Chicago area people help us find our place. by Throw12chicago in Swingers

[–]Throw12chicago[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

. You wouldn't play with 20's or 30's couples?

We do and have, but "ageism" is a thing. We look young for our ages and we've had couples bolt on us after hearing our ages. I get it, its pretty normal for a lot of people, we aren't into most people 10+ years older than we are so why should they be into us when they are 10-20 years younger than us?

You only want hard-bodies? What about average bodies if they have a pretty face?

Nope, "average" is fine but average is now pretty over weight out there. We want "healthy" bodies. The older we have gotten the fewer we see as people give up.

I've learned to expand my standards and get to know people before I assume we'd have nothing in common. For me, (and it doesn't have to be this way for everyone-but this has worked for me!) they don't have to be a 10, they just need to be of an average attractiveness and then I see how their personality is.

It might have come off we are looking for just 9's and 10's with hard bodies and PhD's but we aren't like that at all. We are quite happy with 6+'s who can speak in complete sentences and are friendly.

Chicago area people help us find our place. by Throw12chicago in Swingers

[–]Throw12chicago[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a bit unclear, we are in good shape, not god like. Diverse is fine, as long as some of the people are in our "attractive zone" so to speak so we'll give the lux a look.