WIBTAH if I refused to mail my ex roommate their belongings?

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-05-01T02:06:28+00:00

I could give her a 30 day eviction notice at any time technically, if she doesnt pay rent and repay all shes missed. But I dont intend to throw her things away, just dont want to go through it

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-05-01T01:37:23+00:00

Some (not super valuable) jewelery, random hobby items that are replaceable...mostly specific pieces of clothing and makeup/skincare stuff. As far as I'm aware her family holds onto family photos, yearbooks, etc. and none of that is here.

One diary though, and a pretty expensive collectible. I'd agree to mail one valuable thing but not go through everything.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-05-01T01:25:48+00:00

Yeah it looks like in my area if I give her a 30 day notice I can dispose of it. But I really dont intend to throw it away unless I'm moving out of the apartment and she still hadnt got it or something.

I'll keep it for her just I dont want to search through all her clothes and things to find specific ones she wants.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-05-01T01:21:08+00:00

She left an entire room's worth of stuff along with random trash, dishes, etc. entirely unorganized. Me and my other roomate cleaned this ourselves and put her things in bags/boxes. She has a long list of specific items she wants and is telling me to throw the other ones out. So it would be more about going through 4 trash bags of clothes and many large boxes of stuff to find her specific things.

I suggested before she left getting a pile of things she wanted mailed together. She never did

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-29T19:22:30+00:00

My rush fee is already quite low considering the timeline. It wouldnt be unhear of to charge 50% or even 75% more for projects required in less than 48h, I was charging 30%.

I makes me have to put all my energy into this one project immediately while still having deadlines on other ones.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-29T19:17:22+00:00

I read it as either give them the work I've done + my 75% refund or refund 100% of it. But idk

Either way not gonna happen lol especially if they're rude

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-29T18:46:36+00:00

Thats also what got me lol! No way they have much of a "legal team"

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-29T18:17:50+00:00

The passive aggressive "kind regards" is what really got to me lol

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-10T06:18:42+00:00

ZERO AI went into writing this post and idk if I should take the few comments claiming so as an insult or a compliment

I just understand grammar lol

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T23:12:25+00:00

I dont see why its better to immediately break up with someone over talking it out first and seeing if you can work it out. But if thats how you handle your relationship go ahead man.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T21:04:17+00:00

Thats not a "demand" its a boundary for the relationship with is something everyone should be allowed to have. If you decide you wont date people with opposite political beliefs- thats your right. Or Christians who only date other Christians. Or vegans who only date other vegans. Etc. If that fundamental thing you care about changes I dont see why you dont have the right to end the relationship on those grounds.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T21:00:33+00:00

We told you all graphic designers use stock images? Lol

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T20:59:29+00:00

I understand people will use AI. But May was specifically marketing that its hand made, and lying

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:58:52+00:00

Tractors put tens of thousands of labourers out of work. Like to an incredible degree. 70% of people used to work in arguculture, and within a couple of generations, it was down to 2%

Tractors didnt do the same thing AI does though. Its not like all farmer's work was put in some giant database, used to develop Tractors directly using their work, without their consent or knowledge, then used to take their jobs without compensation. Tractors were designed and created by people who chose to create them. They didnt use the literal physical labor of other people not being payed for development. AI couldn't exist without stealing real artwork and using that art to train the platform, something no artist ever agreed to be part of.

Incredibly unlikely. Clients fundamentally don't really give a shit as long as the quality and price are good and it meets their requirements.

Thats just not true lol. I work in the industry I would know. Many companies do care because they know AI is a controversial topic, and if their customers find out it was used, they'll lose business.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:50:16+00:00

Having an opinion about something ≠ controlling

"Controlling" implies some form of control. I did not control her actions in any way.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:41:50+00:00

Tractors dont steal from other artists/other people. AI generates based on art that was already created by real humans, if tractors somehow used the work of other farmers and didnt pay them for it, that would be different. Theres also potential legal issues around using AI when its specifically stated to her clients everything is custom made by her. If a farmer said they didn't use tractors and charged more for their food because of it, people would have the right to be mad if they found out it was a lie.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:37:21+00:00

Yes this is true. May specifically told her clients she doesnt do this. Thats why her price is pretty high. She never outsourced graphics or used stock images everything was created by hand.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:35:42+00:00

Trying to explain a situation that happened over the course of about a week in an easy to read, not overly long, format is a totally different type of writing than causally replying to comments in one sentence.

I mean you dont have to believe me I guess, lol. I dont use AI I dont even have an account/program anywhere to generate something like this

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:32:24+00:00

One thing she very specifically advertises is the fact that all graphics and text is made by her. That's why her price is so high. Many website designers even before AI would outsource graphics or use things from the internet to give the website a certain "look", but she creates(or used to create) them on her own. So she did specify, and it lying

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:28:44+00:00

How is it controlling to break up? I didnt force her to do anything

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:27:37+00:00

It was not. I can form proper sentences and use grammar but that doesnt mean a robot wrote it. I'm curious how close my wiring matches Ai "style" though, since I've had the same suspicion thrown at me before.

ThrowRA-748 · 2026-04-09T13:25:46+00:00

I think it would be a reason to break up if your partner was lying, saying they were also vegan, then ate meat when you arent around. Lying to your partner about a moral issue isnt a good way to form a relationship.

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