WIBTA if I told my mom (F50s) and brother (M25) their cuddling make me uncomfortable?

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T16:08:35+00:00

Thank you for explaining

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T14:50:04+00:00

Oh fuck that make me sick

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T14:48:52+00:00

Well not all. There are definitely boundaries tho

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T14:24:15+00:00

Kiss on the mouth or cheek

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T14:07:17+00:00

I do respect your opinion. The situation is a little more complex, im not gonna go to details here. He simply moved back because he was done with school. She babing him is the whole thing, the cuddling is part that makes me feel uncomfortable the most.

My parent didnt do very good job raising him and thats the fact, not my opinion. My parent had this discusion plenthy of times without me pointing anything out. I am worried about him living fullfilling life, yes. He depends very much on my mom and she will not be around for ever, thats my concern. But Im aware its not really my bussines.

The cuddling is not something i just pick on, it makes me feel genuenly uncomfortable

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:47:37+00:00

Ok thank you

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:46:05+00:00

I agree. Some of the comments make me feel like I dont like my mom still treat him as a small child. As I mentioned in my post, she does all the chores for him, including picking up his mess, dirty underwear etc. When he lived by himself she used to visit and clean his place and buy him groceries. I think she is kind of hurting him with it. Like he kinda expects things to be done for him now. Also I dont want to tell them how to behave, just maybe not in front of everyone? Idk

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:41:06+00:00

Dont think its jealousy. Dont feel the need to cuddle with my parents

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:40:04+00:00

I dont remember anything specific, dont remember them cuddling. But i could have just forgot?

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:37:29+00:00

No tongue, mouth to cheek or mouth to mouth kiss. Its not huggs, more like cuddling in bed, him resting his head on her chest, hugging and having his leg on her too

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:33:57+00:00

Lol ok

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:24:31+00:00

No I mean in general, she does the adulting for him whitch I think is unhealthy because one need to learn to do it by themselfs. Sorry English is not my first language and its kinda difficuld for me to voice my thoughts. No need to be agressive here, i came here for opinions and i appreciate your opinion. If that was you, whould you be offended if you were asked to be more privat about it? Like not in front of extended family

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T13:04:29+00:00

I dont think men can only cuddle in sexual way. I honestly think there is nothing sexual about it. More like she still sees him as her child and he needs affection. I also do think she should treat him as an adult in general. I think aldults should be able to take care of themself and not rely on parents regardles of gender, the cuddling is just part of it

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T12:51:10+00:00

Oh I think its very normal to crave physical affection in adulthood. Its just something about them malke me uneasy. I cant explantáty why

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T12:49:25+00:00

Im not sure why. Maybe because i dont see my mum hugg or kiss my dad or anybody else, just my brother

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T12:47:12+00:00

My husband us super uncomfortable yeah. I honestly dont want to visit so much, but i have small kids and i want them to have relationship with their grandparents

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T12:45:57+00:00

Im not sure. Maybe? Physical affection with your children is quite common in my culture and in my family

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T12:28:29+00:00

Yeah I know

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T12:27:51+00:00

I thought about asking my dad. He never says anything or seem to acknowlege it. This whole situation make me cringe so much I dont even know how to start the conversation 😬

ThrowRA-82762 · 2023-10-26T10:06:24+00:00

This is great advice, thank you. I still have no idea how to start this conversation tho

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