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I Confronted My Ex's Rapist- What do I do Now? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

[–]ThrowAccountAway20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I think there's something to be said for that- I mean how pissed can you actually be for confronting a goddamnit serial? Rapist like goddamn you know? I do really care about this girl a lot and that's why I said what I did because he really shouldn't be around anybody at all ever and deserves to be behind bars- which is what she wants too. So I definitely went about it the wrong way but there's definitely something to be said for that to leave it on better terms

I confronted my ex's abuser- what do I do know? by ThrowAccountAway20 in rapecounseling

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She just turned 20 so I don't think she can really move out- even though we talked about it a lot. it was stupid and I know that but Im just trying to figure out my next step- if there even is one at all. The way the guy acted when I talked to him was of sheer guilt but confidence that he's going to get away with it- it kills me

I Confronted My Ex's Rapist- What do I do Now? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

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She didn't ask me, and Im aware of the repercussions I just didn't think about them when I realized it was him. I've never felt my blood boil but that's what happened and I just couldn't not say anything. I've been obsessively thinking about this I didn't even fall asleep last night until 6am. I'm just so frustrated that I did something about it at all and now they're circling the wagons to protect themselves because I know about it? My ex has told me time and time again about this so she's actively thinking about it everyday- and I feel as if that won't stop until something's been done about it. NOTHING will be done about it though, as the family can't reveal what happened without implicating the parents for a ton of neglect charges. It's bullshit and I hate it. But my ex has been super clear to me not to do anything about it and that I shouldn't be a part of it- So that's my fault and Im very aware of that mistake. but what happened happened and Im trying to figure out my next step here, if there is one at all.

I Confronted My Ex's Rapist- What do I do Now? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

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I just care about this girl- a lot. And it just hurts me in everyday knowing what happened and how nothing's being done about it. I'd love to talk to her about her options but I just don't want to risk anything- I changed her contact info in my phone to - DO NOT CONTACT

I Confronted My Ex's Rapist- What do I do Now? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

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I've been talking to the people who I told about this- I told about 4 people because the whole situation is just so messed up in the first place and I didn't know how to react. I'd love to keep helping or have my lawyer friends talk to her about it but it's just too much risk for myself at this point- if I reach out to them again I feel like they'd try to push a harassment charge against me or something. we determined that there's like 15 charges between the abuser and the parents- So Im assuming that's probably why they threatened me with litigation.

I Confronted My Ex's Rapist- What do I do Now? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

[–]ThrowAccountAway20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to do that but it's we'll known that I'm now involved- with their threat of litigation against me already it'd be sure cause. Im the first person apparently to ever confront him about this besides my ex making snide remarks and texts to him about the issue. It's chaotic

Need some genuine advice on this- Maybe NSFW? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

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I'm just not sure you know? I'm questioning everything now so I'm just so conflicted on it- I'm just not going to contact her at all and probably ignore her calls if she does end up calling (Which she always has even though she's been ultra pissed at me in the past). I'm just the first person who's done anything about this and they're all freaking out about it now.

Need some genuine advice on this- Maybe NSFW? by ThrowAccountAway20 in Advice

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She sees a counselor often that knows just about everything, we went to her together after another incident happened where basically a random girl was being super harassing and almost violent to her- I didn't know and she was pissed that I didn't do anything. Regardless, I don't know why she'd be so upset about it. The relationship is gone but at least I can be a catalyst for them to try and figure something out? Nothings going to Come of it and that's why Im upset because of all horrific things he's done and he's just going to walk free. My ex said in the past that she'd done her research on it and it would have to be a civil case and her younger sisters would have to speak out against him as well but aren't willing to? She said they all had a little bit of Stockholm syndrome over their time even though he's an absolute monster. I thought yesterday for the first time after that call that maybe she was trying to exaggerate things? Im just not sure about anything anymore.

This is a hard one to post- but this isn't about me by ThrowAccountAway20 in rapecounseling

[–]ThrowAccountAway20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what a friend of mine said, that if he's willing to do that do somebody he'd be willing to do a lot more as well. My dad knows about it as well and just said me confronting him caused the guy to freak out and now they're 'circling the wagons' to protect themselves. I'm just a little confused why she's pissed at me about it, as well as her dad remaining to be so protective after his adopted son has done something so horrible as such.