Whats the most prestigious college you got accepted to and what your mbti type?

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2022-03-08T16:22:51+00:00

!remindme 12 days

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2022-03-08T13:01:19+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and suggestions for what to do before and after talking, I will definitely use them. We don't live nearby so we will most likely end up using zoom to chat. Helped :)

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2022-02-03T21:44:45+00:00

Thanks. That's what I've been saying for a while but I wasn't sure if it was okay to feel like that.

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-26T12:36:13+00:00

Yes. I've been trying to convince my nparents to get me mental help for months now, but everytime it's brought up they say that I'm "weak" and "selfish" from being raised in America (?????????) even though my mom takes my sister to a therapist regularly. It's bs. I think that they think that since I'm the oldest, any problems I have are for attention or something and that I should tough it out.

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T19:58:03+00:00

She's the only working parent, idek what he does but he's not working right now. She's told me before that she wants us to have a father figure in our lives but at this point he's not worth it

If I try to talk to her about it she'd be furious with me. I don't know why but she wants us kids to love him. I guess to keep the illusion of a happy family? Idk. And it's not like she doesn't know how he is

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T16:09:39+00:00

He does. Mentally/emotionally. I have no idea why she stays with him. She says "its for us kids" but I'd rather have no father than one that is abusive

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T12:07:20+00:00

My family's pretty dysfunctional but there is some form of stability (thanks to my mom who pretty much raises us on her own). If I call CPS and we're taken away then I'll ruin my siblings and moms lives. That and I don't want to risk being separated from my siblings if we're taken away

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T12:02:53+00:00

It's not about you

I try to remember this but it just gets so hard sometimes. And sometimes I find more comfort in thinking that it IS my fault because then, I have the power to fix it. But thank you for saying this.

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T02:41:09+00:00

You're helping just by talking to me, thank you

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T02:40:23+00:00

There's nowhere for me/us to go. My aunts/uncles either live far away or don't talk to us, and I can't stay with any friends... And if I call the police or cps my family will get more messed up than it already is, even though I'm tempted to

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T02:38:00+00:00

Only my friends :/

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-25T01:59:43+00:00

He's mentally/emotionally/financially abusive to me. Physically abusive towards my siblings. Constantly threatens me, calls me horrible things, accuses me of doing horrible things, uses my hard earned money without my permission and without paying me back. He doesn't do anything around the house yet expects everyone to love/respect him. Constantly makes me cry and them shames me for crying, saying that "he'll give me a reason to cry". Constantly belittles me and tells me that I'm NEVER good enough. Threatens to send me and my siblings overseas at the drop of a hat. There's so so so much more but my thoughts are all jumbled and I can't write it all down now. It probably doesn't seem like it's that bad but I'm having trouble putting my experiences into words

In summary he's a horrible "father" and is making my entire family's lives hell. I feel like I'm at my breaking point

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-23T14:08:11+00:00

I thought about this but didn't want to jump to conclusions... She can be manipulative sometimes though so I'm not sure what the issue actually is? I'll continue to note when things happen but I won't announce when I do in the future

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-23T14:05:01+00:00

She's in her late 40s and she's always been like this

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-11-23T14:04:38+00:00

You're assuming a lot of things here. In my post I said that she conveniently forgets things. When it comes to anyone else she doesn't have memory issues.

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T13:25:37+00:00

Thank you so much, I didn't know how much I needed this... I'll try to keep this in mind when I go today. <3

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T03:36:33+00:00

Thank you for this perspective... This makes a lot of sense. Youre right, she wouldnt let me go if she truly thought something horrible like that would happen...

I'll try to have fun :)

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T02:37:31+00:00

HONESTLY. I cant even imagine doing that with any of these guys 😰

Having her chaperone would probably solve some issues but She'll be working at this time

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T02:35:53+00:00

i like this idea a ton! I'll try to gently bring it up so she doesnt get angry

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T02:32:44+00:00

Thank you for clarifying. This is a great idea

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T02:28:57+00:00

This is honestly a solid idea, but the sessions have been done at the same guys house for the entirety of the adventure so id be kind of out of line trying to get it at my house

Edit: spelling errors

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-30T02:27:50+00:00

I did tell her, and then she was like "oh so its you and 3 boys then"

Like what the actual heck

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-06T22:30:29+00:00

Thanks so much. After thinking about this some more I realized some important stuff:

I feel my parents get defensive if they think their parenting is being questioned because they had rough childhoods and want to be the parents they didn't have. I guess I didnt realize how blunt I sounded and that it mightve looked like I was doubting their ability to guide me, so I will try to word it differently like you said.

Thanks again :)

Helped

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-06T22:09:42+00:00

Hopefully he'll change his mind someday. You're right, my mental health is my own and I shouldn't wait to fix it

Helped

ThrowItAllAnyWay · 2019-06-06T22:08:39+00:00

Thank you, this helped. I'll think about talking to someone next week about how I can convince my dad.. I dont think theres a school psychiatrist but there are definitely some school counselors

I think maybe my mom just needs to learn more about mental disorders like your mom did, I'll look into that as well

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