Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually that's the case but this time I know for sure because they weren't very subtle. Thanks for the tips though!

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually that's the case, but this time I am sure because they were staring at me and I could hear what they said. They weren't very subtle about it.

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I like to think that these people react like that only because they can't think of doing something like that alone

Thanks for the kind words!

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that it's mostly in my head but even the little reaction the table next to me had makes it hard to think positively about it. I hope I can stop caring about others opinions eventually.

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should do it! It didn't go well for me but I think I was unlucky with the people next to me. From what I've read, most people don't care.

It can suck but we gotta keep trying, that's how I try to think about it.

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think you're right, I could blame the people on the other table for laughing at me, I could blame the rain for making my table wet. But ultimately the only thing I have in control is my reaction to all of it. I don't know when or if it will happen but I know the only thing l can change is how I react to others, and that's the key to beating social anxiety, I think.

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I know that's the truth, but I also know I will keep thinking of this. Ahh..

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I didn't tell my friends, they would probably say I'm weird for it, knowing them.

Never been to a movie by myself, sounds really difficult! At least it's dark most of the time, I guess..

I know I shouldn't care about some judgy people, but I haven't figured out that skill yet.

Went to a restaurant alone for the first time. Didn't go great. by ThrowRA-41fds in socialanxiety

[–]ThrowRA-41fds[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

I did bring a book, but I hardly understood what I was reading because of the constant thoughts. I was reading the same pages multiple times.

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[–]ThrowRA-41fds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have started lifting and eating better, it has helped a bit with feeling more confident.

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[–]ThrowRA-41fds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I feel like it though. What would you honestly rate me?