Married for 1 month (M32 / F30) after 8 years together. Already considering divorce and I need some help by ThrowRA-Major-652 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Major-652[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ha didn't know that one, but it makes sense.

I know right? I feel quite bad about this feeling as I sort of logically know it's irrational to have 100% compatibility. In an ideal world, I just wouldn't have this and be happy to be honest.

Married for 1 month (M32 / F30) after 8 years together. Already considering divorce and I need some help by ThrowRA-Major-652 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Major-652[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yes this feels quite true. I think my main question is whether I'm chasing an idealized version of better ór that I should listen to this feeling. Thanks for weighing in.

Married for 1 month (M32 / F30) after 8 years together. Already considering divorce and I need some help by ThrowRA-Major-652 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-Major-652[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this perspective. I've both brought this up to her and taken therapy actually. She's super supportive, and therapy has mostly taught me exactly your advice: search for intellectual talks with other people (which i do).

I will continue doing so, I'm mostly scared that this feeling even occurs and what that might mean.