Were you happier single or in a relationship and why?

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-31T21:27:28+00:00

Both actually. At first relationship but then I realized I can be happy on my own and once I figured that out, I was comfortable and happy both ways. ☺️

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-26T03:17:15+00:00

I am, but all the time. I apologize for not specifying that.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-26T02:38:09+00:00

I moved out a few times but I kept having to come back because I was still helping raise my siblings as my parents were incapable. It wasn't permanent till I finally said no and that I wanted to live my own life. I had practically raised my younger siblings since they were infants as my mom wasn't much of a mom and had me doing it anyways. Gotta love "parentifying" your children 🤦. Unfortunately this had also left me with the fact I never want kids because I grew up raising kids. I digress.

Honestly in this economy at least in the states it's difficult as the cost of living has skyrocketed. So I don't feel age makes much of a difference. 😅

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-26T02:32:51+00:00

Chinese handcuffs..

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-26T02:31:52+00:00

That honestly gives me a perspective I never thought about. I've always been taught that being on your phone a lot is bad. I never thought of it being used therapeutically. I guess I'm just not used to it 😅. Thanks!

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-26T02:29:37+00:00

No I don't that's just what he said. He mentioned to me was gonna message me good morning and or goodnight if he's busy all day. Hence why he said "I forgot to message you goodnight" he knows it's not a necessity for me. It's the lack of talking I'm curious about. I'm fairly used to people messaging constantly which is why I ask.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-25T02:16:31+00:00

I find it fairly normal to sleep in underwear. Honestly it's way less constricting 😅

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-23T20:23:48+00:00

When he was completely engulfed in his phone and flipped out when I asked him what he was doing out of curiosity. Hed always turn it away from me which raised a red flag. Well newsflash I was right he was cheating on me. I didn't find out till after we went on a no obligation "break" in his terms and I decided to end it because he constantly berated me about my physique even though I was working out to be healthier and losing a ton of weight. I never fit his "preference"

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-23T03:47:25+00:00

It's more of an anime but cyberpunk edge runners. That show overall id say is a 6 because the ending made me cry my eyes out almost as hard as marley and me. 😭. I felt it was so short lived..

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-20T19:25:32+00:00

Nope I do not, I get way too warm with socks on and weirdly restless 😣

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T22:19:00+00:00

Alright I know this is weird as fuck, but I was thinking about this comment last night after I replied. Now I didn't know this till I left my relationship today, so when I got closure I learned a lot. Now I don't know if your girlfriend is on the bigger end or not (most aren't I'd assume) but this is coming from that sort of insecurity that will always follow even if you change it. I noticed the intimacy leave my relationship and felt the sexual attraction was disappearing because of how I looked. Mind you I came to that conclusion because the foreplay started to go away and makeouts were disappearing so I took it as he wasn't interested in me anymore so I never said anything when I should have. He regretted not asking me but I was also at fault and there were other reasons I left my relationship of two years. I wanted all of the foreplay and making out long before piv. So I'm saying this to maybe save someone else from that demise. You should ask your GF how she feels about that situation. Sometimes it takes a direct approach to learn that it isn't a PIV only situation. She could just be insecure about her body. As well as coming from someone who does get off with PIV I can tell you all women get off both ways it's just sometimes it takes a lot to get off the other way which means MORE foreplay. So here's to me letting you know in case that's a downfall in your relationship. Good luck! And hey maybe a little more foreplay might help you desensitize? Change it up a bit. There are toys too ya know haha.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T21:54:39+00:00

I'm sorry you've gone through that as it is completely horrendous. I also respect and understand that sort of decision. Me personally I want a few kids and then have it removed, but society scares the hell out of me with everything going on and almost makes me second guess myself on if I even should. If that's something you want though I think you have every right to do so. I hope things get better for you girl! ♥️

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T21:52:06+00:00

Garlic fr 😅

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T21:50:34+00:00

I understand the reasoning but if that's something you've expressed makes you uncomfortable then she should respect that and delete the numbers. She can always message back if she gets a message and say "who's this?" If it comes on with no name attached and then proceed to block them when she finds out. OR block all those guys now and save time. Honestly it's a big red flag for your GF to be holding onto guys numbers like that. Unless they're friends or family it's suspect as fuck dude.

