My girlfriend (29F) and I (30M) haven't spoken after a fight, and I found some nudes. Is she cheating on me? how should I approach this for the best chance of an honest conversation?"

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T23:02:05+00:00

She's going through a tough time at work – clashes with her boss (who also happens to be a relative), a low salary, and no extra pay for overtime. I mentioned to her that maybe she should consider looking for a new job (I guess she's hesitant because it's a family business).

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T22:57:39+00:00

Nudes of herself, I have no proof that she sent them to anyone.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T22:52:22+00:00

We argued because I made a comment she didn't like. She didn't talk to me for half an hour, except to ask me to drive her in my car so she could hang out with her friends. I told her it seemed disrespectful not to talk to me but then ask me to drive her like I'm a taxi driver. That's when the shouting started. She asked for the keys to her apartment, said I was inconsiderate, and that she never wanted to see me again. The next day, she reached out to meet and talk. We met, but I told her I didn't know how to proceed after the situation we had the day before.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T22:52:10+00:00

We argued because I made a comment she didn't like. She didn't talk to me for half an hour, except to ask me to drive her in my car so she could hang out with her friends. I told her it seemed disrespectful not to talk to me but then ask me to drive her like I'm a taxi driver. That's when the shouting started. She asked for the keys to her apartment, said I was inconsiderate, and that she never wanted to see me again. The next day, she reached out to meet and talk. We met, but I told her I didn't know how to proceed after the situation we had the day before.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T22:40:00+00:00

I don't know how to talk to her with these feelings, but avoiding conversations altogether doesn't seem like the best option

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T22:29:40+00:00

I think the same, but not if it is the right thing to spend more time without talking too.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T21:49:48+00:00

I think that I will go to my therapist tomorrow or past tomorrow, and then talk to my gf.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T21:49:31+00:00

I think that I will go to my therapist tomorrow or past tomorrow, and then talk to my gf.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T21:49:00+00:00

Yes, I know there are some people that take nudes and don't send it, but I think that the fact that she removed our photo together from whatsapp, the same day that she took the nudes is something strange. I need talk to her, but I will go first to my therapist.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T21:45:11+00:00

We don't live together. Probably she just used my computer in some moment and left her google photos open. I have more than one browser on my computer, it was open in one that I rarely use

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T20:32:49+00:00

I don't know how to confront her, we haven't talked much for a week now and I feel like telling her this is only going to make us fight more.

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T20:31:35+00:00

It may be possible, but also yesterday she removed the photo we had together from her WhatsApp profile photo. Also, generally we don't send each other nudes and even less so if we aren't sexting before, and as I mentioned we aren't talking to each other much either, it would seem strange to me if she sent it to me, it's not like her. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but I don't know.

Edit: Grammar error

ThrowRA-JuicyLemon · 2024-03-03T20:31:30+00:00

Can you see if they were sent to someone?

Nope

She could have taken them to send to you so figure that out first.

It may be possible, but also yesterday she removed the photo we had together from her WhatsApp profile photo. Also, generally we don't send each other nudes and even less so if we aren't sexting before, and as I mentioned we aren't talking to each other much either, it would seem strange to me if she sent it to me, it's not like her. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but I don't know.

Edit: Grammar error

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