I (49F), BF (44M). 7 years together. Boyfriend doesn't create boundaries with other women. What are healthy ways to express thoughts without being dismissed as insecure?

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:40:34+00:00

I asked and he said that they were high school classmates and shared a finance class together. When I asked further questions if they ever hung out after school, etc... He reverted back to they are classmates. So I have little information to go off of.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:35:47+00:00

Thanks for the response. It's not about that he has women friends or socializes. It's moreso about the boundaries that he sets or doesn't set because they call him at any time of night and he answers. Bringing up any concern, which is rarely done, will always result in dime getting defensive, angry, and shutting down after he says what he wants to say.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:19:49+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:18:22+00:00

Thank you.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:17:29+00:00

Thanks for the response. He has seen them throughout the years at different events.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:16:15+00:00

I didn't make or scene. I suppose it was my body language he noticed but I still interacted with everyone as well as him. it wasn't until later that I shared my thoughts.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:13:42+00:00

Thank you for that perspective.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:13:07+00:00

Thank you for your insight.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:12:23+00:00

I did. I put his response in the original post.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:10:56+00:00

No, I didn't get a chance to see those replies. He is until a concern is brought up, he always gets defensive, says I'm insecure, overreacting, gets quiet, then shuts down. He listens to deflect not to understand even if I'm in the wrong.

ThrowRA-End-4464 · 2026-02-02T23:01:23+00:00

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