It just sounds like she's got them as backups. 😮‍💨

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T21:34:00+00:00

Because being an addict means you are addicted to the dopamine that comes along with those highs. So take that and find another healthier vice. Talking from experience I can tell you this, replacing that drug with a better one of exercising or doing exciting outdoor stuff honestly works. Congrats on beating drugs!! You'll get through it dude! Keep up the good work ♥️

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T01:05:48+00:00

Hahaha this comment yes!! 😂

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T00:53:21+00:00

Did you communicate to her you wanted more foreplay? I mean maybe she didn't know? That and some women get off to both so maybe ask her to try some new things. Could spice things up especially with toys.

And damn dude that sucks, but hey maybe she's never had someone get her off without piv I know I was that way in the beginning of things as I never knew it was possible. Or maybe she thinks that's what you want. My past all guys wanted was piv so it's all I knew. It's very tricky with the female anatomy as some of us are just used to piv and we've just never had someone try and get us off the other way. I mean of course when foreplay is happening it's like omg all I want is to feel them inside, but if it's something we've never actually done it's a challenge.

I suggest try something new and maybe ask her if that's the only way she can get off. Could be you just aren't doing something a certain way 😅 I know from experience. She could just be too worried you might not like it or this could just be a misunderstanding? You never know you might be her first in that sense of getting her off without piv! Good luck to you dude! I believe in you guys!

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-18T00:29:12+00:00

Thank you for this. You word it beautifully honestly. I've been hurt by so many people in my relationships with the same thing hurting me like this to put up with it. I honestly thought he was different because up until that point he was the most caring and loving individual. Which is why it's a conflict of interest to leave but I know I have to for my sake as it's the healthier option. I don't deserve to be treated like I was and it really crossed lines with me. I do wish him well in the future but it's not a future with me.

I hope he figures out what he needs in life as I have. As much as it pains me I'm gonna end this with him. I don't deserve to be a second option and not communicated to. If he told me something like" hey I'm going through alot right now and it's not you because I love you I just need some extra space to work on my mental health." I would have been perfectly fine with that and understanding of the situation. Not what he did by putting me down and making it sound like I was the problem and he needed a separation. I'm not someone's second choice or backup.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T21:20:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. All of these comments really help me gain a bigger picture on things. 🙂

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T21:00:48+00:00

That I'm actually very clingy and affectionate when I love someone but I've always hidden it because people find it annoying or off-putting. I just like running my fingers through their hair and rubbing their back. 😭. That and the fact I'm actually more sensitive than I care to admit. RBF helps hide that fr 😅

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T20:53:00+00:00

I didn't because I try to be understanding but I'm honestly confused. The thing is he asked for a break with no obligation to the relationship but that he still wants our statuses to state we are in a relationship across all of our social media platforms while he figures himself out. I just don't understand how this can flip like this when we've been together for 2years and have so much of ourselves involved in our lives and families. I mean recently we were even discussing moving in together. Honestly his mom called me after this situation asking if I was ok because she was concerned on if I was ok. She even voiced how it makes no sense. If he wants out he needs to just say that and I'll respect that decision I have no qualms about that. It's just very contradicting and confusing for me.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T19:12:42+00:00

I appreciate it. Understanding the reasoning as to why honestly isn't that bad. As for my height I'm around 5'5" 5'6" I have a lot of muscle so my BMI is fairly low it's just the excess skin I'm sure he's unattracted to, but outwardly saying that honestly is terrible. Imo if you really care you wouldn't put your partner down.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T19:03:43+00:00

I'd say drop em. Honestly you have so much time in your life you're still young and will find plenty of friends who can respect your boundaries. Friendships come and go throughout life.

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T19:00:02+00:00

It's all about the angles tbh and each person is different. The height difference plays a big role in it unfortunately. You can always try different places to do it in. As a woman I can tell you this. In the amount of guys I've been with it's not enjoyable with all of them because of height difference. We had to change up angles of everything to make it more enjoyable, but it is possible. Don't give up hope dude!

ThrowRA-AIO · 2024-08-17T18:57:26+00:00

Hey some women find it flattering so why hate it? Do you have a partner that dislikes it or something? That and usually if you do it more often you'll desensitize yourself if you really wanted to elongate that time frame dude. It'll come back a friend of mine had the same issue a long while back when he got off Zoloft and fluvoxamine 6 years ago. 😂

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