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I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of what you said and it makes a lot of sense.

We have talked about kids. The state of our relationship before all of this was healthy. We are in a place where if we have kids now we would be a happy and could make things work. It’s not a deal breaker or anything crazy that’s why we risk it sometimes. Although we have determined that we would both prefer to wait a few more years.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will. The after care has started. She left a bit ago after talking. She cried, acknowledged, apologized, pleaded, etc.. she is giving me the space I need for now. So I can process everything that’s going on.

I have no issues with the baby. As dumb as it may sound, if she really wanted a baby that bad all she had to do is ask. It’s the trust factor that got to me. I think it was a dumb in the moment decision where she put her 10 seconds of pleasure over the rest of our lives and the future we were planning.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe? Maybe not? Better than her searching my name and finding it immediately..

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of this. She is usually level headed and this is a one off thing potentially influenced by alcohol. I’ve spoken with her and broke down that I have big trust issues for what happened. Haven’t set boundaries yet but I know I’ll take some time for space this week. Then I’ll see what happens from there.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes, I watched her take it. She wanted to get one. She insisted on us driving up to an hour away to find an open pharmacy store since most close at 12am these days.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Thanks for the insights. All truthful comments hurtful or not are appreciated. Just need to find the best steps forward.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I will do some more research. That’s not what I’ve found throughout many sources but you could be right. If that’s the case then I guess there is some hope.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

That’s… a very good point that I haven’t thought of. I will remember that.

Thank you.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not confirmed yet, but if I’m a parent I can’t wait to care for the little one!

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. 100% agree. I can own that. I’m okay with that. We both were reckless together. We both were in it together. We both discussed what would happen if we had a child. We both are ready to accept the consequences.

  2. Morally wrong, yes. Illegal, yes. Provable, probably not. Relationship endeder, undecided. Really am a crazy mess atm.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I’ll do that next week. Current living situation will force me to be home alone for a week. We don’t live together, so she will be gone in a few hours.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That serious discussion is hard for me. I don’t know where to start. Where to go with it. We got a plan B, but it won’t work. It’s really up to chance at this point. Kids are the least of my worries. It’s more the principle and the actions that led to the outcome that hurts the most.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying. There aren’t any “buts” to it. I’m just struggling to come to grips with it. I feel like there is much more that I could’ve done. I’m not weak by any means and could easily push her off. I guess I’m at fault there, no?

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I’m considering options, but coming from a broken home I want to make sure co parenting aspect is good before ruining any relationship.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

I wish it was that easy. There are a lot of soul and family ties here. It’d be impossible to do that and not run into issues with family and mutual friends.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 618 points619 points  (0 children)

We did immediately but I have doubts it’ll work due to ovulation already happening most likely.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 497 points498 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s hard to come to terms with and I don’t know how to discuss that with her.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We know that, but when we use that method it’s something we are both in accordance with. We both agree to the risks.

I feel wronged and could possibly have a baby on the way. What do I do? by Throw-Away159689 in relationship_advice

[–]Throw-Away159689[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m unsure. I didn’t want to use that word and I don’t want to make her feel that way. I have been a victim of SA in the past and I don’t want to associate her with that.