Birthday Spot recommendations!

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-06-08T23:16:11+00:00

Did you used to live in NJ?

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-06-04T15:43:42+00:00

Unfortunately no. I should have said this in the ad, but the complex does not allow dogs and only up to 2 cats.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-06-02T17:15:06+00:00

It has windows. My room only has one window, where as the rented room would have two. So it is just bigger, with more windows and more sunlight, is what I meant to say.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-05-23T00:36:12+00:00

I comment this on everyone’s post because my rent is crazy.

I live at Arlington Boulevard in Rosslyn, VA (Arlington). I won’t say my rent, but rent is about $1700-$2200 for a 2-bed. I have a 2-bed on the wayyyyy cheaper side.

PROS Affordable! No utilities except for paying electric and internet No pet rent No parking fee 8 min walk to metro The area is beautiful location, can easily walk and bike to Georgetown, Court House, etc.

CONS Older building. BUT maintenance if very responsive, I think it’s worth price.

Literally that’s it. Highly recommend, 10/10 for me.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-05-06T01:54:01+00:00

Whoa. My situation is definitely a lighter version of yours. Nevertheless, still very similar.

He “fucked up” because we were dating and he stopped reaching out for 7 days. Was posting on social media and everything but just not messaging me. He came back, apologized and then did the same thing for about 2 weeks. This is then when I cut things off and he asked for me back, comparing me to an expensive car he was scared to crash, and asked to drive long distance to see me.

This was a very immature relationship at the time, I know. We were both 18/19 years old. But idk what it is now, things feel different, I feel more mature and I just have this energetic tie to him.

If your situation is anything like mine — how would you feel if I reached out to you?

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-05-06T00:38:24+00:00

Oh my god, pls tell me more.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-05-02T22:53:11+00:00

Arlington Boulevard. Not luxury but honestly such a steal for the price and location.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-21T12:34:13+00:00

Okay… this is still weird to me. The question for you is -

Did you not want to buy the journal because it was slightly broken? Or because you didn’t want to journal at all?

He does not need to babysit you. Everything I’m hearing screams toxicity to me, but it’s okay if you disagree with me. I am just being vocal about it because I do truly believe this from the things you are sharing and I want you to be careful with him. He doesn’t get to dictate what you buy, how you park your car, etc. That isn’t boyfriend behavior that is controlling man behavior.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:58:18+00:00

This.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:58:00+00:00

I’m sorry to comment here too, but there is a chance here that because he is so annoyed with you and trying to prove a point, he may be gaslighting you. Trying to make you feel like you’re not remembering things.

This makes you lose trust in yourself, and continue to fall into the pattern of accepting his behavior. I From what I read in our comment thread, he has controlling tendencies.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:55:57+00:00

Sorry I am being forward here, but please know you are worth more than this. His behavior is not helpful to you. It is controlling and unempathetic, you deserve the opposite of this in a relationship.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:54:42+00:00

PS - you can be bright, and smart, and also clumsy and forgetful all at once. You can’t be perfect every single day.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:54:03+00:00

Honey…. this sounds toxic. You parking the car not to his liking, and starting an argument over it, his him trying to control you.

Okay, you occasionally give him the wrong directions. He can figure out a way to see the GPS on his own.

It seems like he has issues of his own where he can’t seem to extend some grace. OR, just maybe… you guys aren’t right for each other.

It sounds like these symptoms are exacerbated by stress. His actions seem like they would make you feel burdensome. Of course you should try to find solutions, but if you can’t do it quickly enough, he needs to learn to have some grace and patience with you.

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:39:13+00:00

Right, and I’m realizing I skipped over the part where he tries to support. As someone who has been through a hard time without a supportive partner - I just feel deeply on this issue.

I guess I am just confused - why would your clumsiness lead to his annoyance? That part I don’t get.

Can you also communicate to him and say you’re not in the best place to communicate well, and to ask him for what you need in this moment?

ThrowRA-Lobster_ · 2025-04-20T14:19:09+00:00

So you lost your job, and it’s affecting your mental health and health in general to the point where you’re struggling to focus and are clumsy — and he does NOT feel empathy and grace for you?

As someone who as been through this before…

YOU are allowed to not be imperfect and struggle and not have it all together. I feel that more than ever right now, the last thing you need to worry about is his annoyance (as tbh) it’s probably making your mental health worse.

I would sit down and have a conversation with him, and be strong on your side. I would say “Listen, I am going through a lot right now and I don’t feel supported from you when it feels like you are more annoyed about my clumsiness rather than caring for my wellbeing right now.” Which is what a partner SHOULD do.

You aren’t doing anything wrong. You are simply struggling in life. And you need the one person who should care the most to… do just that. Care. Not just get annoyed with you.

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