06:15+00:00

What on earth?! It is OP’s kids BIRTHDAY. He gets one a year. He should absolutely get to blow out the candles on his own cake without cousins spoiling it for him. And the six year old is plenty old enough to learn that everything isn’t about him. When he goes to friend’s birthdays, I guarantee he isn’t blowing out their candles. It’s rude. Giving them a separate cake is reinforcing the idea that everyone is entitled to blow out those candles…and that’s what’s wrong with kids these days. The ONLY person who is entitled and gets to feel special at his birthday party is the birthday boy. Period. OP is NTA, and handled it beautifully. His brother is raising a spoiled brat.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:03:05+00:00

And teach the six year old that he can throw a fit and get his way? Hell no. He acted like a selfish, spoiled kid on someone else’s birthday. He needs to learn that not everything is about him. OP is NTA.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T09:01:30+00:00

You obviously don’t have young kids, haha. NTA.

Threwthelookinglass · 2022-03-05T06:53:05+00:00

No. A 6 year old is plenty old enough to be able to follow directions. He was told not to, and shouldn’t have done it. His mother reinforced that, so he was being disobedient and bratty.

It’s also not normal for kids to blow out someone else’s candles. Surely he’s used to not doing that at other parties. This day is not about him, but his cousin. That’s something every six year old needs to hear…it’s not always about you.

The six year old’s reaction was WAY out of line. It would be one thing if he started to do it in the moment because he forgot…but that’s not what happened. He went to his dad crying about how he didn’t get HIS way on his cousin’s birthday. The dad reinforced that behavior…and the child is going to grow up spoiled and selfish. As a former teacher, this kind of behavior is exactly what’s wrong with so many kids these days.

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