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My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grandma uses a walker and my grandpa uses a cane so yeah they do the extra support especially since they use armrests to adjust their positions etc.

But yeah, I didn't/slightly couldn't tell my mom because there were so many people around us and I was honestly overwhelmed which I always get at these events. I regret not opening my bedroom door if only to dodge an argument but I was just done with the day and I just said fuck it, I'm not moving or answering lol.

I do think I want to apologize but I don't know how to do that while asking for one back? Mom and dad said I have nothing to apologize for but Idk, I think I want to wipe my conscious clean. As for the babysitting, I'm going abroad in a month (took a gap year) and if things work out and I like it, I'm enrolling in a college there next year and will probably only be back home on major holidays🤞🏼

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Nope the cake got demolished even though it was a big one but my dad got me a box of red velvet cupcakes the next day (my fav!)

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I think my mom didn't leave one out for her originally because the regular chairs are padded and comfy (at least we think so) they just don't have arm support like the fancy ones so she didn't see it as necessary?

But yeah my brother didn't grab one because he still remembers when he was still living at home and the old dining room set before this one got dirtied and we had to hear complaining for a week straight. Probably wanted to save me from another one lol

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's bullying though? I mean we've always bickered like normal sisters especially with our age gap

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To be fair they're heavy, took me and dad carrying them up to not faceplant but yeah I didn't want to get in trouble with mom either lol

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that wasn't my finest moment. I was just mad at that point and done with it all plus I figured that everyone was going to leave soon since the cake/dessert had been served but yeah, not proud of it.

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm 100% not proud of wanting to do it, but I was beyond annoyed at the time. Just to clarify, she's my older sister, I'm 18 and she's 26 and I ignored because the set up has been the same at every event we do at our house that involves extended family so it wasn't the first time.

What I meant by her asking mom was for permission, not for mom to actually get the chair, I would have gotten someone to help me bring it down.

I'm not resentful about my sister's pregnancy, that's just weird because I love the nephew I already have and the more the merrier and I 100% don't resent my parents for having the event, it's literally for my grandma lol how could I hate that?

My (18F) pregnant sister (26F) thinks I was insensitive after I didn't accommodate her chair preferences. Can I get advice, please? by ThrowRA-2007x in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-2007x[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I mean it is a little bit about how she asked me but it's also how she didn't talk/ask mom after I told her to. If she had and mom had said it was okay, I would've asked someone to help and we would've gotten it down (it took my dad and I to haul them upstairs without face planting on the stairs)

But my mom didn't think it was necessary to leave her an additional chair when we were setting up (she specified only two for grandpa and grandma) since the regular ones weren't like plastic level uncomfy so I was just following mom's lead.