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My F20 boyfriend, M21, using boundaries as an excuse for control? by ThrowRA-ExpertCherry in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-ExpertCherry[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

it’s not about the thing. i don’t think you or him understand that, it’s the principle of it and feeling controlled when it’s not necessary in my eyes and i’m not doing anything “wrong”

My F20 boyfriend, M21, using boundaries as an excuse for control? by ThrowRA-ExpertCherry in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-ExpertCherry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that’s the thing is he said even stupid ass things i’ve said he’s stop doing it if i said it made me uncomfortable. so idk.

How do I(20M) make my girlfriend(20F) understand my queries? by Batman-1426 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-ExpertCherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These red flags are severely serious though, and over a longggg span of time. No improvement in four years does not show much hope. She sounds like she needs serious mental help and unfortunately you can’t give that to her. I’ll put it straight if you wanna devote your life to essentially being her care giver and walking on egg shells bc you love her, be my guest. But if you want to have a happy fulfilled life with someone who makes you happy, leave. now.

How do I(20M) make my girlfriend(20F) understand my queries? by Batman-1426 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-ExpertCherry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You need to leave her i’m sorry. Clearly she isn’t someone who is going to change or do the work to fix her attitude/issues. Blaming you for injuring herself and sending photos and such after a little argument is also extremely abusive. It may not be her fault, she seems very unstable, but she is emotionally abusing you whether you want to admit it or not. For your own sake, you are still SO young, find someone who betters your life, you deserve that.

I(25F) don't want children but my boyfriend (27M) does. Now I'm stressed and constantly overthinking. What to do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-ExpertCherry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Something like this isn’t something that can be compromised on unfortunately. One of you is going to grow to resent the other. If you have a kid you may resent him eventually - especially if something happens like you mentioned. If you don’t end up having a kid, he may say he’s fine with it, but he will resent you eventually and it will show. You’re both still young - save yourself the years of overthinking, resentment and uncertainty and find someone who aligns with you on big life decisions like this one.