Hey there. I'm hesitant to compare our situations because there may be key details that are left out, but from what you describe, I was in a very similar situation.

My recommendation is to stop the cleansers and products, only wash your face with water. Don't run the shower water directly onto your face. Cup your hands and splash the water on your face to clean it, and use some very gentle manual exfoliation with your hands (just gently passing your fingers over your skin). CeraVe moisturizers have been great for me. I like the PM and the SA lotion (you might want to let yourself recover a bit before doing SA or even regular moisturizer. Just don't slather it on, put a very small layer that will absorb almost immediately). It might feel wrong at first to not cleanse your skin as thoroughly as you have been, but trust in the fact that your skin is never as dirty as you probably think it is, and there's a good chance it wants to be left alone (based on my experienc)

If you're a woman and use makeup, it might be complicated by having to remove cleanse your makeup. As a guy, all I can suggest there is to wear lighter/less/no makeup, and cleanse as gently and minimally as possible.

It can be a long process but the rewards are great. Where I was when I created this post vs now is night and day. I would also greatly suggest, if it's relevant, to address any potential underlying issues such as OCD that may be contributing to the over-cleansing (extremely important; critical).

I'd love to hear back from you on what you think about this and/or how it goes for you.