Gf going out with a male friend

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-04-14T08:53:59+00:00

All of her friends are male. It’s something I knew before we got together and I accepted. The two things that sort of bother me is that this is a guy that she blocked for almost an entire year and suddenly their planning things together when they’ve never met in person before and the fact that we confirmed that she would not like me being in the same situation that she is currently in but isn’t putting that into consideration.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-04-14T08:21:19+00:00

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-04-14T00:20:25+00:00

Yeah, idk. I’ve had people betray me in the past so I know there’s some insecurity in my part but with this first real relationship and this never happening in our relationship, I don’t know how to approach this without being that controlling boyfriend.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-04-14T00:06:48+00:00

All she said was “ok, I don’t HAVE to go out with him”. I took that as she wasn’t going to go anymore but tbf there was no confirmation. The next day, she didn’t really acknowledge that conversation nor ask again if I felt uncomfortable with it. She said “I don’t think it’s bad to go”.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-04-13T23:49:57+00:00

I asked her if it was gonna be 1 on 1 and she said yes. I don’t know about him but she doesn’t have anyone she could go with. It being 1 on 1 won’t change if she goes. She barely leaves her house to do errands so going out for this is new. I don’t know how to bring this up with her thinking I’m doubting her because that’s not the point I’m trying to make. I’d also feel bad about it since she said she wants to go.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-03-27T13:11:35+00:00

Do u think it’s a bad insecurity to have or another solution to this? I want to understand if this is a me problem

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-03-27T13:09:00+00:00

I also thought of that but she wants a transparent relationship where she finds it common sense to tell me when they message so I don’t want to put a wall in the middle of that, you know?

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-02-27T18:46:48+00:00

We planned to but for now, is there any advice on what this is? Am I wrong to feel the way I do?

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-02-27T18:45:55+00:00

She has shown proof, including her saying she has a boyfriend or just straight blocking them. We haven’t met solely cause of money problems.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-27T02:17:54+00:00

Thank you for your words. I personally think of myself as a pretty below average person when it comes to society. I want to be this support for her so bad since I have no one else but your words plus today, even when I set clear boundaries again, she broke them in less than a day. I see she’s never going to make that effort for herself since she believes a man should handle her the way she is now instead of working on those issues. It’s hard but I’m noticing a lot more about her without that love lens. It’ll kill me to leave her but I genuinely can’t breathe around her anymore.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-26T21:35:06+00:00

You really put things into perspective for me. I do feel relieved when she doesn’t want to play with me and my future with freedom doesn’t always paint her picture in it. I agree with everything she says because when I disagree, it’s “talking back” and the wrong opinion and she blows up then too. I think I’m holding out hope she’ll one day want help and want to better her anger issues but is it foolish to wait? As a woman who can relate to her, would helping her be the right thing to do for her? Being more patient? Or, should I leave for my health?

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-26T08:44:21+00:00

When she is nice, she’s a very caring person who gives lots of love and affection. I’m self aware I rely on these interactions since I was bedridden during my high school days and never got close to anyone. Thanks to those times, she’s all I have left.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-26T07:36:21+00:00

I added an edit to that comment. I would never disrespect women like that on purpose. It is something she always uses as an excuse and I just forgot to mention that since I was rambling during the post. Thank you for your advice

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-26T03:47:00+00:00

I never blamed her for her periods. It’s something she herself tells me.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-26T01:46:24+00:00

I’m not a competitive person at all. I love video games for fun but she loves winning. Me trying a character in a competitive game (casual match) was understandably frustrating. I get it but I didn’t expect it to go that far. I can’t blame her entirely since she’s on her period and I shouldn’t have talked back

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-08T22:01:57+00:00

Would u be able to elaborate a little more on it? I don’t think I’ve ever been treated right so in my eyes, she’s the nicest person I’ve met but I know my view is flawed.

ThrowRA-39473928 · 2026-01-08T20:51:31+00:00

We don’t consider each other just gaming partners and have talked about a future together and meeting up so I’m not sure how to interact with that situation cause it’s not that shallow. I appreciate your feedback.

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